What would you do?

[Predator vs. Alien]

The Following is a True Story:




Well, this is what happend to me, I've had a crush on my best friends Ex-girlfriend(who's pregnant) and they've been broken up for a month now, and he's moved on from her and got a new girlfriend and everything.

So I told him all this, and he tells me he doesn't care and that he's done with her, but not to contact her till after the baby's born, well she's got a baby shower coming up and I needed to know what to get her so stupid me I send her a message on myspace(he wouldn't ask her for me or give me her number) he found out about it and now we're not friends anymore.


I'm looking for other people's opinions here, I know I crossed the line by contacting her, but what did I do that was so wrong? I mean he basicly discarded his pregnant ex-girlfriend(I don't think that's right)

So is there anything I can do to regain his friendship? or are we just no longer friends period

 

[Something Sexy]

Seems like I situation I wouldn't have put myself in the first place. Ex girlfriends are one thing but ex girlfriends who are pregnant with your friends kid that is a whole other story. Do you value your friendship more than trying to get with this chick?

 

[Predator vs. Alien]

Seems like I situation I wouldn't have put myself in the first place. Ex girlfriends are one thing but ex girlfriends who are pregnant with your friends kid that is a whole other story. Do you value your friendship more than trying to get with this chick?

That's the problem. We've been friends for over 5 years, but yet he's abandoned this poor girl(who I've liked before they were even dating) and I'm not ok with that.......

So, my head says friendship but my heart says the girl

 

[Predator vs. Alien]

My problem is this: I don't know what part of me I should listen too.

He no longer takes my calls or answers my texts. I blocked my number and called him today, he answered then hung up once he realised it was me

 

[915stag51]

over 10 million chicks, why go after one thats pregnant...JMHO

 

[Predator vs. Alien]

Because I'm in love with her Stag, that's why.

 

[jonny88]

That's the problem. We've been friends for over 5 years, but yet he's abandoned this poor girl(who I've liked before they were even dating) and I'm not ok with that.......

So, my head says friendship but my heart says the girl

well l do not know why you are crazy for a pregnant girl, but okay. your buddy gave you the go ahead to date here (after the baby is born). so you contacted her before that. what did you say, just friend stuff and about a gift, or did you ask her out. anyways l think your buddy is over reacting, what the difference between now and when the baby is born. if it was a friendly email then he should not end a friendship over that, if that is the case sounds like your friend is not a good friend or person, i.e. leaving and throwing away the mother of his kid and moving onto an other chick. anyway even if this girl likes you, you really dont want a girl with a newborn baby, and dealing with the father of that baby i.e. your ex friend if you dont become friends again. sound like a bad situation to get into.

but you say you love her, so do this. tell her you always liked her, if she says she would like to date, good. tell your buddy you love her and if he is still mad, the hell with him he was not a real friend in the first place. but in reality even if she really like you back she will be in no mood to date anytime soon. especially after the last A hole she was with.

 

[azurepred]

well l do not know why you are crazy for a pregnant girl, but okay. your buddy gave you the go ahead to date here (after the baby is born). so you contacted her before that. what did you say, just friend stuff and about a gift or did you ask her out. anyways l think your buddy is over reacting, what the difference between now and when the baby is born. sounds like he is over reacting, if it was a friendly email then he should not end a friendship over that, if that is the case sound like your friend is not a good friend or person, i.e. leaving and throwing away the mother of his kid and moving onto an other chick. anyway even if this girl likes you, you really dont want a girl with a newborn baby, and dealing with the father of that baby i.e. your ex friend if you dont become friends again. sound like a bad situation to get into.

............and how old is the chick and ex friend?

