Quit collecting, again... ??

[IronZilmad]

Hi guys,

Planning to write my life but I'll ask a simple question.

How do you combine your collecting frenzy and your social life (wife, family, bills) ?

I'm about to quit collecting for a second time and I need some backup...

Thanks.

 

[EVILFACE]

What exactly is the issue?

Wife? Should be understanding of something you enjoy.

Family? It's a hobby. You can include them in something you enjoy, or just do it on your own time.

Bills? A man's gotta know his limitations.

 

[IronZilmad]

What exactly is the issue?

Wife? Should be understanding of something you enjoy.

Family? It's a hobby. You can include them in something you enjoy, or just do it on your own time.

Bills? A man's gotta know his limitations.

Thanks for your answer.

Problem is, my girlfriend, even if she try to accept my hobby, can't understand it. And we share almost everything so it's hard for me to be misunderstood.

I have no issues with my families as I didn't have too much of them near to me these times.

As bills, you point a critical problem as my only limitations in the past were myself.

Maybe I miss some friends to support me sometimes and need to go out lol. Thanks to you.

 

[crows]

why did u quit the first time?

 

[Collectorcol]

Not quitting but losing interest.

Got a pretty full room that I'm happy with and prices be crazy.
Takes something special to tempt me now, like the CP P2 Bust.

Sold around £800 worth over the weekend and not even tempted to order anything new atm.

 

[RavenEye]

10 yen says it his GF.

 

[The Ween]

If your girlfriend has a problem with it, and money isn't an issue, then you need to rethink the relationship. You had the hobby before you met her, she knew it, so.....there shouldn't be a problem. I'm honestly so flabbergasted when this issue comes up.

Now if you two are living together and it's causing a problem financially, then that's a whole different thing.

 

[IronZilmad]

why did u quit the first time?

Well, I realise I went too far... I take all the space in my little room very quickly, and in the same time my "social meter" was growing too. So I decided to switch my life from my room with toys to outside with new clothes, new body, etc. These figures were for me a way to grow up, when I sold my collection I "free my mind"...

Not quitting but losing interest.

Got a pretty full room that I'm happy with and prices be crazy.
Takes something special to tempt me now, like the CP P2 Bust.

Sold around £800 worth over the weekend and not even tempted to order anything new atm.

Yeah, great idea but I prefer to buy many little figures than a big piece. Anyway it can be a solution...

If your girlfriend has a problem with it, and money isn't an issue, then you need to rethink the relationship. You had the hobby before you met her, she knew it, so.....there shouldn't be a problem. I'm honestly so flabbergasted when this issue comes up.

Now if you two are living together and it's causing a problem financially, then that's a whole different thing.

Well, I think she's not the problem, honestly... I was out of the business when I meet her, I have just one or two stuffs but nothing to compare with my preview collection. It's just, she says she can't understand my "addiction", and I think that's the problem : I'm addicted. If I can't have all of them so I don't want any of them lol.

The difference is, now I love a woman, we have some plans together, so I cannot continue to build my life around collecting my childhood heroes...

Ah, it's so nice to write all that stuff even so it's not my first language, sorry guys, thanks for your answers.

I think I should rename my topic and ask : how do you center your collection... I buy what I found cool, I have my favorites but I can resist a nice piece...

 

[Mr. Green]

Sounds like you should ditch your collection then. Don't get attach to objects but at the same time, don't get too attach to her. Breakup can be nasty, ask RavenEye, LOL.

 

[Mad Old Lu]

If it’s truly an addiction then you should give it up. It’s just not healthy to feed an addiction no matter how harmless it is.

If you think you can get it under control and just collect a few pieces a year, then invest money into some classy, high-end display cabinets with doors to make your collection look more “grown-up”. It also helps if the pieces are all adequately spaced apart so each piece has its own space—it makes it all look less cluttery. It will make your collection more acceptable to your girlfriend because it won’t look like a little kid’s room.

Just really ask yourself the difficult questions before you buy anything. Do you REALLY want this figure because it means something special to you personally, or do you want it just because it looks cool?

 

[crows]

Sounds like you should ditch your collection then. Don't get attach to objects but at the same time, don't get too attach to her. Breakup can be nasty, ask RavenEye, LOL.

 

[RavenEye]

Ask me?

My ex was bipolar and used me, technically speaking I'm not looking to get married now till I'm financially stable with a house and my own needs meet. A girl in my life will turn up eventually in the process, but I'm done with investing in someone without completely seeing who they truly are. Basically I trusted to much, so now I have key things to look for.