when i read your post. and it said that your woman wanted you to sell your crap. that is what i deal with all the time. if she had it her way, i would sell all my collection and give her the money. F_ _ _ K THAT!
My girlfriend and I broke up.
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Voorhees27
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Man I must be the luckiest guy here, my wife has always been super cool with who I am and what I do. Mind you I never hid anything from her, what she first saw was exactly what she got.
Eli, you're a strong dude and i'm proud of you because you simply did the RIGHT thing! There is NO time in this world for imprisonment and there is no healthy need for it in a relationship.
Be dead honest with the next one. If she don't like, she can take a hike.
Eli, you're a strong dude and i'm proud of you because you simply did the RIGHT thing! There is NO time in this world for imprisonment and there is no healthy need for it in a relationship.
Be dead honest with the next one. If she don't like, she can take a hike.
minivader
Super Freak
sorry to hear about your break up, sometimes things just don't work out no matter how much you love one another. But I agree with most people on the forum here that you made the right decision.
SOLIDSNAKE
Super Freak
Sorry to hear Eli but she should love you for who you are.
If She really really loves She would like what you like.
I think you made the right decison.
This happend to a friend of mine.
We had a party at hes house and he was starting to go out with this realy hot blond. My friend has a big brand new house so ofcourse this broad was Interested as always.
So we are having this party and this chicks friends all showed up so she asks my friend that she wants to give the girls a tour of the house, he sais np.
I was going to the bathroom and I passed hes studio where all the girls where and I hear my friends chick say you see this stupid stuff will be all gone once I move in.
My buddies movies collection, mc farlane figures and Hes Dragonball z Collection.
I got so pissed off I went in there and said " WOW !! 2 weeks and you alreasy want to change my friend and get rid of all the things he like "
I was so pissed about that I told my friend !
He dumped her 3 days after !
Sometimes my wife dosent agree with the money I spend in Collectibles but she really loves them and takes care of them.
She tells me is who you are and That makes you Happy.
If She really really loves She would like what you like.
I think you made the right decison.
This happend to a friend of mine.
We had a party at hes house and he was starting to go out with this realy hot blond. My friend has a big brand new house so ofcourse this broad was Interested as always.
So we are having this party and this chicks friends all showed up so she asks my friend that she wants to give the girls a tour of the house, he sais np.
I was going to the bathroom and I passed hes studio where all the girls where and I hear my friends chick say you see this stupid stuff will be all gone once I move in.
My buddies movies collection, mc farlane figures and Hes Dragonball z Collection.
I got so pissed off I went in there and said " WOW !! 2 weeks and you alreasy want to change my friend and get rid of all the things he like "
I was so pissed about that I told my friend !
He dumped her 3 days after !
Sometimes my wife dosent agree with the money I spend in Collectibles but she really loves them and takes care of them.
She tells me is who you are and That makes you Happy.
hellboy120
Super Freak
Sorry to hear that, bro. I hope everything gonna be better for you.
Darth Caedus
Formerly Congerking
DarkArtist81
Super Freak
You did the right thing Eli, no matter how much it hurts you now. I went through this several times myself, and I'm glad I didn't stay and give up what I loved just to keep them.
Anytime someone is so self conscious that Maxim magazine makes them start to question themselves and the relationship, they need to be let go.
Anybody who would want you to give up something you love, change you into something you are not, even want you to get rid of your animals (whom you no doubt love)..... isn't worth the time.
You will find a woman who appreciates you, ALL of you... everything you love.. and when you do, you will be very glad that you waited.
My Wife was a little apprehensive of my collection when we met, but she stuck with me because she loved me. Eventually she came to love the fact that I collect, if not simply because it's not as bad as having a drug habit or as expensive as collecting cars or worse.... WOMEN. I am home a lot, and my passions are harmless. Over the years she has allowed the dork life to permeate her own, and now she goes to conventions with me and allows PF's in the living room.
You will find her one day, trust me there. Just don't ever allow someone to tell you what you can and can't do with yourself. Enjoy what you enjoy, and find someone who lets you be you.
