You know it sucks to be disabled!!

[Dollmanron]

You know it sucks to be disabled!! A lot of people think that disabled people make a killing off the government and kick back on food stamps and all kinds of government assistance, and that we’re just lazy and don’t want to work. Well; people like me don’t hardly get **** for help from anyone.
Most of us don’t want a free ride and if we can work, a lot of us do, but some like me can’t even go out of the house when we’re alone, are on meds that leave me sick half the time and am basically dependent on family members for everything.
And once in awhile not trying to get any kind of pity, but just some understanding, you try to ask somebody for a break, but there are always a bunch of greedy jerks that hear what you say and just don’t give a rat’s bloody ass. I worked for 2/3 of my life and haven’t even been disabled long, but I’ve already had people on these boards and Flippers from EBay practically laugh in my face at my predicament. I’m no mentally challenged or deformed, hell; I have a college degree but, they’re not even close to what I see, hear and am treated like out in public.
It’s no wonder our country is in such pitiful shape, when everyone now is just out to make a buck, and are only thinking of themselves. If someone else were to have to live this way for a few days most would change their tune. I’m only in my forties, but I take 10+ pills in a 10 hour period a day and have half of them make me feel sick, stay shut up in the house all day if I’m alone, and only able to go outside if someone is home with me (and even then only be able to go just so far). Only be able to go somewhere away from home if someone takes me (because I’ve lost the ability to drive), have to practically hold on to them the entire time and have very little money even if I do leave home. Not be able to sleep unless I down a handful of pills and even then only am able to sleep for a couple of hours a day. (Why else do you think I’m up on these boards in 4:50am in the morning?)I’m not the only one; they’re people worse off them me who have to take more Meds and can’t even do as much.
I do without some many things I need just to have something’s I want, but it’s the only way to make life tolerable. I’m just so sick of offering someone a best offer (what I think is fair), just to have some greedy *a*t*r* counter offer me for only .99 less. What was the point of even putting “BEST OFFER” on your auction?
I would love to go to one of these huge Conventions (if I could manage to afford it) to get some of those rare exclusive, but I’d have to medicate myself so much to be able to handle the stress of the crowd, the noise, the usual rude a** hole person, I wouldn’t be able to walk.
So it burns me how even when I try to explain something to a seller; they just don’t care. And that’s it, the majority of people don’t care about people with disabilities (who are also having finically problems). “It’s just I’m glad it’s not me”, or “you snooze you lose” Well, I sadly thought the same at one time and now I know better. I just which more people could learn how it is and maybe people in American could start caring about others instead of only caring about themselves and how much money they can make.
So there’s my rant, flame me, curse me, ignore me, or kick me off the boards. Nothing could be done to me to make my life any worse than it is.

 

[EVILFACE]

Sucks man. If you don't mind me asking, what is your disability? The item you were wanting and your offer?

 

[Dollmanron]

Pm'ed you.

 

[Devil_666]

The fact that you're still able to get onto a soapbox while handicap is truly a feat. Kudos to you Dollmanron.

 

[Dollmanron]

The fact that you're still able to get onto a soapbox while handicap is truly a feat. Kudos to you Dollmanron.

Yah, my soap box is sitting on the counch, or laying flat on my back. And, here is the only soap box to get on becauce 85% of the time I'm alone. The other 15% is spent being driven to the Doctors and back.

And everyone will have to excuse my typing errors from now on, becauce of my medication it's hard to hit the right keys; or type the word I was trying to type for that matter. Thank God for "Word 2007".

 

[Devil_666]

Yah, my soap box is sitting on the counch, or laying flat on my back. And, here is the only soap box to get on becauce 85% of the time I'm alone.

You just described like 90% of this board. But none of them are handicap.

 

[Bannister]

How are any of those sellers supposed to know you are telling the truth when you say you are disabled? You know how many people make up bs stories to get a good deal or to make excuses. I had a person on ebay one time claim they couldn't pay for an item they bought from me because in the week or two I gave them to pay they said they were in the hospital and could now not afford it and they would have contacted me but couldn't because they were in the hospital. I looked at their feedback and saw they had made purchases for other stuff and received feedback for them in that same time period, so they were clearly lying to me. I am not saying you are doing that, but how is anybody really to know. Granted I would never respond with a rude comment towards someone who was claiming they had a disability in that situation, even if I thought they weren't being truthful, I would just ignore it and move on.

