Collecting & Girls - What's your experience?

[devilof76]

Short-range values are cheap.

Anyone who thinks that's selfish has issues.

 

[Eli26]

best... Effing... Gif... Ever...

Evvvvvveeeerrrrrr


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[crows]

My observation is that, in general, in life, there is a very small percentage of people outside of your family who will love and accept you for you. ( And in many cases, many people don't even get that from their families, it's just more likely than from strangers) And if you are a guy, you have to, IMHO, accept that there is an even smaller percentage of most women out there who will love and accept you for you.

IMHO, a very small percentage of adult women will take the perspective of what will makes their guy happy or not. ( I'd say about 1 percent of all women) What makes them happy is mutually exclusive to what he can or cannot offer her in terms of social status or material items or external validation.

A much larger percentage, will base her feelings on how it makes her feel and what it can do or not do for her and whether it externally or internally validates her. (I'd say about 99 percent of all women) In these cases, how she might see your collection is relative to the rest of your life and what you have to offer her. If you are a powerful wealthy CEO and hung like a horse and hot women are chasing you all over town, then your collection is a way to "let off steam" or "a sign of your creativity" If you are not, and you are useful because she likes attention or is bored or wants someone to buy her a free dinner this weekend, then your collection could be seen as "embarrassing"

In your case, she was rude, but if you were, no offense, some super movie star like Ryan Gosling or whatever her cup of tea, had millions in the bank and was desirable to tons of women, do you think she would have said a word if she thought it was childish?

What I'm saying is whether or not a woman approves or your collection or not isn't always the greatest test to see if she's a good egg or not. A better test, IMHO, is simply to observe her when she is told "No" or doesn't get what she wants or is presented with a situation under some level of duress or faces disappointment to her raised expectations. Also observe her when she around people who can do something for her ( get her a job, help her get a promotion, access to certain social things, raise her social standing, etc) versus people who cannot. Look what happens when she doesn't get what she wants, how do you think she is going to treat you when you don't give her what she wants?

IMHO, do your best to try to observe people and make the connections on what their behaviors and reactions tell you about them as a person. And on your end, try to be the kind of person that you hope to deal with in life on a regular basis. Sadly, many people, I'd say most adults, live and die on external validation, which is why so many people are disposable to them. The only real answer to meeting better people is to try to be the best person you can be yourself.

Good luck.

the one thing I will never get is why women stay in relatioships with guys that beat them and cheat on them, while the world and the media makes fun of nerds, but those guys are called players..
it is so backwards and weird, that is behavior I will never understand, it is true that most women will make fun of your toys, yet there are hundreds of women that stay with a-holes just because they are cool or have money/ reputation,

 

[Irvy]

the one thing I will never get is why women stay in relatioships with guys that beat them and cheat on them, while the world and the media makes fun of nerds, but those guys are called players..
it is so backwards and weird, that is behavior I will never understand, it is true that most women will make fun of your toys, yet there are hundreds of women that stay with a-holes just because they are cool or have money/ reputation,

 

[The Ween]

Does anyone else here use a colored font?

I thought I saw a blue one once, but I'm not sure.

Buffy uses blue sometimes.

 

[The Ween]

I think I'm learning something from this thread. Really.
And maybe I should post this in purple font?


Anyway, as a woman and not a 'girl'... I have to agree, if someone makes you feel crappy for your collection, then Yes, it shows there's a lack of respect. And in my humble opinion, relationships cannot go very far if there is not mutual respect and consideration.

I did have one guy, years ago and before I was married, stand in my living room and say "What's all this $h!t about?"
Didn't feel very good. But he's the only one, ever. Everyone else loves my stuff.

That being said, here I am in my mid 40's, divorced and dating. You had better believe I'm going to pay close attention to how a man manages his money.
I *really* wished I had paid closer attention to my ex's spending habits before we married. Once we were though, out of respect, I would only comment if he would ask my opinion. Money never went to savings or to our future. Only his collection. That also didn't feel very good.

But! He still got laid as often as he wanted.

Sam!

Aren't these relationship rules hard? Here I thought I was suppose to have a lot of sex with a man before I got married to trap him, then after that, only have sex once a year and take all his money.

 

[The Ween]

No ****.

It's getting really stupid now.

