First Sideshowcollector Freaks Engagement

[Nessasita]

Two years.....it hit faster than I would have imagined! My wife and I have been dating/married for 9 years. I'm lucky to have escaped the Baby Fever until now. Although its coming in strong.....personally I know they say a Man doesn't become a Father until he sees his newborn child but in reality I think I might a little too jaded and screwed up to risk it. Don't make enough to pay for eventual therapy anyway.

When they smile at you and look up and admire their mommy and daddy with that innocence... that is all the therapy that you need.

We both wanted kids for years and we know we are just perfect for each other. Why wait? I got engaged, married and pregnant in a week
Plus the power of the dark side was strong in him...

 

[Anzik]

I used to talk into my wife's belly everyday. "HELLO BABIIIEEEE!!!"

I think thats why they like me best.

 

[Darth Loki]

Then you and Loki are perfect for each other Go ahead and get married

Why ruin a great thing with marriage?

 

[The Mike]

.....That's not gonna win ya many fans DL.

As for the therapy comment, I meant them not me.

 

[Darth Loki]

.....That's not gonna win ya many fans DL.

As for the therapy comment, I meant them not me.

Since when have I ever cared about winning fans

I have just seen way too many divorces in my life to believe that something will last forever. When my best friend lost his house and over $250,000 in his divorce, it was enough to turn me off of the idea. No offense to those who are or will be, but like having kids, it just ain't for me. I can only hope the woman I'm with understands that if I love her, I love her and don't need to say vows to a God I don't believe in to prove it.

But enough about me and my synical views of relationships, this is a happy thread for Nessa and now Dusty.

 

[Dusty]

I agree that the unconditional love that you get with kids is pretty damn mindblowing....and I'm so happy for you Nessa and Dusty! I just don't think we were all meant to have kids....and truthfully the greatest gift of love any man could give me would be NOT wanting to have kids.....I want to be spoiled and get all his attention and give him all of mine.

You know, I used to think EXACTLY like that - I mean EXACTLY. Down to the thinking that I was never meant to have kids part.

And I know this sounds slightly condescending, but I honestly, as a woman who is now over 30 and really knows herself more than ever, think things really change when you meet the right partner - the one you just know in your heart (and mind) that you're supposed to spend the rest of your life with.

And sometimes it takes a while to REALIZE (and accept - that's what's really hard for some people) that THIS is who you were meant to be with. For Travis and I, it was a strange journey - we met 3 years ago working at Sideshow (we were actually both hired in the same week!) and were both in serious relationships with other people. Then all of a sudden - WHAM. Both our relationships happened to end around the same time (and not happily either), and something opened our eyes. I think that's the ultimate test. No matter how many divorces you've seen and/or been through, if you can let yourself love unconditionally like that after being hurt, it's an amazing thing. And it's even MORE amazing to be the recipient of it!

And it's absolutely PERFECT, as cliché as that may sound. Perfect meaning, we both have our faults and recognize them in each other and ourselves, and yet love each other in spite - nay, BECAUSE - of them... not the 'puppies and ice cream' perfect that can be yanked out from beneath you so quickly because it's a falsehood. We know how perfect it is because we've been through so much UNPERFECT in the past. It's a good measuring stick!

And now, this really is the greatest gift I can give him AND myself. It's absolutely amazing... after you come to terms with it, if you weren't really expecting it (This is coming from the LEAST sentimental and mushy woman that, well, *I've* ever met )

 

[Jen]

You know, I used to think EXACTLY like that - I mean EXACTLY.

And I know this sounds slightly condescending, but I honestly, as a woman who is now over 30 and really knows herself more than ever, think things really change when you meet the right partner - the one you just know in your heart (and mind) that you're supposed to spend the rest of your life with.

And sometimes it takes a while to REALIZE (and accept - that's what's really hard for some people) that THIS is who you were meant to be with. For Travis and I, it was a strange journey - we met 3 years ago working at Sideshow (we were actually both hired in the same week!) and were both in serious relationships with other people. Then all of a sudden - WHAM. Both our relationships happened to end around the same time, and something opened our eyes.