 

[Dollmanron]

Aye, I guess I’m not disabled. Those four drugs I buy from the pharmacist every month are just for recreational use. And I guess my wife’s has been driving my car to work for the last four months because she couldn’t mow the grass growing under it, plus it has a better air conditioner. Besides I stopped being able to drive these last four months anyway.

I like going to my counselor once a week because I’m hoping to have an affair with her. Who cares if my wife is sitting beside me; she only has to get off work early every week to take me there. It must just be in my head all this stuff about wanting to hang myself, heck my wife hardly noticed the rope burns around my neck. She’s learning to not notice a lot of things, she gets so much rest now, she has the bed all to herself because I can’t sleep at night; just 2 or 3 hours during the day. And those drugs have some interesting benefits, in the bed I never have to perform any extracurricular activities anymore. Little Dollman needed a break anyway.

I was happy to lose my $1,000 to $1,500 bi-weekly net checks for this weekly $246.35 disability check the companies insurance is paying me now; I get to pay less tax that way. I don’t answer the phone, go outside, rarely leave the house or go shopping because it’s just so hot outside. I cry, feel fearful, panic, hide, cling to my wife and son and pass out because I’m pretending I’m watching a Horror movie (my life) when there’s nothing on T.V.(which I don’t watch it anyway). When that’s not enough the Rescue Squad rides to the hospital, the needles in my hands and arms, and the tranquilizers they give me are exciting.
It doesn’t bother me a bit when my wife looks at me and cries, when my son has to help me around when I’m on all those great drugs. It’s a good thing it take hours writing a letter with WORD, it corrects all my mistakes; after all I didn’t learn much at the college that gave me that Degree. Living pay check to pay check every week is great, helps us save money. My one enjoyment in life ACTION FIGURE COLLECTING is getting close to the end, people have been trying to convince me I was too old to play with doll for years.

My pride didn’t suffer a bit when I had to go apply for food stamps the other day after working since I was 17 till now; I’d gotten plenty of practice from where I had to go to the social security office earlier and file for long term disability. It was easy, the Doctor has signed a form stated I’m no longer able to handle any of my affairs (Financial, medical, and legal) so my wife did most of everything, I just kind of sat there shaking. I knew I’d missed a pill, must have been because I ran out before one of us got a pay check; I can’t remember.

Talking a chatting her on these boards is so much easier, when I can get out I don’t have to look down at the floor as people pass by or practical knock my wife over trying to get closer to her and further for the eight year old kids that’s starting to stare.

Yep, I could go on, but its pill pooping time so I’ve got to go, I’ll probably go take a dump too, this Diarrhea from all the drugs, messes my tummy up something awful. I could get use to going, but the Hemorrhoids from do doing so much makes taking a crap a little painful.

 

[Bannister]

Aye, I guess I’m not disabled. Those four drugs I buy from the pharmacist every month are just for recreational use. And I guess my wife’s has been driving my car to work for the last four months because she couldn’t mow the grass growing under it, plus it has a better air conditioner. Besides I stopped being able to drive these last four months anyway.

I like going to my counselor once a week because I’m hoping to have an affair with her. Who cares if my wife is sitting beside me; she only has to get off work early every week to take me there. It must just be in my head all this stuff about wanting to hang myself, heck my wife hardly noticed the rope burns around my neck. She’s learning to not notice a lot of things, she gets so much rest now, she has the bed all to herself because I can’t sleep at night; just 2 or 3 hours during the day. And those drugs have some interesting benefits, in the bed I never have to perform any extracurricular activities anymore. Little Dollman needed a break anyway.

I was happy to lose my $1,000 to $1,500 bi-weekly net checks for this weekly $246.35 disability check the companies insurance is paying me now; I get to pay less tax that way. I don’t answer the phone, go outside, rarely leave the house or go shopping because it’s just so hot outside. I cry, feel fearful, panic, hide, cling to my wife and son and pass out because I’m pretending I’m watching a Horror movie (my life) when there’s nothing on T.V.(which I don’t watch it anyway). When that’s not enough the Rescue Squad rides to the hospital, the needles in my hands and arms, and the tranquilizers they give me are exciting.
It doesn’t bother me a bit when my wife looks at me and cries, when my son has to help me around when I’m on all those great drugs. It’s a good thing it take hours writing a letter with WORD, it corrects all my mistakes; after all I didn’t learn much at the college that gave me that Degree. Living pay check to pay check every week is great, helps us save money. My one enjoyment in life ACTION FIGURE COLLECTING is getting close to the end, people have been trying to convince me I was too old to play with doll for years.

