I would agree there is a "secret society"...but that is very commonplace in the business arena. In this case, the fact that XM cannot sell product directly to the states contributes that "secret society" feeling. But think about it, individuals who live in Singapore...potential customers and/or agents that act as retail distributors can freely purchase XM product within the parameters of XM's agreement with Marvel. These individuals are more likely to have insider buzz, pre-orders, etc... than those of us that live in the states and/or who frequent collectibles forums. Some of those individuals in the know share information with those of us in the dark. To me it's no different than when individuals with inside knowledge of Sideshow products come on the boards and share information when something is going to go up for pre-order or when a particular piece may eventually ship.
IMHO that is the way it's always worked in business...some folks have insider information, and others don't. The key is identifying those individuals who have accurate insider information, and then establishing contact. The folks in the states that really want XM products, have identified and contacted those individuals who can hopefully help then secure their desired XM product. Those individuals are taking a chance by placing "pre-orders" on XM products prior to the actual PO window being open. Is that a risk?? Sure it is...but you have to be willing to take risks if you want the rewards. Personally a chance to purchase Thanos is worth the risk of securing a pre-order through an insider, rather than trying to purchase it later through the secondary market. Think about how much Magneto or Thanos will go for once those limited pieces hit the secondary market?