And it's absolutely PERFECT, as cliché as that may sound. Perfect meaning, we both have our faults and recognize them in each other and ourselves, and yet love each other in spite - nay, BECAUSE - of them... not the 'puppies and ice cream' perfect that can be yanked out from beneath you so quickly because it's a falsehood.

And now, this really is the greatest gift I can give him AND myself. It's absolutely amazing... after you come to terms with it, if you weren't really expecting it (This is coming from the LEAST sentimental and mushy woman that, well, *I've* ever met )

I'm almost 37 AND I'm a nanny - which is the oddest profession for me to be in....I have been technically a "parent" to a little girl for almost 8 years now...since she was 6 months old. Still it never made me want to have a child of my own. I love this girl with all my heart, and I know she loves me unconditionally as well....but perhaps my biological clock is broken, I just have never had the desire to have kids. I truly see all the blessings it can bring into a person's life....as well as hardships and frustrations...and yes I know it is all worth it....but I'm quite happy remaining childless. There are so many children in this world with parents who don't want them...I don't need to bring another into the world. Not that I would be a bad parent...but I worry that I would be resentful....as my mother was with me...and her mother to her, etc....so I'm breaking the dysfunctional cycle in my family and saying the buck stops here....and I am very cool with that.

I know you and Nessa are going to be wonderful mothers and my hats off to both of you. It's definitely a challenge not all of us can take on.

 

[Darth Loki]

I'm almost 37 AND I'm a nanny - which is the oddest profession for me to be in....I have been technically a "parent" to a little girl for almost 8 years now...since she was 6 months old. Still it never made me want to have a child of my own. I love this girl with all my heart, and I know she loves me unconditionally as well....but perhaps my biological clock is broken, I just have never had the desire to have kids. I truly see all the blessings it can bring into a person's life....as well as hardships and frustrations...and yes I know it is all worth it....but I'm quite happy remaining childless. There are so many children in this world with parents who don't want them...I don't need to bring another into the world. Not that I would be a bad parent...but I worry that I would be resentful....as my mother was with me...and her mother to her, etc....so I'm breaking the dysfunctional cycle in my family and saying the buck stops here....and I am very cool with that.

I know you and Nessa are going to be wonderful mothers and my hats off to both of you. It's definitely a challenge not all of us can take on.

There are so many wonderful things I want to say to you right now but they're gonna have to wait another 8 days

 

[Jen]

There are so many wonderful things I want to say to you right now but they're gonna have to wait another 8 days

Well I am just glad we are both on the same page when it comes to the important issues.

 

[Dusty]

I'm almost 37 AND I'm a nanny - which is the oddest profession for me to be in....I have been technically a "parent" to a little girl for almost 8 years now...since she was 6 months old. Still it never made me want to have a child of my own. I love this girl with all my heart, and I know she loves me unconditionally as well....but perhaps my biological clock is broken, I just have never had the desire to have kids. I truly see all the blessings it can bring into a person's life....as well as hardships and frustrations...and yes I know it is all worth it....but I'm quite happy remaining childless. There are so many children in this world with parents who don't want them...I don't need to bring another into the world. Not that I would be a bad parent...but I worry that I would be resentful....as my mother was with me...and her mother to her, etc....so I'm breaking the dysfunctional cycle in my family and saying the buck stops here....and I am very cool with that.

I know you and Nessa are going to be wonderful mothers and my hats off to both of you. It's definitely a challenge not all of us can take on.

I too, am a 'nanny' to 2 kids - one 5 year old and her nearly-year-old brother, since they were both born. And before that to two twin-boys, from the age of 1-6. Granted, I only get 'visitation' rights with them on weekends (many overnight), but still have a ton of experience with kids - both brats and angels.

Never ever ever (EVER) wanted kids of my own until just about 5 months ago... and I happened to get pregnant right after that epiphany (not on purpose - we were planning to wait - but sometime life just happens and you gotta roll with it). And it really IS an epiphany... happened practically overnight, but I just KNEW. Like you, I thought I must have just been missing my biological clock. But, Travis happened. Like I said, totally crazy.