 

[915stag51]

Because I'm in love with her Stag, that's why.

what was gonna happen if they stayed together? would you of stayed away

 

[Predator vs. Alien]

well l do not know why you are crazy for a pregnant girl, but okay. your buddy gave you the go ahead to date here (after the baby is born). so you contacted her before that. what did you say, just friend stuff and about a gift or did you ask her out. anyways l think your buddy is over reacting, what the difference between now and when the baby is born. sounds like he is over reacting, if it was a friendly email then he should not end a friendship over that, if that is the case sound like your friend is not a good friend or person, i.e. leaving and throwing away the mother of his kid and moving onto an other chick. anyway even if this girl likes you, you really dont want a girl with a newborn baby, and dealing with the father of that baby i.e. your ex friend if you dont become friends again. sound like a bad situation to get into.

I feel the over reacting, and it WAS just a friendly e-mail(I asked her what she'd need for the baby(I ended up getting clothes)

She's due in February and the shower's in January. I know that he gave me the "go ahead" what I'm puzzled about is the "don't contact her till after the baby's born" crap.

I really don't mind the newborn baby either. It doesn't bother me in the slightest. However with the father potentially being my ex friend could lead to problems I guess.

 

[Predator vs. Alien]

what was gonna happen if they stayed together? would you of stayed away

I wouldn't have told him my feelings toward her. I would've just kept them inside I guess.

 

[Predator vs. Alien]

............and how old is the chick and ex friend?

We're all 19(born in '91) I've got a job, he doesn't(nor will he get one)

 

[915stag51]

I wouldn't have told him my feelings toward her. I would've just kept them inside I guess.

that means you do not love her enough, move on man, avoid a triangle disaster.....

 

[Predator vs. Alien]

If I told her or him about my feelings why'll they were still together it would've ended up like this anyway(us not being friends)

I don't get how he could just toss her away like yesterday's trash.

 

[jonny88]

We're all 19(born in '91) I've got a job, he doesn't(nor will he get one)

19 years old man. that is to young to get involved with a girl with a baby. no offence to anyone, but that is to much luggage at your age. focus on your job and get your life moving. then meet a different girl and have your baby. im only 22 and have really liked a couple attached girls and trust me you get over it. shes just a chick and there are plenty of them out there.

 

[915stag51]

If I told her or him about my feelings why'll they were still together it would've ended up like this anyway(us not being friends)

I don't get how he could just toss her away like yesterday's trash.

he's young, thats how...looks like he does not wanna be tied down yet

 

[Predator vs. Alien]

he's young, thats how...looks like he does not wanna be tied down yet

Yeah true. But why get the girl pregnant and dump her 3 months before the baby was born.(F.Y.I his first idea was to break up with her in the delivery room )

My hangup here, is I've been in love with her since the begining of High School. I've never told her, and feel like I need closure(sp) on that end.

The only problem(s) are:
1.Don't have her number
2.She's almost NEVER online(I don't wanna wait weeks just to find out she's not into me )

 

[Predator vs. Alien]

19 years old man. that is to young to get involved with a girl with a baby. no offence to anyone, but that is to much luggage at your age. focus on your job and get your life moving. then meet a different girl and have your baby. im only 22 and have really liked a couple attached girls and trust me you get over it. shes just a chick and there are plenty of them out there.

I understand were you're coming from. My main reason for borderline hating him is because my dad walked out on me when I was 2. I couldn't stand to see that happen to someone, especially since I like the person.

I know it's alot of baggage, but I'm more "stable" then he is, and I've got the "want" to have a part in this girl and kids life, he doesn't.

 

[915stag51]

why would you wait so long to hit her up, you let high school pass you by

 

[mr.thrifty]

Yeah true. But why get the girl pregnant and dump her 3 months before the baby was born.(F.Y.I his first idea was to break up with her in the delivery room )

My hangup here, is I've been in love with her since the begining of High School. I've never told her, and feel like I need closure(sp) on that end.

The only problem(s) are:
1.Don't have her number
2.She's almost NEVER online(I don't wanna wait weeks just to find out she's not into me )

You're infatuated... not in love... step away from the whole situation... you can thank me later...