It only takes one time, to be royally screwed over in a divorce proceedings, to see why. Doesn't excuse this behaviour, but it does exacerbate it. Prevention is said to be better than the cure. There really is no cure for this, but it could have been prevented. One day it might become mandatory to have councilling before, during, and after, heading down the path of divorce. The laws suck, and to be told your responsible for your own behaviour, when the laws are unjust, can be like a red rag to a bull.