Something Sexy
Super Freak
Re: Anyone ever have to relocate becuase of their spouse?
I know can't wait til next Thursday word.
I know can't wait til next Thursday word.
You need to break up with this girl once and for all, move on, don't look back and don't get all wrapped up in a relationship until you're out of college.
This girl is what is holding you back from growing into a "man". she represents your home town and your formitave/younger years. you had the courage to leave the safety of all that and go out on your own, but she obiviously lacks that ability to do that.
You keep asking for advise but fail in following it. (you've heard the saying?)..."if I only knew now what I knew then"? it's hard to do but, listen...
You know the situtation is F'd up, you knew it before and you know it now; but instead of breaking free you grabed hold of it even tighter and proposed...
It's time to cut the ties and move on. trust me... in a few years you will look back and say to yourself... "WTF was I thiking".
Do what you will......
Don't compromise. Follow your dream. She should understand that if she loves you. And anyway, what's so bad about a long distance relationship? Better sex IMHO!
There are few things worse than regret, you need to follow your dream while you can.
Smartest answer here, she is nothing put a pain to you in more ways then one, you are always writing here about what thing, be it bad or good, mostly bad that she is doing to you now. It seems that you are growing up and she is still a little girl...
and MAN, you are in LA, women are everywhere!
I know can't wait til next Thursday word.
I couldn't disagree more. Self-centeredness rarely leads to happiness. Relationships require compromise ... if she's important, she's worth compromising with. If she's not worth compromising with, then go ahead and leave her.
As for the long-distance-sex-thing ... quantity is as important as quality. Its likely better to have good sex three times a week than great sex twice a year.
It is true that regret is a bad thing -- but what if he ends up regretting dumping the girl?
SnakeDoc
Hey, I got hands! And toys....
Haha.
The girl presumably also has hands ... and several other attractions worth visiting several times a week. WooHoo.
SnakeDoc
I don't u think you understood the jest. Be that as it may, I don't doubt the powers of my hands. Dem fingers are spirited!
Anyway, here's the thing, Chris. Why would you want to settle down if you're still in school!?
I'm a little surprised by all the "if she can't do this for you then dump her" messages. Relationships are just that, a relationship between two people, it's not a dictatorship. I wonder if there is another internet message board somewhere with Chris' girlfriend asking a similar questions and getting responses like "well he should make this sacrifice for you and stay home, dump him."
Sorry Chris, but this is something that you're going to have to work this out with her. You state your case, she states hers. If you can come to an agreement without somebody feeling like they "gave in", then great. If not, then you need to do what's best for you.
I don't blame you for wanting to stay in San Fran. I get to go once a year, and love it every time.
Chris, I was worried whenever I saw your FS thread about a special engagement and selling the items in order to fund this... Honestly I believe you know my thoughts about this...
My wife today would move anywhere with me on the sound of my voice saying "lets go", she loves me and supports me in all of my decisions, well maybe not owning a 1:1 Endo but you get the picture, anything that is serious and life changing events.
This is the kind of woman that you want to spend the rest of your life with and if she's not willing to make changes then both of your lives are meant to go separate directions.
I think you are also afraid of meeting someone new, which could be the end of all this. I know 4 years is a alot, I've had gfs for 4, 6, 4, 3 years throughout my life before marrying my wife. It's hard to close a door whenever you won't allow anything new to come in, you have to experience more than this girl otherwise you don't know where your perfect match could be. The one that everything flows with, the one that is basically a perfect fit to the puzzle without all the butting heads in the way.
Pursue the dreams and goals you have at hand and have fun
Now LIVE!!!!!!
Maybe you could chop her up and mail her to CA., then you can be together forever.
Chris, there are plenty of beautiful women here in L.A., as I'm sure you have already witnessed for yourself. You seem to have a clear picture of the goals you want to achieve and I feel that this girl will only hold you back. BTW, welcome to L.A.!