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I think deleting this Thread is probably for the best
Getting over my wife cheating on me..
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I think deleting this Thread is probably for the best
King Darkness
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Just lock it, the next freak who has a cheating whore wife can just refer to this thread instead of making a new one.
In fact, sticky it
In fact, sticky it
BadMoon
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Just lock it, the next freak who has a cheating whore wife can just refer to this thread instead of making a new one.
In fact, sticky it
Hopefully said next freak actually learns something from this thread and leaves the _____.
Whatever.. I don't think I have relationship issues. I haven't been with many women at all. I was just coming to you guys for advice because this was the first real reationship I've ever been involved with. My wife is the first. I met her when I was 22 and she was IT for me. I have no experience with this infedelity/cheating stuff. You guys seem to have had lots of women come and go in your life, being married more than once, I just don't want to go down that path. If my wife feels like she made a mistake, then I'm willing to try and work it out with her for the sake of our son and our marraige and because I still love her. You guys dont realize and thought that I mentioned this, but we have been doing a lot better, despite some of the personality flaws that my wife seems to have. I think it can work as long as she doesn't cheat again..
Mad Old Lu
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Chaver, if you really want to try and make this work, you are going to have to go to a marriage counselor. You both really need that outside input to help you through this. This is a horrible situation and everyone is pretty much correct that you should leave her for breaking your trust. I completely understand that you want to stay. This is someone whom you have been with and loved for many years and while it's very easy to say "dump her", there is still a strong bond that can't be broken overnight, despite the betrayal. But if you want to make this work, you need to both go to counseling. If she does agree to go, it will show you that she is willing to put some effort in the relationship as well. Maybe the counseling will end with both of you agreeing to split, but at least you know you both did everything you could to make it work, and that an impartial, professional third party sees it the same way.
Good luck.
Good luck.
Mesa
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I'd probably agree with this. The thread has run it's course, there's nothing else anyone here can do to help your situation. People have given their opinions, you can take or leave them. Professional advice, or a lawyer, is what you need now.
This thread was becoming awkward several days ago.
Totally agree. The man stated his intent and he doesn't need to hear it is the wrong decision. The choice was his is the final outcome.
IBTL
BadMoon
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I love it when people post things ASKING for others opinions and then get upset when they hear something don't like. That's pure win!
I can understand Chaver's desire to hang on. Though my girlfriend didn't actually cheat on me that episode I brought up early in this thread had the very same effect on me and 2 years later we're still together and I have zero reason to be suspicious of her now.
Chaver for whatever its worth I summarized this thread to my wife and when I mentioned what your wife said about the other guy (bad in bed, small manhood, etc.) she stated that sounded 100% like more BS just to inflate your ego after humiliating you with the affair.
Kind of like how Chevy Chase got caught in the pool with Christie Brinkley and then his wife asks if he wants to be with her. He immediately replies, "Her? No, she's ugly." Yeah right.
If you're really going to continue with her in spite of the infidelity and ongoing lies I hope you at least insist that every single gift he ever gave her be put in the trash. Everything. Purge as much of that dude from your life as you can.
Kind of like how Chevy Chase got caught in the pool with Christie Brinkley and then his wife asks if he wants to be with her. He immediately replies, "Her? No, she's ugly." Yeah right.
If you're really going to continue with her in spite of the infidelity and ongoing lies I hope you at least insist that every single gift he ever gave her be put in the trash. Everything. Purge as much of that dude from your life as you can.
I love it when people post things ASKING for others opinions and then get upset when they hear something don't like. That's pure win!
I'm not saying that I don't want to hear opinions.. I just don't want someone telling me that they don't want me posting my wife having an affair in a Toy forum. Telling me to move on! When that person is consistantly posting their Conspiracy crap, in a yes, you guessed it a "toy forum"..
BadMoon
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My post wasn't directed at you. I quoted who it was meant for.
And Khevs wife is spot on. That was what I was thinking. I just didn't have the balls to post it.
I love it when people post things ASKING for others opinions and then get upset when they hear something don't like. That's pure win!
I am not defending his choice, I agree with about everyone else. It isn't my place to tell the guy he is nuts, wrong, without male genitalia etc. The lesson will learned by him and him alone. He said he is staying and people are still posting to leave, what is that accomplishing when that isn't his intent? We can post another 500 pages full of opinions but until he is ready to see it doesn't matter. I agreed the post should be locked, he listened made up his mind thread done.
sparkstron73
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Aint so mad are you jim?
Thats sound advice
If you stay and can work it out, fairplay, but from my experiences you won't be able to trust her again, unless you go to councelling or lock her in the house.
You'll always wonder is she at a freinds or......?
And for people saying the guy should leave it now, I think you have to put yourself in his shoes.
He's been given lots of good advice and wants to try and work it out, his choice.
This may seem weak or foolhardy but obviously marriage means alot to him.
He cares for his wife and wants to see if there is any chance of salvaging his marriage.
If you don't want to read the thread don't, simple.
But don't slate the guy becuase you don't agree with his decission, this isn't a case of buying the wrong figure but real life, or is it?
Thats sound advice
If you stay and can work it out, fairplay, but from my experiences you won't be able to trust her again, unless you go to councelling or lock her in the house.
You'll always wonder is she at a freinds or......?
And for people saying the guy should leave it now, I think you have to put yourself in his shoes.
He's been given lots of good advice and wants to try and work it out, his choice.
This may seem weak or foolhardy but obviously marriage means alot to him.
He cares for his wife and wants to see if there is any chance of salvaging his marriage.
If you don't want to read the thread don't, simple.
But don't slate the guy becuase you don't agree with his decission, this isn't a case of buying the wrong figure but real life, or is it?
Aint so mad are you jim?
Thats sound advice
If you stay and can work it out, fairplay, but from my experiences you won't be able to trust her again, unless you go to councelling or lock her in the house.
You'll always wonder is she at a freinds or......?
And for people saying the guy should leave it now, I think you have to put yourself in his shoes.
He's been given lots of good advice and wants to try and work it out, his choice.
This may seem weak or foolhardy but obviously marriage means alot to him.
He cares for his wife and wants to see if there is any chance of salvaging his marriage.
If you don't want to read the thread don't, simple.
But don't slate the guy becuase you don't agree with his decission, this isn't a case of buying the wrong figure but real life, or is it?
Thank you for that post.
Well said..
This person,
Is posting you got it right, Conspiracy's! Crap that may or may not be true! Your situation is very true and real! And a helluva lot more serious than said conspiracy's .Understand?
I have made my decision and I'm ready to "move on" with my life. I love my wife soo much that I'm willing to give her a second chance. She has issues that she needs to work on, yes, but she's my friend, my sister, my mother and my lover. We've been through a lot and have lots of history together. I have to do this for us.
I just want to thank MOST of you for your valued opinion, it has helped me a great deal. Without it I would not know where I would be at this point. I know this was a weird post for a Toy Forum but believe me when I say that you really hepled a freak out!
Thanks again..
Joe
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I just want to thank MOST of you for your valued opinion, it has helped me a great deal. Without it I would not know where I would be at this point. I know this was a weird post for a Toy Forum but believe me when I say that you really hepled a freak out!
Thanks again..
Joe
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