Mark VII Stealth/Relationship Problems

[Bjjer]

I'm Mexican and I don't date Mexican girls anymore. In my experience they were really controlling(I stress in MY experience), I probably chose badly(looks) and paid the price.My wife is white and I'm happy, although she could have been just as controlling as my ex girlfriends.

 

[Wor-Gar]

BTW, My wife is Asian, and she audits the books so I feel ya where its coming from. LoL!

See....

 

[Boba Ben]

This is exactly why Sideshow puts that one per customer limitation on these exclusives. They want to help their customers avoid zany mishaps and prevent them from getting caught up in situational comedy misunderstandings like this one.

 

[Jeff12burq]

Jesus. The universe has a sick-*** sense of humor.

I'd shoot her a text and let her know the situation with that second figure, just to clear it up. Having it for a possible sale or trade might even make it come across as an investment. With that, the ball is in her court. Nothing more you can do (although you really shouldn't have to do anything, but so be it).

That's exactly what I'm going to do tomorrow. Thanks for the advice, really appreciate it.

 

[N3M3SIS 2ALL]

She started popping off on you making false accusations in your own crib?

You don't owe her an explanation, and she's lucky you didn't physically toss her out.

Way too many fish in the sea to waste another second on this one.

I agree totally!! I got sucked in on the topic, but im assuming your young (I know it sounds shallow minded ) but man you guys havent even said the "L" word and shes trippin on what you spend your money on?.... run and dont turn back. Do you man!! especially in the beginning of a relationship... she has to accept you for who you are, dont change for anyone man. Dont make her turn you into a liar. Look at your last statement about not having anything coming in the next couple of months... you know she has a problem with you collecting but your statement implies you mean to collect and keep it from her, or theres not much coming in to where she wont know. Sooner or later your feelings are going to grow and your going to find yourself lying just to keep her happy. Any whooos thats just my opinion.

 

[hokietwo]

My gf is my fiancée. My hobby is my own and she got involved knowing that. If she acted like this woman is acting, I would never have called her back. I've had crazy girls like this in the past and nothing good comes of it, trust me. The last one who acted this way (not about dolls but its always something) she walked out and I never went after her. Ran into her a year later; she was married with a kid and gave me a look like she was still mad at me. Nuts.

By the way, you have this much trouble with your dolls, what are you going to do about your ****?

 

[JorReno]

This is exactly why Sideshow puts that one per customer limitation on these exclusives. They want to help their customers avoid zany mishaps and prevent them from getting caught up in situational comedy misunderstandings like this one.

This summer... a boy meets a girl. But then the girl... meets his figures!

Boy: And this is Iron Man. He has a Kung Fu grip!
Girl: I wanna see other people!

Sometimes, love... is sold separately.

Boy: You're the only one who understands me, Hawkeye.
*bro fists Hawkeye figure*

Channing Tatum... Emma Stone...
Mint Condition Relationship

 

[Wor-Gar]

So this girl fears destroying a relationship over money because her parents did? Ironic, don't you think?

Problem is, we become our parents.

 

[Plastic Bateman]

The timing of all this is like something straight out of a Seinfeld episode. I'm imagining your cousin as Kramer for some reason.

So as I see it: you buy a lot of expensive plastic tat from Hot Toys/Sideshow, just like the rest of us. Unless you're draining your finances to unacceptable levels or getting into to debt to do so - i.e. as long as your finances are all in order and you budget for these purchases - what's the problem here? It's your disposable income, as far as this girl knows $350 for an Iron Man could be a drop in the ocean to you. I guess buying her an expensive bag or something wouldn't hurt, but then again if she's that hung up on hoarding money and never enjoying it, she'd probably flip out at that too.

I feel like fate is telling you not to pursue this relationship, it's honestly not worth the hassle of dating someone who wants to fundamentally change who you are - and those kinds of relationships are pretty much doomed to eventual failure anyway. You'd be better off in the long run finding someone more accepting of your hobbies and interests.

 

[Rotfish]

This is exactly why Sideshow puts that one per customer limitation on these exclusives. They want to help their customers avoid zany mishaps and prevent them from getting caught up in situational comedy misunderstandings like this one.

In all seriousness, your post on the previous instance of this topic was excellent. So, uh... to Jeff12burq, do what Ben said too.

I see no reason to simply end it, especially if you're so into her. If it's worth a shot to you, go for it. Worst case scenario, you put in the extra effort out of love, attempt to ease her concerns, and it still doesn't work out. But at least you can sleep more easily knowing you did all you could have. That peace of mind will definitely help.

So this girl fears destroying a relationship over money because her parents did? Ironic, don't you think?

Problem is, we become our parents.

Self-fulfilling prophecy. Worry so much about something happening that you bring it about with your own preventative actions. We're social idiots, humans.

 

[kiwiatlarge]

The emotional investment in this relationship doesn't seem to match the actual dynamics of it to me... something is out of kilter. IIRC from the moved thread, she hadn't even been in your room when she first laid eyes of Whiplash. So I'm going to take it that you aren't close to the next level of living together, or engagement/marriage..

Nobody in a 'dating' situation should have that much emotional, and certainly financial control over the other party.. My partner and I of 10 years only went as far as having a joint bank account 3 years ago, and that was purely because of payouts arising from our big earthquakes in 2011.. To this day we only use that account for grocery and bill expenses.

