Yea, I have the same problems and a whole lot more
I didn't like how cliche and in your face Clark's history was, a lot of it felt way too forced to try and make us feel bad for Clark. The bar scene, every childhood scene, the tornado scene, all of it just felt very forced.
I thought outside of Clark and Zod, every character was extremely dull. Amy Adams especially was terrible in my opinion. I really hated how forced into the story her character was. Scenes like her being on the plane that explodes but for some reason she gets blown out and Superman catches her just in time so they could have a really forced kiss like right on ground zero of the destruction, or seeing Superman and Zod land and she somehow gets to the bank just in time to see Superman kill Zod so she can console him after he does that same drop to your knees angry scream that we see in most movies.
I actually hated the action, for me, it was really generic stuff, an overreaction to the lack of action in Superman Returns. All of that action and
I don't think there's one iconic action scene in the movie.
There was a lot of great ideas, I love how it showed the dichotomy of his fathers and the affect it had on him but so many of the interesting concepts just went in a really cliche generic direction in my opinion.
My biggest problem was that the movie was set in a grounded world, but the movie kept all of the superhero tropes we see in every MCU movie outside of the jokes. I do like how it felt like a real standalone though, it's one of the last superhero movies that seemed more focus on the current story than setting up the next one.