If you are actually going to go through a divorce soon, I would take it slow. Slow and steady. You didn't build the collection in a month. You won't dissolve a collection in a month.
Esp, if you have kids, you have to consider that elevating your standard of living or the perception of it ( big deposits from sales of your collection) may not work in your favor during and right before a divorce proceeding. If you are the primary breadwinner, it's in your interests to lend the appearance of lowering your standard of living. It will be in her interests to try to raise it right before a divorce.
Moving a collection of that magnitude is basically a large financial move on your part. If you know you will divorce soon, I would find a divorce attorney you feel is suitable for you, retain them, and discuss the issue with them before you go further.
Something to consider in terms of your collection is divorce is typically a series of trade offs. If you want to keep the kids, you usually have to concede something else. If you want to keep the house, you usually have to concede something else. If you want to keep your collection, you might have to concede that you can walk with 20 percent of it and lose 80 percent of it and maybe the best you can do is pick which 20 percent stays with you.
Basically the key trigger is when the "nagging" and "b*tching" stops. It doesn't mean she's placated. It means shes given up on the marriage and she's approaching her best case exit strategy. When women stop nagging, it doesn't mean they accept you for you, it means they have moved on emotionally. If she's consulted a divorce attorney, she has or will soon make as many copies of all of your financial records as possible. Having a huge trail of PayPal or bank account or any other kind of traceable financial transactions in moving a big chunk of your collection will not work in your favor.
If there are financial records pertaining to your collection and their worth, along with other financial records, I would start slow and steady to isolate them away from her grasp/reach.
Some things you should consider doing right now to save your collection
- Get a PO Box she doesn't know about
- Get a non contract/prepaid phone she doesn't know about
- Replace all your hard drives on yours and shared computers in the house. ( After you replace it, don't use those computers to deal with your banking, finances, etc as much as possible. Don't watch porn on it, don't visit any controversial sites, etc, etc)
- Get a free email address she doesn't know about
- Slowly, I mean slowly, move your most valued pieces in your collection, other things you really value as well, out of the marital home and into a safe neutral location she doesn't know about. You won't be able to save everything, but you can save your grails.
- Search your house. If she's seen a divorce attorney, good chance he's already advised her to start hiding some money slowly. Also there may be documentation hidden that will indicate to you that time is short before she files.
Most of all, start documenting her negative and any illegal behavior. If it comes to it, you can use it to leverage it in trade for your collection if you get divorced.
The person you marry isn't the same person you divorce
If you can accept that hard to swallow truth, then you have a chance to save your collection.
If you can't, if you can't emotionally detach yourself from what you want to see and what's probably there, then you probably won't.
If you are sure the marriage is over, go into marriage counseling anyway. It will buy you time to prepare and best consider how to save your collection. You might be able to squeeze out a year even. ( If it's any consolation, a divorce attorney will also probably advise her to go into counseling to A) buy herself time to ammo up B) sooth her conscience that she tried everything but that it's your fault and C) pick the right time to blindside you when she files. It's in her interests to stall as well, if you aren't prepared that is)
Not my business, hard talk, but at least it's straight up,
Good luck, sorry to hear it, for what it's worth, for what it's worth man.
Happy Thanksgiving,
Gekko
