Introverts

[El Roranous]

How many of you feel this way?

I know this thread is a bit ironic but when I read this I had to share. To me- this list is almost 100% truth. I want to hand one out to everyone that meets me just so they know. I don't think there are many people out there like this because I constantly get, for lack of better words, disrespected all the time. I don't like surprises- and that definitely means DON'T show up at my house without at least a days notice. DON'T pop up surprise plans or change the plan unexpectedly. You have to respect privacy.

If you know someone that you just don't understand then maybe take a look at them under this light. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in ourselves that we think that everyone is just like us- they are definitely not. Many people REALLY don't want their picture taken. Some people don't want their business, even the things you may think are trivial, blasted all over the place. I know that I absolutely despise sites like Myspace, Facebook, and Twitter. I think why would you want to tell people all these details about you?

Just another perspective.

And no, no one did anything to me because I usually don't even give them the chance. I just thought that this would be so helpful if people who weren't aware of this finally got exposed to it. I read this list and breathed a sigh of relief.

 

[El Roranous]

A very accurate definition.

Definition: Contrary to what most people think, an introvert is not simply a person who is shy. In fact, being shy has little to do with being an introvert! Shyness has an element of apprehension, nervousness and anxiety, and while an introvert may also be shy, introversion itself is not shyness. Basically, an introvert is a person who is energized by being alone and whose energy is drained by being around other people.

Introverts are more concerned with the inner world of the mind. They enjoy thinking, exploring their thoughts and feelings. They often avoid social situations because being around people drains their energy. This is true even if they have good social skills. After being with people for any length of time, such as at a party, they need time alone to "recharge."

When introverts want to be alone, it is not, by itself, a sign of depression. It means that they either need to regain their energy from being around people or that they simply want the time to be with their own thoughts. Being with people, even people they like and are comfortable with, can prevent them from their desire to be quietly introspective.

Being introspective, though, does not mean that an introvert never has conversations. However, those conversations are generally about ideas and concepts, not about what they consider the trivial matters of social small talk.

Introverts make up about 60% of the gifted population but only about 25-40% of the general population.

 

[ProgMatinee]

most those things I agree with, but not "teach them new skills privately rather than publicly".

The private lesson requires getting into the introverts space by requiring 1 on 1 attention rather than letting the introvert avoid direct contact by fading into a class.

 

[praxitas]

ISTJ for me

I am, but not as bad I you I suppose. I don't "normally" care if someone drops by, but yeah my wife hates it when I don't give her answers right away or i take to long to think.

Edit: Oh yeah.. sometimes if/when she anyone interrupts me when I do talk, I'll shake my head and won't continue

 

[The Ween]

I'm not really understanding what this article is trying to say. Do you get diagnosed as an introvert? Why do they need "taken care of".

Just asking.

 

[Mad Old Lu]

That list just seems like good manners and being considerate!

I like El Roranous's addendum about groups draining an introvert's energy. I completely feel this way. It's not that I'm anti-social or shy, but there is definitely something very real in that. I also find myself being very contrary to mob mentalities. Whenever I have felt that surge of mob mentality, whether in a concert or a game, I totally feel like shutting myself down and not going along with what's going on around me. Not to be mean or rebellious, just cos I really start to feel my will bend, and somewhere inside I say "no!"

Weird, huh?

...And great point, ProgMatinee!

 

[El Roranous]

ISTJ for me

I am, but not as bad I you I suppose. I don't "normally" care if someone drops by, but yeah my wife hates it when I don't give her answers right away or i take to long to think.

Edit: Oh yeah.. sometimes if/when she anyone interrupts me when I do talk, I'll shake my head and won't continue

INTJ here.

It's nice to finally air this out- as ironic as that is. To be understood is a universal need.

 

[El Roranous]

I'm not really understanding what this article is trying to say. Do you get diagnosed as an introvert? Why do they need "taken care of".

Just asking.

Are introverts misunderstood? Wildly. That, it appears, is our lot in life. "It is very difficult for an extrovert to understand an introvert," write the education experts Jill D. Burruss and Lisa Kaenzig. (They are also the source of the quotation in the previous paragraph.) Extroverts are easy for introverts to understand, because extroverts spend so much of their time working out who they are in voluble, and frequently inescapable, interaction with other people. They are as inscrutable as puppy dogs. But the street does not run both ways. Extroverts have little or no grasp of introversion. They assume that company, especially their own, is always welcome. They cannot imagine why someone would need to be alone; indeed, they often take umbrage at the suggestion. As often as I have tried to explain the matter to extroverts, I have never sensed that any of them really understood. They listen for a moment and then go back to barking and yipping.

This is a REALLY good read and I suggest you take a look into it. It will explain everything you need to know.

https://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200303/rauch

 

[galactiboy]

Is this an Eli thread... oh no wait, Rory instead

ENFJ- used to be ENFP, but my need to be on time got the better of my free spiritedness

 

[JosephCPR]

A very accurate definition.

