Friends after the break up??

[creature4000]

Ex's are Ex's for a reason... you can not still be friends and expect your new GF/ women friends to understand.

As long as your single it's fine.. but mark my words things will get crazy once you start dating someone else on one or both sides of the fence. Stay in touch but move on and leave her where you should leave all ex's... in the past!

 

[Darth Loki]

Mean no disrespect to anybody on the boards, that's just how I feel about the subject.

You're only ex is your right hand and she'll always be there for you

 

[galactiboy]

Exes are a whole 'nuther ball game. I CAN insist that my significant other not associate with an ex. And he has that same right to insist for me.

If you guys have agreed on that then I think its great, but not everyone would feel the same way. My wife and I have never agreed that it would be an okay restriction to place on one another. We both trust each other (not saying you don't) and agreed not to restrict each other... but in a similar vain I can't stand one of her ex's and I will not hang out with him and she does not press the point.

So I guess I'm saying its important for both parties to be on the same page about an issue like this, or it will crop up time and time again and can get messy. I also agree its okay to place restrictions if it can threaten a family due to legal issues... no hanging out with murders!

 

[Vader AL]

Ex's are Ex's for a reason... you can not still be friends and expect your new GF/ women friends to understand.

As long as your single it's fine.. but mark my words things will get crazy once you start dating someone else on one or both sides of the fence. Stay in touch but move on and leave her where you should leave all ex's... in the past!

i agree. why do you need the ex as a "friend". unless it is the only friend someone has but then that's a whole different issue.

 

[Khev]

After my wife and I realized that we were meant to be we each called up our respective ex's that we had stayed in contact with and told them individually that we were engaged and that we could no longer be friends. We decided there just wasn't any need for either of us to keep in contact with old flames and risk even the slightest chance of any issues whatsoever. A great decision that we made years ago and our lives are far from incomplete without those old "friendships."

 

[mr.thrifty]

no.no.no. if you can be great friends "after" the break up. what fu^$ed it up to start with? that is what needs to be seen. man+woman+getting along great= good loving!

 

[jaffakitkat]

Chiming in with another female perspective here. Speaking from my own experience, it's definitely possible to stay friends with an ex. Everyone's different and I doubt it would work for everyone, but it is possible. I'm still good friends with the ex who was my first serious relationship, even though we broke up over eight years ago, after being together for three. There was a little awkwardness at first, but it's long past. He's a good guy and I care about him a lot, although there's no way in hell I'd ever want to be in a relationship with him again.

We usually hang out once a week these days. He helped me move when I bought a house last year, I helped him and his partner paint their house when they were building, and so on. We're friends, and it's just nice and comfortable. He's also still friends with the ex before me, which I was always fine with when we were together, and I'm still friendly with her myself. Yeah, we're weird, but it's all good.

 

[mr.thrifty]

"I helped him and his "partner".... so he is gay? a hole nother thread. not that there's anything wrong with that.

 

[jaffakitkat]

"I helped him and his "partner".... so he is gay? a hole nother thread. not that there's anything wrong with that.

Heh. Nope, his partner's a woman. They're just not married. Been together for ages, though, so I'm pretty sure they'd count as legally de facto by now.

 

[El Roranous]

Usually the best friends one can ever have in life are the ones that have seen you naked...both literally and figuratively.

My GF gets jealous when I talk with my past girlfriends but she trusts me. I think it's important to live your life and not let anyone or anything hold you back. Who knows what you are missing out on if you exclude people from your life. Not only that but it's really rude.

On another note, all this jealousy is a result of being insecure. It also shows that you have very little faith in your partner and their intentions. I don't tell my GF what to do and she doesn't tell me what to do- it rocks. Think about this also, what if your GF holds you back from being with the one person you were meant to be with, or with someone you have more in common with. She doesn't want you to explore what's out there because you may find out she's lame eventually.

 

[El Roranous]

Staying friends with exxx is not only recommended, its a necessity.I'm still having great sex with girls who were my girlfriends 10 years ago.The dumb move was telling your new girlfriend she was your ex.

Shai is a pimp....


ALWAYS remember kids- CONDOMS!!!!!!!

 

[tylerd]

alright so here is a serious question. do you guys think its possible for a couple to remain friends after they break up??? reason i'm asking is because i recently broke up with my girlfriend, but since we were friends for quite a while before dating we wanted to divert back to the friend status. now i recently started talking to another lady and things were going well.... until she found out that i still hung out with my ex on a regular basis (as friends none of that perverted stuff). she freaked out and said she didn't want to continue seeing me while i still kept in contact with my ex. am i asking for something that is impossible??? is the new lady overreacting??? should i just stick to my comics and video games???

the only way a couple can remain friends is if there is a kid involved. somewhere down the line, you'll have a problem with your ex, related to either your relationship with her or someone else.

as far as the new girlfriend. she has low self esteem if you truthfully tell her that you and your ex are still 'just friends' and she remains jealous.

btw, comics and video games don't love you up, but they're less expensive.

 

[IrishJedi]

Staying friends with exxx is not only recommended, its a necessity.I'm still having great sex with girls who were my girlfriends 10 years ago.The dumb move was telling your new girlfriend she was your ex.

The Great Worm has spoken.

 

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