No man, it's not just you. Lucasfilm created an intellectual property that was marketed to boys, about what used to be a male experience regarding coming of age. Including women in that story is fine, but when you use iconography that men grew up with to tell them how toxic they are, you're undermining emotional attachments to cultural cues. It's a form of iconoclasm meant to offend. Atheists often do this to religious people. It's a form of emotional attack, that I'm personally not fond of unless being bullied.
We grew up with these stories, and now it's being wielded to tell us how "toxic" we are, as people. That hurts, when it means something to you. When you care about Star Wars in detail, you're delving into a nuanced piece of art that involved specialists in numerous fields who broke convention: Ralph McQuarrie's art, John Williams scoring, George Lucas' writing influenced by theories from Joseph Campbell... There is an adult level of mastery that went into this "children's" film. It's legitimate art, and it's been subverted against you.
How do you process that? For me... I've decided it's time to make my own art. I dunno... I love the original trilogy, and I'm going to take what I loved from that and, in a very DIY punk rock way, create something that expresses reality, instead of the nonsense being thrown at us. I'm doing it for me. I shouldn't expect other people to "represent me". That's what the SJW's have done. It still sucks, but I shouldn't feel cut off from the culture because Disney is buying things I love. I should contribute, if it bothers me that much.
I guess what I'm saying, is learn to write, sculpt or draw. Do something that engages your mind. You'll feel better, because it's the axis between the fantasy in star wars that helps us escape, and that part of your brain helping you to be present, via problem solving. When I sculpt, I feel the same way that I do when I write.
