The context of those scenes are seen by many as to imply that a women does not need the help and guidance of a man. She is not too frail to take care of herself. Finn thinks SHE needs HIS help. Like throughout history with the "damsel in distress" as the centerpiece of so many a story. This is a blatant opportunity to switch that and show that a female can be stronger than a male. And in that instance it is Finn indeed that needs Rey's help instead of the norm. Rey is in charge. She is the strong one, Finn is the weak one. Rey takes on the baddies and poor Finn stumbles. Finn needs HER help, Rey doesn't need his. Instead of the typical Finn leading Rey out of danger, it is the swap in which Rey takes charge and leads Finn out of danger.
I have no problems with this and there is nothing wrong with the message. The problem is how it it plays out in the movie. It's a forced message to the audience. It doesn't come across as a normal part of the narrative. The way it's written and shot cinematically. With Finn's constant insults to Rey by trying to help her. The constant annoyance from Rey that Finn is trying to help her, assuming she needs help cause she is a female. It's how it conveys the message in showing women don't need the help of men. It would be fine in context, but the problem is they couldn't just leave it as Rey can take care of herself. They had to switch it in that Finn, the man, is the one that needs the Woman's help in Rey. She saves him, and she fly's the ship to their safety. She is in charge from the minute they meet. He didn't need to be the bumbling idiot they made him out to be. He was a First Order Stormtrooper after all. He couldn't have possibly been that inept. But that's what they did and how they chose to display him onscreen and how the scene plays out. It seems like a forced gender reversal scene, as opposed to a gender equality scene.
"I Am Women, Hear Me Roar".... Yeah, we get it. The Force IS Female.... I guess most forget how strong Leia was as a character in 1977.
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I feel insulted..... 
