Transformers 2 is a cluster ****.
This movie is a really good painting, with one massively misplaced stroke.
But the thing is, most of the stuff you're explaining is everything Nolan does in his movies. He always jumps around. Scene Scene, theme, scene, plot, theme, scene. He rarely EVER has a scene where people are being human, and real. It's always THE MOMENT. Aside from one or two of his earlier movies, Begins included....
TDK is JUST like this. It does have 1 or 2 more then TDKR, but it still flows the same way.
Nolan is a story guy. He wants to tell the story, and that's it. He's not a character director.
Look at Tarantino's movies. He has 30 minute scenes of people talking about movies...but he sneaks in the plot, and important information, and it creates a stylized, but realistic way of moving the plot along.
Nolan doesn't. I'm not saying your points aren't valid. But I am saying it's nothing new. It's been there since TDK. Begins is a better film then both BECAUSE it has moments of...ya know...nothing. It has two characters talking about their lives, it has people interacting like people.
TDK doesn't. It's plot plot plot plot.