Anytime someone is so self conscious that Maxim magazine makes them start to question themselves and the relationship, they need to be let go.
Anybody who would want you to give up something you love, change you into something you are not, even want you to get rid of your animals (whom you no doubt love)..... isn't worth the time.
You will find a woman who appreciates you, ALL of you... everything you love.. and when you do, you will be very glad that you waited.
My Wife was a little apprehensive of my collection when we met, but she stuck with me because she loved me. Eventually she came to love the fact that I collect, if not simply because it's not as bad as having a drug habit or as expensive as collecting cars or worse.... WOMEN. I am home a lot, and my passions are harmless. Over the years she has allowed the dork life to permeate her own, and now she goes to conventions with me and allows PF's in the living room.
You will find her one day, trust me there. Just don't ever allow someone to tell you what you can and can't do with yourself. Enjoy what you enjoy, and find someone who lets you be you.
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Sometimes love is blind.. and what we think/feel for someone, which masks what really is going on.
I say Bravo Eli for speaking your mind and stepping out of this trap!!!
I dating plenty of chicks (that I thought I loved) like this and can honestly say it would have ended in nasty divorce.
I am now happily married to a woman who never does any of those things... if fact she suports me!
NEVER EVER put up with someone trying to change you!!
GrueSam
The Queen of Darkness
Eli,
I'm sorry you're going through this but everyone has said all the right things.
You did say that you have already learned something... And what that is is of *extreme* importance:
That love is not enough.
It isn't.
(Take it from me- I'm going through a divorce.)
She sounds very young. If not in age, then in maturity. It takes time for a girl/woman to attain the confidence and self acceptance that will allow her to truly love another for who he is and not what she's looking for.
(And to be okay with a porn mag!
)
But remember this:
Many women accept too much in the beginning of a relationship only to expect too much later.
We change the terms of the relationship and it is not fair to the men.
Also, if you are still a full time student, then you are probably too distrated to foster a long term commitment now anyway.
Take this time for yourself and just date. Figure out who you are, what you want in a woman and have fun!
-samantha
I'm sorry you're going through this but everyone has said all the right things.
You did say that you have already learned something... And what that is is of *extreme* importance:
That love is not enough.
It isn't.
(Take it from me- I'm going through a divorce.)
She sounds very young. If not in age, then in maturity. It takes time for a girl/woman to attain the confidence and self acceptance that will allow her to truly love another for who he is and not what she's looking for.
(And to be okay with a porn mag!
)But remember this:
Many women accept too much in the beginning of a relationship only to expect too much later.
We change the terms of the relationship and it is not fair to the men.
Also, if you are still a full time student, then you are probably too distrated to foster a long term commitment now anyway.
Take this time for yourself and just date. Figure out who you are, what you want in a woman and have fun!
-samantha
Also, if you are still a full time student, then you are probably too distrated to foster a long term commitment now anyway.
Take this time for yourself and just date. Figure out who you are, what you want in a woman and have fun!
-samantha
This is the best advise in this thread.
GrueSam
The Queen of Darkness
Thank you, Marc!
the Doctor
Just a little Freaky
congrats on ridding yourself of a total nut job!
consider this the first day of the rest of your life with a chance of some fun!
there's plenty other fish in the sea so get your rod and tackle out and go hook a nice one!
consider this the first day of the rest of your life with a chance of some fun!
there's plenty other fish in the sea so get your rod and tackle out and go hook a nice one!
Anzik
Super Freak
My girlfriend and I broke up too and my wife had absolutely no sympathy for me.
But seriously... I have no idea what makes a winning relationship but selfishness doesn't help it. She's apparently got lots of issues and wasn't shy about telling you what she didn't like but did she ever tell you what she DID like?
A friend of mine has taken up this little habit of putting little proverbs on her facebook page and one really tickled me: A woman marries a man hoping he will change and a man marries a woman he hopes will never change. Both are ultimately disappointed.
