What is the major malfunction with women today?!?!?!

[Frank]

Well for one thing, nice guys don't **** like animals so when a **** wants to come out and play, she will inevitably go for someone she thinks will. Then again nice guys tend to not be very honest with themselves when it comes to the kinds of girls they are attracted to. Might as well decide to be an ******* for awhile!

 

[crows]

You know, there are plenty of wonderful women out there who don't give a flying crap what a man drives. Not all of us want fancy gifts or dinners either. A movie and pizza would be a fun date for me. The economy is in the crapper. I don't expect a diamond ring and $100 steak on our first date. Or our 10th for that matter. I don't WANT them, period.

I've seen countless nice guys, many of them my friends, who pursued women with truly nasty personalities just because of their faces and bodies. I'll never forget this total sweetheart of a guy who was dumped at a high school dance by his girlfriend. I remember a bunch of us sitting with him in the corner of the gym...he was so upset he was crying. And this was a friendly guy - handsome too. He could have had his pick of the girls at our school. So a few weeks after she dumped him, they're back together. Why? She told him if he bought her a designer purse, she'd go out with him again. I remember her crowing about it in math class. He tied himself to this piece of work largely because she was smoking hot.

I feel like a lot of men pursue women for the wrong reasons. Both women and men can be insanely shallow and stupid when it comes to picking a mate.

Bottom line is, if you buy into that whole "ermahgerd womens r so confusing and complex I dont understand they r so illogical111" business, you really need to look at how you're choosing girlfriends. Because frankly, you're doing it wrong. We're not all hormonal, money-hungry creatures. Some of us are just dying to find a nice, normal guy who loves us and has similar interests. That's it.

Well I am glad to read your (And Ween's) post. And I am glad to read that not all girls are like that. I guess I have terrible luck at finding anyone that is nice like that.

I don't even go for the knock outs. They are out of my league and I feel uncomfortable with girls that are too hot anyways.
I guess I am really bad at finding anyone that is a cool person.

One thing I will say is that, sometimes girls like the one you described are easier to hit on, so I guess that's why guys go for that. Cool chicks are a little harder to get to know and to ask out.

 

[crows]

I knew women were hard to understand, but I found out this weekend just how much they are ****ed. I've been hanging around with my neighbor for about a year, on average 2 days a week not including the times she'd invite me over for get-togethers with her friends or to do something with her and her kids. Her last relationship was over a year ago and she got screwed over with a bf that cheated on her constantly, so I've heard constantly how men are idiots and that they should all be like me cause I treat women well and I'm a nice guy. Every time I mention something would look nice on her (hair style, something clothes wise, etc) she'd show up the next day with that. Every time she'd hear I was out on a date or she wouldn't hear from me for a few days, you'd be sure I'd get a call inquiring and wanting to get together. Her friends have been thinking something has been going on with us for a while (they supposedly "saw" things between us). This girl is like a soccer mom and has told me on several occasions that she will not have sex with someone that is not her bf or have one night stands. So, 2 weeks ago we are drinking wine and having a good time and we happen to sleep together. Since then things have pretty much stayed the same with no weird interaction. I've been independent and no woman has been able to have me settle down since I've been divorced 7 years ago. I had no interest until now. This weekend we were chatting and I thought I'd do the right thing and talk about where this thing is going, maybe even a relationship of some kind since she already said that sex was out if she didn't have a bf. Her response.........too busy to have a bf and she's terrified of commitments So OP, don't even try to understand women since they have no idea what they want. I never want to hear a woman ever complain that there are just a-holes for men out there ever again!

