What would you do?

[fosing]

My problem is this: I don't know what part of me I should listen too.

listen to what your POPO has in mind.

strike while the iron is hot or sumthing.

 

[sparkstron73]

Tough situation you've got yourself in.
Who knows, your freind still might want to get back with his ex and has just got scared off by the baby.

He might have played it cool to you by saying yeah you can have her but why say wait till after the baby is born?

Maybe he is keeping his options open and by contacting her, he might think you are trying to make your move now.

Sounds like he is pissed anyway and your freindship is fubar for now, with time you might be freinds again.

Also this girl who's having the baby now is going through enough right now with a baby on the way and a break up.
I would leave her be and wait till she has the baby and see if they make up.
If not and you still feel the same then go round and tell her but bringing up your ex freinds baby might be more problems if you can't all get along.

Man 19 and you want all this agro you must be mad, but good luck

 

[The Ringer]

bros before hoes.

 

[DiFabio]

I wouldn't get involved in this. You seem to think it's your responsibility to comfort this girl and her child and while it's honorable I don't think you realize the impact and weight it might have on your life.

Your "friend" is a coward but don't think for a second that his problems are your problems. If anything I'd approach the situation as this girl's friend try to find them counseling or have him pay child support or something (talk to his parents perhaps). But even then you might be overstepping boundaries. It's best to just ignore it.

You don't want to play the father role just yet, trust me. That's a tremendous responsibility and one that you shouldn't have to play.

 

[-Super Hans-]

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Thats what I would do.

 

[ashkanls]

Man, I can relate to that one. I had a girl named Lillie(I used her as my Sig awhile back) but it went FUBAR because she didn't want kids(how ironic) she had her own Xbox 360, and loved my Predator collection.

1) walk away, she has a kid coming,
2) Your not in LOVE
3) stop putting names on here, some crazy way it will get back to them
4) cant say on here.....
5) YOUR ASKING FOR A RESTRAINING ORDER!!

 

[Rotfish]

You're infatuated... not in love... step away from the whole situation... you can thank me later...

Yep. You might even be idealizing her at this point.
I'd say what everyone else is saying here. It's a tough situation to begin with, and while you may feel ready and emotially involved enough, you're not. And the relationship really won't last. Most people under 20 think they'll end up working out, but that's unfortunately not the case. If you add pregnancy and a lost friendship to it, you're looking at a bumpy road that'll most likely lead to a dead end.

Well, it'll be hard but I'll get over it. I've gotta atleast know either way. I don't wanna look back at this time 20 years from now and wonder "what if".

Nothing's wrong with closure, though trust me -- 20 years from now, you'll forget this ever happened, because you'll be with someone else who you truly are ready to be with.




Oh, and using actual names is probably not a good idea .

 

[hairlesswookiee]

Yep. You might even be idealizing her at this point.
I'd say what everyone else is saying here. It's a tough situation to begin with, and while you may feel ready and emotially involved enough, you're not. And the relationship really won't last. Most people under 20 think they'll end up working out, but that's unfortunately not the case. If you add pregnancy and a lost friendship to it, you're looking at a bumpy road that'll most likely lead to a dead end.

Exactly. I say just stay friends and live your life a little. You're both still young. If it's meant to be you'll still be close in 4-5 years. Just don't be this guy: