You can still have an intellectual conversation and be aggressive. You can even wield insults if you'd like, so long as they don't take the place of a coherent argument. I don't believe in ethics, so I don't feel obligated to do anything. Nobody owes you politeness. If you're going to be insulting, you'll get insults right back from me. In fact, the only thing I enjoy as much as intellectual debate, is competing with bullies in wielding emotional abuse. It's a game, to me. Why would I refrain from being snarky, when responding to someone who's being equally snarky? I'm not passive or weak. If that's your style, that's your call but the world will eat you alive.
You're right that I was critical of a behavior rampant within the feminist movement, and identity politics in general. However, you're wrong that it's irrelevant to this discussion. This discussion is about logic and reason. The movie itself undermines logic and reason, while having a feminist subtext. It's intertwined, making direct correlations. The movie goes so far to undermine traditional western understandings of epistemology that it literally BURNS DOWN A LIBRARY, as Yoda tells Luke that the acquisition of knowledge is unimportant: Everything Rey needs to know is inside her. That is Post Modernist nonsense. It's the very thing being espoused in Sociology and Gender Studies classes, via Derrida et al. Are you opposed to addressing the subtext of a film? What if it's political? Should you refrain from talking about the politics of a film on a film website? I don't see why.
It's also relevant, because a Post Modernist approach is being used to defend the lack of logical coherence within the film. Who cares about internal logic within a narrative?! How did it make you FEEL?! This nonsense persists because there's a willful disregard for logic and reason. And it's being fed to you implicitly within the film.