So, I've been reading this thread for days and days since the movie came out. It's been awesome. Specifically, IrishJedi's posts have given me a lot of justification in what I had assumed when I watched the film.
Never posted before, but wanted to just throw my support in there as well. HUUUGGGGEEE Superman fan. Been a massive Superman fan for 20 years since I started reading the comic books when I was 10. Grew up in a conservative Christian household and mom and dad didn't trust most other comics except for Superman cause they knew him and knew he was "good". That alone made an impact on me and he became my favorite and I started reading all the Superman I could. I've been through every era of the comics, I've loved them all and have a very very deep connection with the character...
...and MAN OF STEEL was the best Superman movie I have ever seen. It was almost perfect. I got to see it a week early in Chicago, and I left the theater on a massive high. It was funny that the things people are complaining about didn't even register to me. The first things I said when I started reading those complaints were that they clearly weren't getting the "trial-by-fire" attempt that was being made by Snyder and Goyer here. It's the only way to truly introduce Superman to a new generation. You have to show him making some mistakes so that when he DOES become the Superman we know and love, it has some damn WEIGHT to it. You can't just put Superman out there and tell everyone he's a big blue boy scout "just because he is". You have to SHOW IT. You have to give it meaning. This film (and hopefully the sequels as well) did that.
The only issue I really had with the film is the final ending scene, and it's because I think it's the main source of confusion. I think if Snyder had shown some fallout from the previous scenes it would have made a massive difference for people. But because it goes from "Cry of shame" to "Smiles and first day on the job" it threw people off. I had assumed what IrishJedi said about them wanting to make sure the film ended on a happy beat, and that makes sense, but some kind of coda that would have allowed people to know that there was meaning in the previous stuff would have probably made a massive difference with some of the critics of the film.
Anyway, been stalking here for quite awhile and wanted to speak up and throw my support out there for the movie. I've seen it 3 times thus far and am currently reading the novelization (which really massively lays out a ton of characterization that the film doesn't!) And also wanted to give a MASSIVE, HUMONGOUS THANKS to IrishJedi for divulging the information he has and being so incredible here.