This story reminds me or something that happened, something I heard from a girl as well...



years ago I was working and there was this girl I knew, we were friends and she was pretty friendly with me, she would hug me a lot and get really happy and excited whenever she saw me. I wanted to get to know her better so I didn't ask her out right way.

one of the other guys I talked to noticed how she acted around me and he asked her if she liked me, (I didn't ask him to do this, he just did) and she was like "no we are just friends, he is my very good friend" I was like, okay...whatever, maybe she doesn't want the other guy to know or something.
then, some weeks later, a couple of people were talking with her about sleeping on the first date and things like that, I wasn't really paying attention but I could hear them while eating lunch, She goes and says that she hates the idea of sleeping around, and that she only sleeps with a guy she has been dating for a couple of months at least. She said she never slept around.
I didn't really care about her , so I didn't pay much attention. She acted like she liked me but she said I Was just her good friend. I didn't really care.

Then like a month later I learned that she slept with 3 different guys from other departments and that if a guy asked her out, she probably sleeps with the guy. I was like, wtf lol

I really didn't understand any of it, why act like she was into me but then she didn't like me, That is crap that was done when I was like in 5th grade. I thought she would act like an adult.
And I didn't understand her views on sleeping around when she slept around. You could say she didn't wanted to appear as easy, but everyone knew after the guys talked about her.
it really made no sense to me. I think I was glad I didn't even ask her out because her behavior was so weird.

 

[The Ween]

You know, there are plenty of wonderful women out there who don't give a flying crap what a man drives. Not all of us want fancy gifts or dinners either. A movie and pizza would be a fun date for me. The economy is in the crapper. I don't expect a diamond ring and $100 steak on our first date. Or our 10th for that matter. I don't WANT them, period.

I've seen countless nice guys, many of them my friends, who pursued women with truly nasty personalities just because of their faces and bodies. I'll never forget this total sweetheart of a guy who was dumped at a high school dance by his girlfriend. I remember a bunch of us sitting with him in the corner of the gym...he was so upset he was crying. And this was a friendly guy - handsome too. He could have had his pick of the girls at our school. So a few weeks after she dumped him, they're back together. Why? She told him if he bought her a designer purse, she'd go out with him again. I remember her crowing about it in math class. He tied himself to this piece of work largely because she was smoking hot.

I feel like a lot of men pursue women for the wrong reasons. Both women and men can be insanely shallow and stupid when it comes to picking a mate.

Bottom line is, if you buy into that whole "ermahgerd womens r so confusing and complex I dont understand they r so illogical111" business, you really need to look at how you're choosing girlfriends. Because frankly, you're doing it wrong. We're not all hormonal, money-hungry creatures. Some of us are just dying to find a nice, normal guy who loves us and has similar interests. That's it.

Amen sista! Shine the light on these boys!

 

[The Ween]

A woman wants a "nice" guy but once she's presented with one, she doesn't know what the **** to do with him. Not enough drama for them

Women could say the same thing about men as well.

You guys just haven't found the one is all. People are too different to stereotype into a one size fits all scenario.

 

[The Ween]

This story reminds me or something that happened, something I heard from a girl as well...



years ago I was working and there was this girl I knew, we were friends and she was pretty friendly with me, she would hug me a lot and get really happy and excited whenever she saw me. I wanted to get to know her better so I didn't ask her out right way.

one of the other guys I talked to noticed how she acted around me and he asked her if she liked me, (I didn't ask him to do this, he just did) and she was like "no we are just friends, he is my very good friend" I was like, okay...whatever, maybe she doesn't want the other guy to know or something.
then, some weeks later, a couple of people were talking with her about sleeping on the first date and things like that, I wasn't really paying attention but I could hear them while eating lunch, She goes and says that she hates the idea of sleeping around, and that she only sleeps with a guy she has been dating for a couple of months at least. She said she never slept around.
I didn't really care about her , so I didn't pay much attention. She acted like she liked me but she said I Was just her good friend. I didn't really care.

Then like a month later I learned that she slept with 3 different guys from other departments and that if a guy asked her out, she probably sleeps with the guy. I was like, wtf lol

I really didn't understand any of it, why act like she was into me but then she didn't like me, That is crap that was done when I was like in 5th grade. I thought she would act like an adult.
And I didn't understand her views on sleeping around when she slept around. You could say she didn't wanted to appear as easy, but everyone knew after the guys talked about her.
it really made no sense to me. I think I was glad I didn't even ask her out because her behavior was so weird.

Stop believing office gossip. It's usually wrong.

 

[toylion]

Stop believing office gossip. It's usually wrong.

Exactly, guys brag they got some even if they didn't.

 

[Gates70]

Well I am glad to read your (And Ween's) post. And I am glad to read that not all girls are like that. I guess I have terrible luck at finding anyone that is nice like that.

I don't even go for the knock outs. They are out of my league and I feel uncomfortable with girls that are too hot anyways.
I guess I am really bad at finding anyone that is a cool person.

One thing I will say is that, sometimes girls like the one you described are easier to hit on, so I guess that's why guys go for that. Cool chicks are a little harder to get to know and to ask out.

Don't believe Ween, she's a woman! I have enough experience to know that the way Ween describes herself is not the norm. She seems very sweet but I've dated plenty and it's not like that.

This story reminds me or something that happened, something I heard from a girl as well...



years ago I was working and there was this girl I knew, we were friends and she was pretty friendly with me, she would hug me a lot and get really happy and excited whenever she saw me. I wanted to get to know her better so I didn't ask her out right way.

one of the other guys I talked to noticed how she acted around me and he asked her if she liked me, (I didn't ask him to do this, he just did) and she was like "no we are just friends, he is my very good friend" I was like, okay...whatever, maybe she doesn't want the other guy to know or something.
then, some weeks later, a couple of people were talking with her about sleeping on the first date and things like that, I wasn't really paying attention but I could hear them while eating lunch, She goes and says that she hates the idea of sleeping around, and that she only sleeps with a guy she has been dating for a couple of months at least. She said she never slept around.
I didn't really care about her , so I didn't pay much attention. She acted like she liked me but she said I Was just her good friend. I didn't really care.

Then like a month later I learned that she slept with 3 different guys from other departments and that if a guy asked her out, she probably sleeps with the guy. I was like, wtf lol

I really didn't understand any of it, why act like she was into me but then she didn't like me, That is crap that was done when I was like in 5th grade. I thought she would act like an adult.
And I didn't understand her views on sleeping around when she slept around. You could say she didn't wanted to appear as easy, but everyone knew after the guys talked about her.
it really made no sense to me. I think I was glad I didn't even ask her out because her behavior was so weird.

The girl sounds like a lot of others I've known. They act a certain way around you cause they adapt to your "nice guy" ways. I've known quite a few like that and as you say, were hobags when you weren't around. Or in this case it might also be what Ween is saying and the guys were just blowing smoke...but if 3 of them were talking about it, hmmmm....

Women could say the same thing about men as well.

You guys just haven't found the one is all. People are too different to stereotype into a one size fits all scenario.

I was with the same one for 20 years. Guess how that ended ?...cheating *****

 

[The Ween]

Well, I honestly don't know what else to say other than good luck. Sorry that women treat you guys like ****. Maybe you should just stay single so you won't be so miserable.

Lion and I are headed to the drive in!

 

[Gates70]

Well, I honestly don't know what else to say other than good luck. Sorry that women treat you guys like ****. Maybe you should just stay single so you won't be so miserable.

Lion and I are headed to the drive in!

I've been single for 7 years since my divorce. I used to not care and just date to date...now I had finally found one that I can really connect with. That's why I'm kinda bummed about it, but oh well, back to dating every skank out there Have fun at the drive-in!

 

[crows]

Exactly, guys brag they got some even if they didn't.

Don't believe Ween, she's a woman! I have enough experience to know that the way Ween describes herself is not the norm. She seems very sweet but I've dated plenty and it's not like that.



The girl sounds like a lot of others I've known. They act a certain way around you cause they adapt to your "nice guy" ways. I've known quite a few like that and as you say, were hobags when you weren't around. Or in this case it might also be what Ween is saying and the guys were just blowing smoke...but if 3 of them were talking about it, hmmmm....



