depression. ever had it?

[Lejuan]

Nothing wrong with a mail-order bride.

 

[ZE_501]

Nothing wrong with a mail-order bride.

What?s the return policy?


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[Lejuan]

What?s the return policy?

Returns accepted but buyer pays return shipping and forfeits deposit.

So pretty much the same as regular marriage.

 

[Otomofan]

Thanks for the kind words everyone.

I'm still struggling.

I don't know.....after going through this for more than two decades now, maybe it's time to seek professional help again. Therapy and pills never worked for me in the past though.

 

[ZE_501]

Thanks for the kind words everyone.

I'm still struggling.

I don't know.....after going through this for more than two decades now, maybe it's time to seek professional help again. Therapy and pills never worked for me in the past though.

Not all therapists are created equal, sometimes you need to find the right fit. And you're not the same person you were, so timing matters on your end too.

I'd also look at it as a combination of growth/evolution and management. It takes time. We're not machines that 'break' and 'get fixed', and we're not just one monolithic thing, regardless of what our egos would perceive. If you think of consciousness like a garden it's easier to visualize the complexity and interrelationships.

 

[ZE_501]

Returns accepted but buyer pays return shipping and forfeits deposit.

So pretty much the same as regular marriage.

I got hosed on my last trial period. Always read the fine print!

 

[generalszabo]

Thanks for the kind words everyone.

I'm still struggling.

I don't know.....after going through this for more than two decades now, maybe it's time to seek professional help again. Therapy and pills never worked for me in the past though.

You don't have to have pills if you don't want, cognitive behavioural therapy and mindfulness work for me

 

[JAWS]

Have suffered from crippling generalized Anxiety before which has led to depression. This all happened about 13 years ago but I still have it from time to time but never as bad as it was. Of course the Zoloft helps with that lol!!

I find that I need to find the reason for the Anxiety. Usually If I can figure out where its coming from I can focus on it and not start making things up.

Find it best to talk about it with others that have it (reassuring to know I am not the only crazy person out there lol ) and to force myself to do things even when I don't feel like it. If I can get my mind off the anxiety I usually find that I feel much better for long periods of time.

Most of the time I feel just fine. But it will pop up here and there and as I stated I have to figure out what is the underline cause. Sounds easy but sometimes you just don't realize what is making you feel the way you do.

 

[Medusoid]

Not all therapists are created equal, sometimes you need to find the right fit. And you're not the same person you were, so timing matters on your end too.

Therapy isn't some magic cure-all. Sometimes it simply doesn't work.

I was in and out of therapy for nearly 12 years trying to find answers to my symptoms. Never had any answers or found a medication that worked for me.

 

[ZE_501]

Therapy isn't some magic cure-all. Sometimes it simply doesn't work.

I was in and out of therapy for nearly 12 years trying to find answers to my symptoms. Never had any answers or found a medication that worked for me.

I?m of the opinion that for some things, there are no answers or fixes, but perspectives and strategies.



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[ShadowX81]

The biggest problem I see with a lot of us that suffer from depression is blaming that bad mood on current circumstances. "I'd be happy if only had...X".

"I'd be happy if only I was married", "I'd be happy if only I made more money", ect.

I spent a lot of my time when I was younger thinking that way. I was a depressingly shy and awkward teen who never had a date till college, yet always wanted to have a wife and family. After a series of bad relationships in my early 20s, that thinking still didn't change.
And then I did something stupid. I got married to the first girl who would say yes. A poor girl, that if im being honest, I really didn't love in the way that I should have before I made that kind of commitment. But stupidly I brought all the expectations of happiness into the marriage and found that I still wasn't happy. To make a long story short the marriage ended in disaster.

Are my life circumstances ideal? No. There are still changes i'd make if I had the chance. But its always possible to make a reasonably happy life for yourself in any circumstance (barring extreme hardship) and im focusing on doing just that. I still have hopes of marrying and having kids some day, but in the mean time im living my life, being happy, and making sure im ready for when the opportunity arises.

 

[SilverStar17]

Great advice. Agree 100%.

Unfortunately, not everyone is this introspective. They’d rather blame others or things for their problems, be nihilistic, shut themselves out from the rest of the world and wait for things to happen as opposed to making them happen, adopt an “oh woe is me” attitude, and then they wonder why nobody wants anything to do with them. They can’t get out of their own way.

I personally don’t feel an iota of sympathy for people like that because they often try and solicit sympathy from others, which is extremely selfish. Perhaps it’s indelicate, but it is what it is.

 

[Pork Chop Express]

^^ What you mention could involve something more than just depression. Anger, for instance with trauma mixed in there. That could take years to move past.

 

[a-dev]

No pretense with that account. Just straight in

 

[hoodonit00]

No pretense with that account. Just straight in

No lube or nothing.

 

[a-dev]

In a way I appreciated that more.

 

[balakhatoon]

Types of Depression
Major Depression.
Persistent Depressive Disorder.
Bipolar Disorder.
Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
Psychotic Depression.
Peripartum (Postpartum) Depression.
Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD)
'Situational' Depression.

 

[Monique Panetier]

La depression est, bien entendu, un probleme difficile. Je pense que tout le monde a rencontre cela tot ou tard. Chacun a ses propres methodes de traitement, mais je peux certainement dire que vous devez consulter un medecin - un psychotherapeute et un psychologue. Et apres tout cela, repoussez et resolvez le probleme. Personnellement, rencontrer d'autres personnes m'a aide.

 

[hoodonit00]

La depression est, bien entendu, un probleme difficile. Je pense que tout le monde a rencontre cela tot ou tard. Chacun a ses propres methodes de traitement, mais je peux certainement dire que vous devez consulter un medecin - un psychotherapeute et un psychologue. Et apres tout cela, repoussez et resolvez le probleme. Personnellement, rencontrer d'autres personnes m'a aide.

Excellent, we now have French spam! I?m sure we have some French Freaks. What is she posting?

 

[Solidus]

So much spammila in this board now...