Im not judging you dude, i just stated my opinion of the situation. i can see sam trying to amend the situation but you keep pushing her against the wall.
If youre worried about your rep, why did you even make this out to be such a big deal? Im an outsider, i can't even attend your guys' get-together but from my observation of everything here, I didnt see Ill or Sam disrespecting you by trying to actually get something SOLID as to a time and place for the shindig. Imo that is a GREAT thing....what was the main point of your idea? To get people together to meet up right? If that is really the main reason, then who gives a ^^^^ who plans it out or whatever?
Speaking for myself, my first thoughts when reading your post was "wow where did this come from?". take that as you wish.