Think about it, though, jye: Was the actual film too far from that? Alderaan blows up, Leia's family and friends die a horrific death right in front of her eyes, and the next time we see her she's making a crack about Luke being a short stormtrooper. Leia not outwardly grieving *any* loss would be very much in character.
This is going to be a bit of a tangent, but what the hell. Lucas was consistent in his six movies when it came to grieving the dead. When Luke (with Owen and Beru) and Leia (with everyone on Alderaan) take their losses in stride, they move on and help serve others. But Anakin (with his mom and Padme) becomes a broken man when faced with losing his attachments, and he ends up drowned by selfishness and sells his soul.
This stuff wasn't an accident. The implicit and explicit themes about the value in accepting loss was a personal philosophy that Lucas wanted to convey about the way the cycle of life works. That's one of the great things about having a singular vision behind the whole story. Whether you agree with his philosophies or not, at least there were values being imparted. It wasn't entirely superficial and empty content just for the sake of content in order to fill a weekly time slot.
Okay, spiel over. I'm sure the OWK finale will provide the rich thematic underpinnings with personal views to impart, and prove it's not just empty content designed to pander.