My pride didn’t suffer a bit when I had to go apply for food stamps the other day after working since I was 17 till now; I’d gotten plenty of practice from where I had to go to the social security office earlier and file for long term disability. It was easy, the Doctor has signed a form stated I’m no longer able to handle any of my affairs (Financial, medical, and legal) so my wife did most of everything, I just kind of sat there shaking. I knew I’d missed a pill, must have been because I ran out before one of us got a pay check; I can’t remember.

Talking a chatting her on these boards is so much easier, when I can get out I don’t have to look down at the floor as people pass by or practical knock my wife over trying to get closer to her and further for the eight year old kids that’s starting to stare.

Yep, I could go on, but its pill pooping time so I’ve got to go, I’ll probably go take a dump too, this Diarrhea from all the drugs, messes my tummy up something awful. I could get use to going, but the Hemorrhoids from do doing so much makes taking a crap a little painful.

Where did I say you were not disabled? My point was people hear stories all the time. Just because you may be honest doesn't mean everybody is. You can be anybody you want on the internet. Maybe those sellers think you are just giving them a sob story to score a deal. That was all I was saying.

 

[batfan08]

Whoa...I don't mean to poke my nose where it doesn't belong, but if your wife does as much as it sounds like she does, why would you even say you're hoping to cheat on her with your counselor? That sounds pretty cruel, disabled or not.

 

[Cdiesel09]

^I think he was being sarcastic. I think. Some of what he wrote was comical it wasnt suppose to be though.

 

[The Craw]

hang in there buddy. stay strong for your family. that's all i can say. ebay flippers and scalpers suck ass. the same ____ happens to me and everybody else on Ebay.

 

[batfan08]

Ah, I see, it was a little hard to understand due to the nature of his writings.

To Ron,
I hope things get better. Never give up hope that tomorrow will be a better day, because it just might be.

 

[The_Iceman]

[insert kind helping words here]

 

[Dollmanron]

Thanks, it's been hard.

 

[sprig0701]

How are any of those sellers supposed to know you are telling the truth when you say you are disabled? You know how many people make up bs stories to get a good deal or to make excuses. I had a person on ebay one time claim they couldn't pay for an item they bought from me because in the week or two I gave them to pay they said they were in the hospital and could now not afford it and they would have contacted me but couldn't because they were in the hospital. I looked at their feedback and saw they had made purchases for other stuff and received feedback for them in that same time period, so they were clearly lying to me. I am not saying you are doing that, but how is anybody really to know. Granted I would never respond with a rude comment towards someone who was claiming they had a disability in that situation, even if I thought they weren't being truthful, I would just ignore it and move on.

Aye, I guess I’m not disabled. Those four drugs I buy from the pharmacist every month are just for recreational use. And I guess my wife’s has been driving my car to work for the last four months because she couldn’t mow the grass growing under it, plus it has a better air conditioner. Besides I stopped being able to drive these last four months anyway.

I like going to my counselor once a week because I’m hoping to have an affair with her. Who cares if my wife is sitting beside me; she only has to get off work early every week to take me there. It must just be in my head all this stuff about wanting to hang myself, heck my wife hardly noticed the rope burns around my neck. She’s learning to not notice a lot of things, she gets so much rest now, she has the bed all to herself because I can’t sleep at night; just 2 or 3 hours during the day. And those drugs have some interesting benefits, in the bed I never have to perform any extracurricular activities anymore. Little Dollman needed a break anyway.

I was happy to lose my $1,000 to $1,500 bi-weekly net checks for this weekly $246.35 disability check the companies insurance is paying me now; I get to pay less tax that way. I don’t answer the phone, go outside, rarely leave the house or go shopping because it’s just so hot outside. I cry, feel fearful, panic, hide, cling to my wife and son and pass out because I’m pretending I’m watching a Horror movie (my life) when there’s nothing on T.V.(which I don’t watch it anyway). When that’s not enough the Rescue Squad rides to the hospital, the needles in my hands and arms, and the tranquilizers they give me are exciting.
It doesn’t bother me a bit when my wife looks at me and cries, when my son has to help me around when I’m on all those great drugs. It’s a good thing it take hours writing a letter with WORD, it corrects all my mistakes; after all I didn’t learn much at the college that gave me that Degree. Living pay check to pay check every week is great, helps us save money. My one enjoyment in life ACTION FIGURE COLLECTING is getting close to the end, people have been trying to convince me I was too old to play with doll for years.

