i need advise on a tough subject.

[BuffyGirl]

Our 18 month old very suddenly passed away in April, 2008 and it completely devastated us. We ended up leading a grief support group at our church for three years before 'retiring' last year. During those years, we met many parents, friends, and siblings of suicides. My wife continues to be contacted for grief counseling through the church.

That said, I would highly recommend contacting a grief counselor. Even if you are not "religious", many cities have Griefshare meetings where you will meet other people who have experienced loss.

Three things that I would really recommend:

1. Avoid the "what ifs" because they will accomplish nothing and only bring you to a bad place
2. Don't compare grief
3. Remember that everyone grieves differently; especially women & men

I am so, so sorry to hear that.

you all know when you have jobs and work with people. like it or not you become close to and the sort of in someways become family with some of your coworkers because you are around them so much..
my boss and friend committed suicide tuesday and it's just driving me crazy because i just can't believe it..i talked to him that day and now he is no longer with us all.

That has to be a tough thing to sort through. I know that when something so important has happened in my life, I need to talk it out. Good or bad. So definitely give that a shot.