AWW MAN!!

[Darth Loki]

Loki, if this relationship really fails, I'm sure there's another lucky (and not so crazy) girl out there for you. Good to see that you are coping well!:chew

For now anyway. I may act like I don't care, but it's going to be hard once she's gone (I hope she doesn't actually read this). I'm still a big softie at heart and a hopeless romantic. I just have no desire to jump into another relationship for a long time.

Kit, we tried to work it out. On numerous occasions to no avail. It's for the better for both of us but it still doesn't make it any easier.

 

[occulum]

you'll be aw-right.
Just use the "down'time" to direct your energy elsewhere. Towards your career, hobbies, family etc.

Dont always feel like you need to be with someone all the time. Forced relationships are the ones that never work anyway. When you stumble across the "one" you'll know. So much of a healthy relationship is give/take and understanding. And the give/take happens because you want it to happen. Youre willing to sacrifice things for her happiness, and if she's the "one" she'll want to do the same for you. If youre the only one giving to the relationship, then that should tell you that she's not into it as much as you are, and its destined for breakup.

the main thing is to just be patient and dont let the break up distract you. I know that heartbreak is the biggest motivation killer there is. After my first marriage went south I was bummed and useless fro quite awhile. Once I started moving forward I used the free time to teach myself many things. Many of which have helped me get to where I am now in my career which I would not be without that tough period in my life.

Just dont mope too much and turn the negatives into positives as much as you possibly can.

 

[Darth Loki]

Thanks Occulum. Good words of advice. I've made the mistake of letting a girl be my life in the past and really tried not to do that with this one. I have other things to do to keep me busy and a good bunch of friends.

 

[goliath]

Sorry to hear your story, and all the best for both of you!


I feel ashamed to admit, but although this is a somewhat sad topic, I had to laugh out loud reading this:

I'm a hopeless romantic at heart.

The main thing is losing her half of the rent and her buying all the groceries. That's where I'm going to see a serious hit in the wallet.

Very romantic indeed!

 

[CookieMonster]

Sorry to hear about this Loki. I hope it is an amicable split for both of you and that you can both move on with your lives.

Most of the people who have replied to this thread have already said it but..
Things will get better.

Best wishes from across the pond.

 

[KitFisto]

Thanks Occulum. Good words of advice. I've made the mistake of letting a girl be my life in the past and really tried not to do that with this one. I have other things to do to keep me busy and a good bunch of friends.

We have all made that mistake before. Looks like mine is tanking again too as of now. I jsut don't see how one person can be so pissed at life so often like her.....ugh.

You'll probably go through wondering if you did the right thing for a week or so, but once you get everything back in order you'll realize you did if it really wasn't working. Now, if I could only take my own advice.

 

[Darth Loki]

We have all made that mistake before. Looks like mine is tanking again too as of now. I jsut don't see how one person can be so pissed at life so often like her.....ugh.

You'll probably go through wondering if you did the right thing for a week or so, but once you get everything back in order you'll realize you did if it really wasn't working. Now, if I could only take my own advice.

Sorry to hear that Kit. I know things were rough for you a few months ago. I thought it got better but it sounds like she's having a bit of a lapse. Hope you're able to get everything straightened out.

 

[Darth Loki]

Sorry to hear your story, and all the best for both of you!


I feel ashamed to admit, but although this is a somewhat sad topic, I had to laugh out loud reading this:




Very romantic indeed!

It doesn't mean I don't care about her, I just know that it's been over for a while and I feel like we were only staying together for financial reasons the past several months.

I forgot to mention that I'll also miss having someone to cook for me

 

[occulum]

I forgot to mention that I'll also miss having someone to cook for me

you might end up that way in the long run anyway. I lucked up and found an unbelievably good cook. But finding a spouse that cooks seems to be a dwindling feat. 3 of my closest friends do all the cooking in the house and the wives cooks nil.

 

[Darth Loki]

you might end up that way in the long run anyway. I lucked up and found an unbelievably good cook. But finding a spouse that cooks seems to be a dwindling feat. 3 of my closest friends do all the cooking in the house and the wives cooks nil.

Damn, how many people you got living in that house?

I can cook, I just hate it. Me and my ex had a deal, she cooked, I cleaned. Worked pretty well for the most part. Now I gotta do both

 

[occulum]

haha. I guess I shoulda said "their own" homes.
although sometimes it seems theyre at mine more than their own..... and I think its for the cookin!