My pride didn’t suffer a bit when I had to go apply for food stamps the other day after working since I was 17 till now; I’d gotten plenty of practice from where I had to go to the social security office earlier and file for long term disability. It was easy, the Doctor has signed a form stated I’m no longer able to handle any of my affairs (Financial, medical, and legal) so my wife did most of everything, I just kind of sat there shaking. I knew I’d missed a pill, must have been because I ran out before one of us got a pay check; I can’t remember.

Talking a chatting her on these boards is so much easier, when I can get out I don’t have to look down at the floor as people pass by or practical knock my wife over trying to get closer to her and further for the eight year old kids that’s starting to stare.

Yep, I could go on, but its pill pooping time so I’ve got to go, I’ll probably go take a dump too, this Diarrhea from all the drugs, messes my tummy up something awful. I could get use to going, but the Hemorrhoids from do doing so much makes taking a crap a little painful.

Damn dude, nobody is throwing you under the bus for what happened to you, but Bannister asked you a legitimate question, to which you fly off the handle like he's accusing you of being a fraud. I personally don't wish a disability on anyone, but just because one befalls you unexpectedly doesn't give you the right to treat someone like a jerk for asking a valid question.

So in today's world of thieves and liars, looking to get over on anyone for a quick buck, how are people supposed to take your word on it?

 

[Dollmanron]

Damn dude, nobody is throwing you under the bus for what happened to you, but Bannister asked you a legitimate question, to which you fly off the handle like he's accusing you of being a fraud. I personally don't wish a disability on anyone, but just because one befalls you unexpectedly doesn't give you the right to treat someone like a jerk for asking a valid question.

So in today's world of thieves and liars, looking to get over on anyone for a quick buck, how are people supposed to take your word on it?

Like my sig says, I'm trying to live with it everyday. Every now and then it gets the better of me. All I can do is ask for some patience and understanding.

 

[sprig0701]

Like my sig says, I'm trying to live with it everyday. Every now and then it gets the better of me. All I can do is ask for some patience and understanding.

And you have it. I'm sorry for what has befallen you, and you have my prayers, but you had to assume that making this thread would lead to a tough question or two being asked.

It at least sounds like you have a good woman by your side, so thank the Lord for that. I myself have been dealing with a work-related injury these past three years, so I at least don't have the financial burden you seem to be facing, but it's been a long, hard road. It's turned into a huge legal battle, and I've had doctors tell me there was nothing wrong with me, but I've just recently had my third surgery in less than a two year period. And I've had a shift commander at work completely over stepping his bounds trying to get me fired! I know it gets depressing. You feel inept at times, and though I'm glad I have a good wife helping me out, I feel like I'm the man of the house and I should be doing the stuff she's doing for me.

Hey, even in tough times, it at least good to know they're people willing to help you

 

[Adoptedscot]

I agree with what most has been said so far.

I can understand your situation but I can also understand the sellers, they sell because they want to get money for their items. They do not have to consider personal circumstances when selling, all they want is the most money they can get, and that is a fair thing to expect.

Being disabled really does suck, but look on the bright side, you are not as bad as some.
You have a family to help and support you.
You can still go out (even if at small intervals)
You have a support system (hospital, counsellor, family etc)

Try to focus on the good things you have. It's difficult (trust me, I know) but that's all you can do and take one day at a time.

Collecting is a luxury (that's how I see it) and it's not needed to live, so while I appreciate you still want to collect and get things as cheap as possible, that's what everyone wants be they disabled or able bodied. If there's something you can't afford, don't email the seller with your circumstances, just say I can't afford and look again if/when you can.

I know it's all difficult and it's clear that new are 'newly' disabled (for lack of a better word) but there are a couple of us here that can relate. I can't say it gets easier, I battle everyday and it's not a nice thing to be dealing with.

I hope you start to feel better and if you need to chat at anytime, feel free to pm
Take care.
Shell
x

 

[Skiman]

You still have some Wolverine claws, I'll buy them at cost? Perhaps it will fund you a Marlena?