As a side note, cinema in general is dead. I can honestly say we will never see films like days past (especially the great 1970 through 1990 boom of grear films).
Even my kids like the films of that era much more than modern stuff.
I have to disagree as well. It's just the age-old discussion about how things were "in my day". To your parents, movies were probably better in their youth, just like how you said the movies from our youth are better than what's out there now. Surprised that your kids feel the same way as you, but most other kids would probably say the opposite--that movies back then were boring and movies today are much better. Same thing with modern pop music. Sure, there are some kids that are into retro music and will like Zeppelin, the Beatles, etc., but most will like what's out today, and likewise we older folk will say that music was better when we were growing up.
My wife and I started watching an "old" TV show on Amazon called The Guardian with Simon Baker (of the Mentalist fame) and it looks SO dated. And it's really not that old--2002. Actually, yes, that's pretty old. But my point is that things tend to age, whether we notice or not. Sometimes it's obvious things like the clothes and hairstyles. Sometimes it's more subtle, like the pacing, or the music cues, or even the film stock and camera moves. We can watch something like The Terminator 1 and 2 and never notice some of the more subtle elements that date the movies, mostly because we're settling in to a familiar viewing experience where we can practically recite the movie. But to someone young who has never seen it before, they will notice that the pacing is odd or slow, and the film stock is grainy (since all movies are digital now).
It's all to do with your personal perspective. Honestly, that's really what's at the heart of people disliking the new sequels. Like you said, these new movies will never make you feel how you felt when you were 8-12 and first watched SW and other favorites. Even well into your teens and twenties and even maybe 30s. Nostalgia is powerful.
The best thing to do is to just let it all go and go in to a movie with an open mind and a willingness to have a good time. I've done that and I've been enjoying the hell out of current movies, especially the Marvel and SW movies. My main criteria is whether the characters are compelling and interesting, and whether there are no ridiculously huge plot holes that I can't ignore. I've watched so many movies throughout my life that I realize there are cliches and tropes and formulas everywhere, even in the best of films. Just because I didn't spot them when I was young, doesn't mean they weren't in those movies of my youth. People will bend over backwards to justify that plot holes and cliches weren't as bad or not even there at all in those old movies, but the truth is that it was because we simply weren't sophisticated enough to recognize them at that young age. And that's also probably why older generations scoffed at movies from our youth and stated that their movies were better.
Just a quick note: xipotec, sorry if this seems like I'm piling up on you. On the contrary, I just wanted to expand the conversation and took your post as a starting point since I agree with much of it.