How do you protect your collection before you get married? Divorce can kill a hobby!

[Skiman]

Eh. If you find a good girl, it ain't a bad idea to lock her in. Plus, it saves the hassle of getting gussied up and trolling bars to get laid ... just gotta roll over.

I got married at 24, and never regretted it.

SnakeDoc

Awesome.

Skiman

 

[316what]

I am absolutely not judging anybody's threshhold of tolerance. But to me, her getting pregnant by another man would not be grounds for divorce. If she wanted to divorce me, I could not stop that. And there are limits to my tolerance as well. And I am not ashamed to admit that my dedication to the marriage could easily end up making a fool of me. But I absolutely understand that there are other levels of tolerance than my own and a great many of those levels are plenty high enough.

See this is what I don't understand: how can a marriage not end in divorce when one person has a dedication (bordering on obsessive in this scenario) to the marriage and the other not? It cannot because there's no marriage left since one has broken vows.

And you'd be reminded of her thoughts of another and the infidelity every morning when you change the diapers of some other guy's kids. You might stick to your views of marriage, but you'll also become one resentful bastid.

 

[316what]

I married my Wife May 1, 2002 which was like a month and a half after we started dating and about 3 months after we first met. Never lived together and didn't move in to our first apartment until the day we were married. We have a 7 year old son and we're still doing great together. So we must be the exception to the rule!?

About the same timeline as me and the current wife. Can there be more than 1 exception to a rule?

 

[316what]

for sure, l wouldnt marry a chick either unless l new we connected in the bedroom.but the not living together first is risky.thats were you find out the person habits good or bad.but good luck to you,if its going good so far then thats a good sign.

You don't go to the car dealership and buy a new car before test driving it.

But I will comment also (which I'm sure MANY people will agree) that the older you get, the HARDER it is to find a great partner. It's like my new favorite saying......

"Girls are like parking lots. All the good ones are taken, and the only ones left are handicapped"....

If that's the way you're looking at it, plan on more disappointment. As long as you're looking, you'll never find the one.

And what's wrong with handicapped parking?

 

[316what]

Exactly what I did, listen to this man, he knows his stuff about marriages

Oh, I wouldn't go praising his enlightenment just yet.

 

[Skiman]

316what you need to lighten up on the marriage talk, chill son.

 

[jonny88]

I am absolutely not judging anybody's threshhold of tolerance. But to me, her getting pregnant by another man would not be grounds for divorce. If she wanted to divorce me, I could not stop that. And there are limits to my tolerance as well. And I am not ashamed to admit that my dedication to the marriage could easily end up making a fool of me. But I absolutely understand that there are other levels of tolerance than my own and a great many of those levels are plenty high enough.

well thats something l wouldnt do for a million. if my wife cheated on me l would throw here out and tell her if it happens again its over.but if she got pregnant l would kick her asss and that un borne baby to the curb in a hart beat. l wouldnt be able to raise another kids baby in that situation , or stay with her even if l still really love her. not to mention how much my family would be shaking there heads and laughing at me behind my back if l did stay with her.

 

[Devil_666]

Eh. If you find a good girl, it ain't a bad idea to lock her in. Plus, it saves the hassle of getting gussied up and trolling bars to get laid ... just gotta roll over.

I got married at 24, and never regretted it.

SnakeDoc

25 for both me and my Wife. Realistically there is no right or wrong age limit. And despite what people will say, there's no such thing as being "ready" for marriage. Same thing with having kids. It's like soldiers and boot camp.. no matter how intense or realistic it is it NEVER prepares a soldier for actual combat with a real enemy shooting and trying to kill them. Same thing with Marriage and Kids.. it's like a real enemy shooting and trying to KILL YOU!!!

Nah seriously.. if it happens it happens. My marriage and parenting is always a work in progress. That's the thing: You gotta work at it. Age is irrelevant. Most of the stuff people talk about wanting to do to get out of their system I was doing as a teen. I started drinking and smoking weed at 13. Lost my virginity at 12. Did all that partying and BS until my early 20's. Then I started working and didn't really have any bills so I did the whole spending like a balla routine as well. I guess if you don't start doing any of that stuff until you're 18 - 21 then yeah.. maybe marriage or a serious committed relationship should wait. But at 25 I was good to go.

About the same timeline as me and the current wife. Can there be more than 1 exception to a rule?

Of course!

And you'd be reminded of her thoughts of another and the infidelity every morning when you change the diapers of some other guy's kids. You might stick to your views of marriage, but you'll also become one resentful bastid.

Nah I agree 100%. Cheating is unforgivable imo, but you add on your girl getting pregnant too? Hell No. I could never raise a kid that was conceived in an affair. It wouldn't be fair to the kid. Because that kid would be a constant reminder of infidelity and eventually a constant target for pent up anger.

 

[ChrisCJ99]

well thats something l wouldnt do for a million. if my wife cheated on me l would throw here out and tell her if it happens again its over.but if she got pregnant l would kick her asss and that un borne baby to the curb in a hart beat. l wouldnt be able to raise another kids baby in that situation , or stay with her even if l still really love her. not to mention how much my family would be shaking there heads and laughing at me behind my back if l did stay with her.

Yeah, that's a DEFINITE no no.... I'm not even going to follow the saying "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me" on this one. If she cheated on me with another man, then it would be BYE BYE biznatch.....

 

[316what]

316what you need to lighten up on the marriage talk, chill son.

What did I do? Besides bustin Lance's balls...which is a daily event he enjoys.

As for the scenario with my ex, believe it or not, I'm not bitter at all. It was the best thing that could have happened to me because it allowed me to find my soul mate.

 

[LaMelnik]

What did I do? Besides bustin Lance's balls...which is a daily event he enjoys.

As for the scenario with my ex, believe it or not, I'm not bitter at all. It was the best thing that could have happened to me because it allowed me to find my soul mate.

The way you smack your lips around em is the best I ever had!!! No way am I going to complain about your mouth skills..

 

[316what]

The way you smack your lips around em is the best I ever had!!! No way am I going to complain about your mouth skills..

Now that you had to go blabbing your mouth...prefer for teeth.