When I read some of this crap, it's a wonder I like men at all.

 

[crows]

Sam!

Aren't these relationship rules hard? Here I thought I was suppose to have a lot of sex with a man before I got married to trap him, then after that, only have sex once a year and take all his money.

you know this game very well, very well my friend

 

[The Ween]

you know this game very well, very well my friend

That's one thing I don't do.

 

[devilof76]

When it becomes a game, it gets stupid.

 

[crows]

I know Ween was joking, but so many girls do that, I've seen it happen,

 

[The Ween]

When it becomes a game, it gets stupid.

Amen, and a waste of time.

I know Ween was joking, but so many girls do that, I've seen it happen,

What was I joking about?

Some men play games too. Difference in my thinking than in your's is that I know they aren't all that way.

Widen your interests in women. I think you're choosing the same type all the time.

 

[crows]

Amen, and a waste of time.



What was I joking about?

Some men play games too. Difference in my thinking than in your's is that I know they aren't all that way.

Widen your interests in women. I think you're choosing the same type all the time.

that has never happened to me, I mean, I would have to be married lol


I said I've seen it happen, even like Nam said about the one time a year BD sex,

widen interests in women? how many types are there?

 

[The Ween]

that has never happened to me, I mean, I would have to be married lol


I said I've seen it happen, even like Nam said about the one time a year BD sex,

widen interests in women? how many types are there?

Oh my.

 

[ZsaszSays]

This thread is vearing off of its original intent very fast. Maybe I should make clear that this isnt a thread for women and men to badmouth eachother. I simply just wanted a general discussion on men's experiences when it came to the two subjects. That's it. I dont know why the conversation has gone in the direction it has, and I dont know why everyone keeps stating the obvious. Try to keep it on track...

 

[CAhobbit]

the one thing I will never get is why women stay in relatioships with guys that beat them and cheat on them, while the world and the media makes fun of nerds, but those guys are called players..
it is so backwards and weird, that is behavior I will never understand, it is true that most women will make fun of your toys, yet there are hundreds of women that stay with a-holes just because they are cool or have money/ reputation,

Many factors. But a lot women I've known that stayed in abusive relationships did so because they were afraid to be alone (so they'd stick with the jerk) didn't think they deserved better (due to self esteem issues, exposure to past abuse, etc.), or were afraid to leave.

To certain folks looking in it may seem so easy for those in abusive relationships to walk away but for most it simply isn't for reasons I listed above or probably other reasons that I failed to list above.

 

[Blackthornone]

Many factors. But a lot women I've known that stayed in abusive relationships did so because they were afraid to be alone (so they'd stick with the jerk) didn't think they deserved better (due to self esteem issues, exposure to past abuse, etc.), or were afraid to leave.

To certain folks looking in it may seem so easy for those in abusive relationships to walk away but for most it simply isn't for reasons I listed above or probably other reasons that I failed to list above.

I agree.
Many women have been conditioned to either think it's ok and hope for the best or they will believe they can change the man and tame him because other things about him attract her.
Many women prefer the idea of trying to turn the jerk who is a great performer (because he has an aggressive personality) into the nice guy over inspiring a less aggressive guy who is nice into a great performer.
As far as I know, this approach doesn't work.

 

[ZaCHw117]

I just show em' my gun collection and they come crawling right to me.

 

[thenammagazine]

the one thing I will never get is why women stay in relatioships with guys that beat them and cheat on them, while the world and the media makes fun of nerds, but those guys are called players..
it is so backwards and weird, that is behavior I will never understand, it is true that most women will make fun of your toys, yet there are hundreds of women that stay with a-holes just because they are cool or have money/ reputation,

As Alex said, sometimes they are afraid to be alone and in the non-homicidal moments, use their significant other's attentions to counter the feeling of worthlessness they have after getting treated like **** and beat on like a punching bag.

On the flipside, you have women with stubborn pride who like "bad boys" and look at them as projects often times not realizing until it's too late that the behavior is never gonna change and their inability to give up and leave the ******* is actually enabling his behavior.

I just show em' my gun collection and they come crawling right to me.

HA! I knew that was you!

 

[crows]

you know, if women in real life looked like they did in comics, or toys and figures, statues that people buy,

they would look like this:

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