Definition: Contrary to what most people think, an introvert is not simply a person who is shy. In fact, being shy has little to do with being an introvert! Shyness has an element of apprehension, nervousness and anxiety, and while an introvert may also be shy, introversion itself is not shyness. Basically, an introvert is a person who is energized by being alone and whose energy is drained by being around other people.

Introverts are more concerned with the inner world of the mind. They enjoy thinking, exploring their thoughts and feelings. They often avoid social situations because being around people drains their energy. This is true even if they have good social skills. After being with people for any length of time, such as at a party, they need time alone to "recharge."
When introverts want to be alone, it is not, by itself, a sign of depression. It means that they either need to regain their energy from being around people or that they simply want the time to be with their own thoughts. Being with people, even people they like and are comfortable with, can prevent them from their desire to be quietly introspective.

Being introspective, though, does not mean that an introvert never has conversations. However, those conversations are generally about ideas and concepts, not about what they consider the trivial matters of social small talk.

Introverts make up about 60% of the gifted population but only about 25-40% of the general population.

I feel quite identified with this definition. It's not that I don't like being with people...it is that I need time to be by myself... I love it!

 

[El Roranous]

I think that when I meet people I am going to give them this information. If they can't accept it then so it goes but if they can- it will be like a whole new ballgame.

 

[LTM438]

Wow, that list is essentially me in a nutshell. I'm also extremely shy. Heck, recently I had to confront a girl who I had a crush on using Facebook (which I normally would not condone at all) because I simply could not approach her in person. I struggle with things like that which can be attributed to my near-textbook case of Asperger's but also to the fact that I'm just an angsty, nervous teenager....I fear I've said too much at this point...

 

[choopie]

I exhibit a number of introvert qualities and people often mis-take those for someone who is unsociable or unfriendly. Which is a misunderstanding.

I'm generally a quiet, private person. I don't like entertaining crowds and I'm listener rather than a talker. I like to fly under the radar of most things. Posting in this thread and revealing a little bit about myself is an unusual thing for me to do.

Problem is you have to take the time to get to know me and most people don't.

 

[Voorhees27]

I guess that makes me an INFJ type then ................ and damn ef'n proud of it too!

 

[CAhobbit]

I'm an INFJ personality type. I adore my family and friends, and do like to interact on a social level BUT I do need my down time. After any extended social event or work I have to have my alone time or I find I'm not myself. I'm not an on the spot answer type person either.

I am however a go with the flow type, so I don't have problems with sudden changes to plans or life or people that may want to drop by at the last minute.

Edit: I should add that I hate being interrupted.

 

[Bodie The Cursed]

I fall under this.. Not really shy or non-confident..

I just like my own groove and don't like my privacy compromised..

Not really a people person, I have a small inner circle. Don't care for most company or their residue..

People looking to make friends and hang out w/ me usually annoy me..

If you show up to my door unexpected I won't answer the door.

 

[hairlesswookiee]

Edit: Oh yeah.. sometimes if/when she anyone interrupts me when I do talk, I'll shake my head and won't continue

Totally agree with you. I hate being interrupted when I'm talking. I don't do it to other people, and would rather not have a conversation with someone who would do it to me.

 

[Migwit]

Wow, interesting how many people have taken the Myers-Briggs personality test! I have taken it twice with about six years inbetween tests (had to go thru the course during employment at two different companies) and the results were the same: INTJ to the core! I don't see any of my characteristics as negatives, they're just me.

 

[The Ween]

Are introverts misunderstood? Wildly. That, it appears, is our lot in life. "It is very difficult for an extrovert to understand an introvert," write the education experts Jill D. Burruss and Lisa Kaenzig. (They are also the source of the quotation in the previous paragraph.) Extroverts are easy for introverts to understand, because extroverts spend so much of their time working out who they are in voluble, and frequently inescapable, interaction with other people. They are as inscrutable as puppy dogs. But the street does not run both ways. Extroverts have little or no grasp of introversion. They assume that company, especially their own, is always welcome. They cannot imagine why someone would need to be alone; indeed, they often take umbrage at the suggestion. As often as I have tried to explain the matter to extroverts, I have never sensed that any of them really understood. They listen for a moment and then go back to barking and yipping.

This is a REALLY good read and I suggest you take a look into it. It will explain everything you need to know.

https://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200303/rauch

I personally think that most people, fall under this catagory. I do, but I guess I don't expect people to cater to me nor have to read up on my "condition". They can take me or leave me. Pure and simple. They don't need to understand me. I know very few extroverts.

No one likes to be interrupted. No one likes company when they want to be alone. Most need down time once in awhile. None of this is rare.

I guess I'm just missing the whole point.

 

[jstep13]

Thanks for posting this! I learned a lot about myself and it puts things in perspective...