My mother is also VERY resentful of both her marriage and her kids. Sometimes I think that may actually help someone become a better mother - if they recognize and it and say "I won't let this happen". Becoming a mom may be one of the best ways to stop that cycle, actually! I guess we'll see. I see so many crappy kids and parents, that I want to bring a kid in the world who transcends that. If we left it up to the crappy parents/kids only, and all the 'good' ones stopped reproducing... wow, that would suck!!

Anyway, everyone can and will decide for themselves in matters such as these... just don't give up on yourself yet, that's all Think about how you may feel when you're 80 and realize that you have no kids or grandkids to pass traditions and statues on to, etc. Many older folks that never had kids do end up regretting that.

And if you truly do not ever want to get pregnant, well, be really careful I know about 14 pregnant women at the moment - and only a couple of them actually MEANT to be (in other words, Loki better double-bag it just to be on the safe side... whadya mean a mother shouldn't say those things )

 

[BadMoon]

There are so many wonderful things I want to say to you right now but they're gonna have to wait another 8 days

No countdowns please. People are listening.

 

[Darth Loki]

No countdowns please. People are listening.

Our countdown is private this time as we know how some people are

 

[Dusty]

I think Dusty needs to start her own thread and stop stealing Nessa's thunder

Sorry about that... but since everyone was talking about pregnancy and happiness in this one, I couldn't hold back!!

 

[The Mike]

Too bad I can't embedd video....the scene from Friends where they find out that condoms are only 97% effective comes to mind here.

 

[Nessasita]

Today is the day... I have been up since 5 am this morning... could not sleep because I was so excited... 1.5 hours left to go at work and then after work we are going to get our 3D-4D ultrasound and we will be able to see our little boy. I am over the moon happy... cannot wait to see his little face. Will try to post pictures here tonight or either tomorrow.

The face of the first baby freak will be revealed and he shall be named... Darth Critter. :emperor

 

[Darth Caedus]

Today is the day... I have been up since 5 am this morning... could not sleep because I was so excited... 1.5 hours left to go at work and then after work we are going to get our 3D-4D ultrasound and we will be able to see our little boy. I am over the moon happy... cannot wait to see his little face. Will try to post pictures here tonight or either tomorrow.

The face of the first baby freak will be revealed and he shall be named... Darth Critter. :emperor

I think he should be named Pitu..........

 

[-Super Hans-]

wow what a story

 

[Karma]

yep..I call shotgun on movie rights

 

[dr2red]

All this baby talk makes me a bit sad. I am very happy for Nessa and Dusty but this also reminds me of what I will never have. I was not able to have children and I wanted a house full of them. I know one day I will be alone with no one to take care of me. I know having kids is not easy but I think I would have been a great mom. Strange how dreams sometimes do not come true. So I have to be a surrogate mom to Pitu. God help me!

So be happy and enjoy your future little ones, love them, hug them and kiss them everyday and be great full for what you have been given.

Sorry for the pity party but sometimes I get very sad....

 

[Dusty]

All this baby talk makes me a bit sad. I am very happy for Nessa and Dusty but this also reminds me of what I will never have. I was not able to have children and I wanted a house full of them. I know one day I will be alone with no one to take care of me. I know having kids is not easy but I think I would have been a great mom. Strange how dreams sometimes do not come true. So I have to be a surrogate mom to Pitu. God help me!

So be happy and enjoy your future little ones, love them, hug them and kiss them everyday and be great full for what you have been given.

Sorry for the pity party but sometimes I get very sad....

That is very very sad. I feel very deeply for you dr. Was adoption not an option? Although I know there's nothing like carrying and birthing your own baby, adoption seems to be very amazing as well, in different ways.

Well regardless, my heart goes out to you

Nessa, can't wait to see pics. And no, i have NOT been able to make it through the book without crying, no matter how many times I try. Travis was laughing hysterically at me. It's pretty funny actually - I'm so NOT sentimental! But the end ALWAYS gets me, when he's older and repays the favor Darn you for making me cry!