Between a rock and hard place

[CriterionCollector]

Just keep it casual for now, then see what happens. Say, I'm going out for a drink after work, wanna join me? It's not a date, but.....do that sort of thing often enough, it might lead elsewhere. And it's not like you work directly with her, right? She's just a fellow teacher in the same building.

No. I work directly with her. I interact with all the 7th grade core teachers on a daily basis.

 

[Devil_666]

So basically the problem is, you don't have friends, now you have one and you don't want to risk messing that up by trying to turn it into something sexual, especially if it doesn't work out. Correct?

Pretty simple: Risk vs. What you're willing to lose. Is gaining something more with her (relationship, love, etc.) worth the risk of losing your friendship with her if it doesn't work out? If so, then go for it. If no, then remain friends. But be prepared to face the consequences of that decision i.e. possibly seeing her hook up with someone else and then having to fake like you're happy for her.

 

[CriterionCollector]

So basically the problem is, you don't have friends, now you have one and you don't want to risk messing that up by trying to turn it into something sexual, especially if it doesn't work out. Correct?

Pretty simple: Risk vs. What you're willing to lose. Is gaining something more with her (relationship, love, etc.) worth the risk of losing your friendship with her if it doesn't work out? If so, then go for it. If no, then remain friends. But be prepared to face the consequences of that decision i.e. possibly seeing her hook up with someone else and then having to fake like you're happy for her.

Haha! Already had to do that. I have other friends, but it's not easy to find people of the opposite sex that you totally click with.

 

[The Ween]

No. I work directly with her. I interact with all the 7th grade core teachers on a daily basis.

Hmmmm.....well, then what Devil said, or just do what I said and keep it casual and see what happens. Just take it slow.

 

[Eli26]

Is this like the other thread where the girl didn't want the guy inside of her and he was kinda gay and stuff?

Hey sir, it's been a while. Where have you been?

 

[NASEDO]

I'm sure she's not impressed if your bringing SS & HT figures to show her. And the prank thing. Its probably annoying, like when a 7th grade boy likes a girl.

 

[CriterionCollector]

I'm sure she's not impressed if your bringing SS & HT figures to show her. And the prank thing. Its probably annoying, like when a 7th grade boy likes a girl.

I never discussed fig collecting with her. In addition, she actually enjoys my humor quite a bit. It's not like I punch her then run away.

 

[Shawpaw]

I never discussed fig collecting with her. In addition, she actually enjoys my humor quite a bit. It's not like I punch her then run away.

Dude I literally LOL'D when I read this haha

 

[Devil_666]

Hey sir, it's been a while. Where have you been?

Witness protection. It's all hush-hush but I basically testified against King Darkness in a sex ring scandal involving clowns and Nicholas Cage.

It's not like I punch her then run away.

Well that's the problem right there. Chicks dig that. It gets the "juices" flowing. It's science.

 

[Moonloop]

Life's too short to contemplate these decisions. Go with your gut, decide if it's worth potentially losing a friend or gaining a girlfriend. Don't speculate beyond that.

 

[Penny Dreadful]

Having a friend or coworker (or both) express romantic feelings for you can be super uncomfortable and upsetting.

Find somewhere to go with her one-on-one as friends. Don't call it a date. Let things go organically from there. Women aren't wholly oblivious creatures. Possible. outcomes: She'll suspect and politely decline or she'll go and steer it in a friendly direction or she'll go and leave things open for someone to make the first move. Just be receptive to any hints that she's not interested. Women (myself included) drop things into conversation to avoid potential awkwardness.

 

[316what]

Rule #1: Don't poop where you eat.
Rule #2: See Rule #1.

 

[Devil_666]

I didn't follow either rule and almost 13 years later I'm still happily married with a 12 year old son.

 

[The Ween]

I didn't follow either rule and almost 13 years later I'm still happily married with a 12 year old son.

Awww......you must have a cute little pooper then.

 

[Devil_666]

Yeah, my ass IS pretty hot. Thanks Ween.

 

[Mr. Green]

too bad no one at Mr. Green work place is hot enough except maybe one but she's like far away...or two

Mr. Green expect them to just fall on his lap anytime now, lol

 

[karamazov80]

Just play this for him/her:

I usually go with this one, which I think is incredibly romantic, but has mixed success with the ladies for some reason:

 

[Khev]

Went out with a couple coworkers on Friday, one went home.

Sounds like the Hunger Games!

 

[a-dev]

Whether tis more noble to attempt to pull a girl after demonstration of your chivalrous tendencies or to let said chivalry stand on its own, in and of itself, as an example of just that.......am I between a rock and a hard place?

I did the latter

 

[Moonloop]

What did you ever do?