Break ups suck. How do you rebound from a break up?
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Ive only skimmed the thread but Ive noticed a few things.
Everything you've pointed out as a problem with her, you've created an excuse for those problems (usually yourself) . She's an adult and makes her own decisions.
If she really wants to be with you she would be with you. Period, end of story.
Either she does care about you and doesn't have the balls to break it off permanently or she wants to keep you on a leash (which you are handing to her) while she runs around. Or she worries about making her parents happy rather than the person she may want to spend her LIFE with so she can come back to you later. Either of which is pissing all over any respect she should have for someone she "supposedly" loves.
Ive been there and you never realize how blind/dumb you are in the situation until you've removed yourself from it and moved on.
My advice to you would be to have one last sit down with her and tell her how you feel about EVERYTHING. Her, her parents, how you feel about her etc. Then let her know you're breaking it off. Completely. And that its out of your control.
If she wants to be with you, she will. She'll find you and you'll have a sappy movie moment of realizing you both want to be with each other and you'll know she's willing to fight for you and she WILL CHANGE for you.
The absolute WORST thing you can do is keeping up the puppy dog following / contact with her. You're only devaluing your own ego in her eyes. She would actually be impressed if you broke it off. Either she will come looking for you or she will not. Either way would be a win for you.
If she's not willing to fight for you now, then what other times in the future will she not stand by you?
Put the ball in her court and walk away and don't look back. If she doesn't follow, she's not worth your time anyway.
Stop groveling and selling yourself short. Stand up for the good person you know you are and stop buying into this so-called "constant constructive criticism" BS. If she really loves you she would want to lift you up, not beat you down...
I know this wasn't directed at me, but I found quite a bit of it applied to my own recent situation. I'm feeling better and less afraid having read this. Thanks brother.
thenammagazine
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I think the biggest mistake women make is expecting men to listen to them whine. It's in our genetic make-up to fix things and if we sit there and listen to _____fest 3000, we're gonna naturally have suggestions on how to improve/fix the situation. But that's not what they want. They expect you to sit there and just listen like some drooling, brainless zombie. If men do that, chances are they'll start thinking about other ____ and will tune out the ranting. But then, when said rant is over, they get butt____ed when the woman realizes he's not paying attention and sets him up for the fail with a quiz. If women were able to make it over that single hurdle, realize they need a fish, or a mirror, or a pet rock for that type of ____ instead of a man, relationships would last a hell of a lot longer.
Eli26
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I think the biggest mistake women make is expecting men to listen to them whine. It's in our genetic make-up to fix things and if we sit there and listen to _____fest 3000, we're gonna naturally have suggestions on how to improve/fix the situation. But that's not what they want. They expect you to sit there and just listen like some drooling, brainless zombie. If men do that, chances are they'll start thinking about other ____ and will tune out the ranting. But then, when said rant is over, they get butt____ed when the woman realizes he's not paying attention and sets him up for the fail with a quiz. If women were able to make it over that single hurdle, realize they need a fish, or a mirror, or a pet rock for that type of ____ instead of a man, relationships would last a hell of a lot longer.
Amen!
Women are emotional thinkers. Men are logical thinkers.
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I think the biggest mistake women make is expecting men to listen to them whine. It's in our genetic make-up to fix things and if we sit there and listen to _____fest 3000, we're gonna naturally have suggestions on how to improve/fix the situation. But that's not what they want. They expect you to sit there and just listen like some drooling, brainless zombie. If men do that, chances are they'll start thinking about other ____ and will tune out the ranting. But then, when said rant is over, they get butt____ed when the woman realizes he's not paying attention and sets him up for the fail with a quiz. If women were able to make it over that single hurdle, realize they need a fish, or a mirror, or a pet rock for that type of ____ instead of a man, relationships would last a hell of a lot longer.
I lost count on how many times I got in trouble for suggesting solutions.... that is so true.... they would be yapping and yapping about this and that,
and then when I would say something positive or suggest something, then I Turned up either the bad guy or against them... that made me so mad...
BB&WSF
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More than break ups, manipulations before that, or otherwise, suck. Both people need to be wary of it, though I have an opinion that the fairer sex has more knack for it. Simply because men fall prey to it easily and most of the times do not even realise its happening. At least that's what I have seen among friends and peers.
Someone told me, "The one who is detached in a relationship, is the one who commands it." which I believe is actually true, if you think about it.
Someone told me, "The one who is detached in a relationship, is the one who commands it." which I believe is actually true, if you think about it.
it is true, as a guy they start to push boundaries sometimes and start controlling the relationship, the couple starts doing things only she likes, eating where she likes, I mean yeah as a guy you try to be as nice as a possible, but sometimes that turns into a controlling relationship, I've seen it too, my friend had to sneak in to see Silent Hill the movie because the girlfriend hated horror movies and wouldn't go, he is a big fan of the game so he had to say he was doing something else, because for some reason he couldn't go to the movies without her, if he was going to see the movies it had to be with her always and see what she wanted, I understand wanting to be nice to your gf, but in his case it was not good lol.
BB&WSF
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See, if one has to lie about a movie, you can imagine where they are heading.
Anyways, my wishes to Eli that he finds a way to make things better. As they say, sometimes you have to go through the worst to get to the best.
Anyways, my wishes to Eli that he finds a way to make things better. As they say, sometimes you have to go through the worst to get to the best.
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Ooof. Duck and cover!
No, women generally build relationships off a near constant exchange of information. Because they generally aren't comfortable acting as self starters or actuators, they'll require a preset genetic level of support and a feeling of belonging before moving on. You can't get away by being aloof all the time so make sure you read something on the Huff Puff to throw them a bone or their favorite, some savory tidbit from the office!
The temptation might be to fall into the excess chitty-chat. Don't do it! And never tell them how you really feel! EVER!
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Good stuff.
Eli26
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Nice!
Amen...
A-F*A*CKING-MEN!!!
Amen...
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I think the biggest mistake women make is expecting men to listen to them whine. It's in our genetic make-up to fix things and if we sit there and listen to _____fest 3000, we're gonna naturally have suggestions on how to improve/fix the situation. But that's not what they want. They expect you to sit there and just listen like some drooling, brainless zombie. If men do that, chances are they'll start thinking about other ____ and will tune out the ranting. But then, when said rant is over, they get butt____ed when the woman realizes he's not paying attention and sets him up for the fail with a quiz. If women were able to make it over that single hurdle, realize they need a fish, or a mirror, or a pet rock for that type of ____ instead of a man, relationships would last a hell of a lot longer.
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