I was with the same one for 20 years. Guess how that ended ?...cheating *****

about the guys blowing smoke and bragging, I do not think it was just gossip, The girl never denied it even after she knew the guys were talking around. And I remember seeing the girl leaving at night with one of them even after they were bragging, so Even if he was lying, I am sure that night he got lucky lol.

And, what Gates70 said about acting nice around you and becoming hobags when you are not there that's pretty much what happened lol. It was odd to me because I had not experience a woman doing that.

her behavior was just weird. playing games, having negative opinions about hooking up and acting differently with me, It kept me thinking, Why bother? why be like that? Reminded me of High school really. I really didn't like that about her personality. I really don't think I could date someone like her.

 

[Lejuan]

I wonder where all you unlucky-in-love guys are finding these losers... in my experience the best place to start is through doing something you enjoy. Take a cooking class. Join a film group or book club. Even on-line dating can filter out a lot of women you know won't be compatible.

Slytherin is right - you're doing it wrong.

 

[Gates70]

I wonder where all you unlucky-in-love guys are finding these losers... in my experience the best place to start is through doing something you enjoy. Take a cooking class. Join a film group or book club. Even on-line dating can filter out a lot of women you know won't be compatible.

Slytherin is right - you're doing it wrong.

It's pretty straight forward...you meet someone, you go out, get to know them, rinse and repeat. It's not rocket science

 

[crows]

I've been single for 7 years since my divorce. I used to not care and just date to date...now I had finally found one that I can really connect with. That's why I'm kinda bummed about it, but oh well, back to dating every skank out there Have fun at the drive-in!

I have been single for more than 5 years. (I wont say how long lol)

but I have had 4 hook ups, and I hooked up with an ex girlfriend 3 times.

It was all about being at the right place at the right time. I was lucky I guess.
But I have not dated someone for a long time.

I wonder where all you unlucky-in-love guys are finding these losers... in my experience the best place to start is through doing something you enjoy. Take a cooking class. Join a film group or book club. Even on-line dating can filter out a lot of women you know won't be compatible.

Slytherin is right - you're doing it wrong.

work, Gym, School, I don't know, I never go to clubs, and I dont do dating online which is what a lot of people do most of the time.

I wish it worked online, but dating websites Sucked for me. People just want to make fun of you or mess with you, and the cool girls get like 50 messages a day... there are a lot of desperate guys trying to sleep with anyone lol

I think something I hate is that, what I just said. Sometimes too many guys are talking to the same girl, And I understand everyone is on the game, but I really don't know how girls do it.

 

[Lumos]

Gentlemen, please to be watching this video. For realsies. Watch it. Note that she swears (so it's ****).

[ame="https://youtu.be/3VXXXX9iVPI"]Click me! [/ame]

 

[devilof76]

She's wicked smaht.

 

[The Ween]

She's wicked smaht.

She sure is! I bet she has The Hoppa!

 

[a-dev]

I found the editing of that video rather annoying. I think she makes sense though. My fiancée didn't want out of our relationship because I am too nice, that she said I was 'the nicest man' is incidental really. Basically what the girl in the video said, she wanted out because she realised we had too little in common anymore, if we ever had enough to begin with. And she knew I was pretty happy where I was and she wasn't really.

However, I recently read in an advice column in a lads mag - the expert being Kezia Noble who specialises in female perspective truths (some of them harsh) - that a girl saying you are nice is her 'nice' way of saying you're rather boring. Perhaps I internally embellished that with inferences that weren't intended - that if she doesn't want a 'nice' guy it must mean she wants some bad boy (who'll probably cheat on her anyway)

 

[devilof76]

It's just a matter of priorities. Lots of people are nice, and even more people will act nice if they aren't because they know people will write them off immediately if they're blatantly mean. Niceness is not the best standard by which to judge a lover.

Would anyone expect a girl to say, "Well, I guess I should **** him. After all, he has a job."

 

[devilof76]

She sure is! I bet she has The Hoppa!

You know she does. And I bet she only uses her cell phone for texting because she doesn't want microwaves to fry her brain.