I may joke about her disapproving tone when I start sounding too impulsive about Hot Toy purchases. But she does make valid points about lack of space to display them, and the fact that we want to buy a house together. (She already owns her own place rented to her son). Ultimately though, at the end of the day, she doesn't have to approve any of my personal expenditure, especially as the house we currently live in is provided by my employer, rent and power free..

 

[Plastic Bateman]

This summer... a boy meets a girl. But then the girl... meets his figures!

Boy: And this is Iron Man. He has a Kung Fu grip!
Girl: I wanna see other people!

Sometimes, love... is sold separately.

Boy: You're the only one who understands me, Hawkeye.
*bro fists Hawkeye figure*

Channing Tatum... Emma Stone...
Mint Condition Relationship

Wish I was a premium member just so I could rep this

 

[SaintSoy]

Sometimes, love... is sold separately.

Love comes with an NRD

 

[kiwiatlarge]

And never a refund...

 

[Wor-Gar]

It's the UPS Delivery Driver, Gary. (I've actually become good friends with him over the last few months).

It's my cousin, stopping by unannounced, who I have an account set up on sideshow so that I can order two of figures that I really want and possibly use for trade later on or sell.

These two sentences tell me you might have a problem, Jeff. In just a few months you've had so much stuff delivered that you're good friends with the UPS guy. AND you have a 2nd account so you can get multiples. You're relatively new to collecting judging by your start date here so you're probably really into it. But you always get 'really into' things, right Jeff?

Perhaps we're not getting the full picture here. You're young, clearly. Perhaps your new apartment is really small and crowded with new toys and unopened multiples. As a girl, that might give one pause. Especially if your special date is interrupted TWICE by toy deliveries.

Just the fact that you posted this drama in such detail -- TWICE -- tells me you're obsessive and impulsive, Jeff. Somehow I don't feel I'm getting the full story here -- just an edited version. Maybe you're not ready for a serious relationship with a girl yet.

 

[Jeff12burq]

I agree totally!! I got sucked in on the topic, but im assuming your young (I know it sounds shallow minded ) but man you guys havent even said the "L" word and shes trippin on what you spend your money on?.... run and dont turn back. Do you man!! especially in the beginning of a relationship... she has to accept you for who you are, dont change for anyone man. Dont make her turn you into a liar. Look at your last statement about not having anything coming in the next couple of months... you know she has a problem with you collecting but your statement implies you mean to collect and keep it from her, or theres not much coming in to where she wont know. Sooner or later your feelings are going to grow and your going to find yourself lying just to keep her happy. Any whooos thats just my opinion.

Thanks man. Completely agree. She is young.

 

[Jeff12burq]

The emotional investment in this relationship doesn't seem to match the actual dynamics of it to me... something is out of kilter. IIRC from the moved thread, she hadn't even been in your room when she first laid eyes of Whiplash. So I'm going to take it that you aren't close to the next level of living together, or engagement/marriage..

Nobody in a 'dating' situation should have that much emotional, and certainly financial control over the other party.. My partner and I of 10 years only went as far as having a joint bank account 3 years ago, and that was purely because of payouts arising from our big earthquakes in 2011.. To this day we only use that account for grocery and bill expenses.

I may joke about her disapproving tone when I start sounding too impulsive about Hot Toy purchases. But she does make valid points about lack of space to display them, and the fact that we want to buy a house together. (She already owns her own place rented to her son). Ultimately though, at the end of the day, she doesn't have to approve any of my personal expenditure, especially as the house we currently live in is provided by my employer, rent and power free..

Exactly, she is taking things too fast! Thank you for sharing your experience man.

 

[Jeff12burq]

These two sentences tell me you do have a problem, Jeff. In just a few months you've had so much stuff delivered that you're good friends with the UPS guy. AND you have a 2nd account so you can get multiples. You're relatively new to collecting judging by your start date here so you're probably really into it. But you always get 'really into' things, right Jeff?

Perhaps we're not getting the full picture here. You're young, clearly. Perhaps your new apartment is really small and crowded with new toys and unopened multiples. As a girl, that might give one pause. Especially if your special date is interrupted TWICE by toy deliveries.

Just the fact that you posted this drama in such detail -- TWICE -- tells me you're obsessive and impulsive, Jeff. Somehow I don't feel I'm getting the full story here -- just an edited version. Maybe you're not ready for a serious relationship with a girl yet.

Well, in my defense, I order probably 90% of my clothes online. So he stops by at least every other week, I would say. And also, Whiplash Mark II is the only figure I've bought this whole year so far. It's kind of feast or famine for me when it comes to Hot Toys. And again the second account is only for the exclusives I want two of, I've only done it for BD Mark VII.

Maybe you're right, I probably shouldn't be discussing this with you guys on here. It's just I feel like no one else would really understand this except for you.

I'll go ahead and stop talking about it. Going to try and get some sleep.

Have a good night everyone.

 

[Wor-Gar]

It's just I feel like no one else would really understand this except for you.

If you really care about this girl, our opinions shouldn't matter. If not, then you're just looking for validation.

 

[kiwiatlarge]

If you really care about this girl, our opinions shouldn't matter. If not, then you're just looking for validation.

In his defense... people do that on Facebook every day, lol.. Man, if I had a dollar for every post of *****, moan or martyrdom I read on Facebook I read, I'd be able to buy Hulkbuster..