One more thing about the whole Maxim thing. Most women ignore the fact that men are hardwired to be visually stimulated. Often they act repulsed by this but don't hesitate to dress up to get a mans attention. Each sex has its own issues and hang ups that the other has to try and understand and I think that is a good place to start. We all have to battle our natural tendencies but finding a partner who understands that is probably a good start.
But seriously... I have no idea what makes a winning relationship but selfishness doesn't help it. She's apparently got lots of issues and wasn't shy about telling you what she didn't like but did she ever tell you what she DID like?
A friend of mine has taken up this little habit of putting little proverbs on her facebook page and one really tickled me: A woman marries a man hoping he will change and a man marries a woman he hopes will never change. Both are ultimately disappointed.
One more thing about the whole Maxim thing. Most women ignore the fact that men are hardwired to be visually stimulated. Often they act repulsed by this but don't hesitate to dress up to get a mans attention. Each sex has its own issues and hang ups that the other has to try and understand and I think that is a good place to start. We all have to battle our natural tendencies but finding a partner who understands that is probably a good start.
Fritz
My muse is a fickle b**ch
Sorry to hear that Eli. But after reading that list I think you are better off to be quite honest. Good luck.
anybody who really loves you or cares about you wants you to be happy.
Obviously she was more concerned about herself than you, your happiness and your relationship.
Go find a new girl(s) and enjoy yourself and don't look back ....
You made the right decision James, you and this girl were not right for eachother. She kept trying to change you when she should have accepted you for who you are from the beginning. It's a very good thing you got to know her first and didn't get married, it would've sucked for all this to occur after making that kind of commitment. I don't understand why some women seem to put up a front and act like they are okay with certain things, then when they get comfortable with you all of a sudden they have a problem with it. Lame.
Eli,
I'm sorry you're going through this but everyone has said all the right things.
You did say that you have already learned something... And what that is is of *extreme* importance:
That love is not enough.
It isn't.
(Take it from me- I'm going through a divorce.)
She sounds very young. If not in age, then in maturity. It takes time for a girl/woman to attain the confidence and self acceptance that will allow her to truly love another for who he is and not what she's looking for.
(And to be okay with a porn mag!
But remember this:
Many women accept too much in the beginning of a relationship only to expect too much later.
We change the terms of the relationship and it is not fair to the men.
Also, if you are still a full time student, then you are probably too distrated to foster a long term commitment now anyway.
Take this time for yourself and just date. Figure out who you are, what you want in a woman and have fun!
-samantha
What they said!
My girlfriend and I broke up too and my wife had absolutely no sympathy for me.
That's too funny!!
Morbach
Super Freak
Yeah along with love you both have to want to make it work. A relationship is not something that just happens and is natural. You have to work at it and if you're both willing to do that then you've got something special. But when you're not then you aren't that important to each other obviously. You have to work at it. Don't let it get stale. Do new things (not just in the bed ) like instead of your typical routine of the same few restaraunts. Take her out somewhere nice or some place like the park and have a picnic you made yourself.
And she's gotta work at it too. Like do things for you that are important to you. She has to work at it just as much. It's an effort and if you find someone you really like that likes you equal then you'll go through the sacrafices you need to go through to make it work and make each other happy. And obviously you need someone who supports you and has some things in common with you. Even if she doesn't get things you do (like collecting) if she likes you she'll come to love that about you.
Sorry it didn't work out,man. But there's plenty of other's out there. You'll be fine.
) like instead of your typical routine of the same few restaraunts. Take her out somewhere nice or some place like the park and have a picnic you made yourself.And she's gotta work at it too. Like do things for you that are important to you. She has to work at it just as much. It's an effort and if you find someone you really like that likes you equal then you'll go through the sacrafices you need to go through to make it work and make each other happy. And obviously you need someone who supports you and has some things in common with you. Even if she doesn't get things you do (like collecting) if she likes you she'll come to love that about you.
Sorry it didn't work out,man. But there's plenty of other's out there. You'll be fine.
Voorhees27
Super Freak
Yeah along with love you both have to want to make it work. A relationship is not something that just happens and is natural. You have to work at it and if you're both willing to do that then you've got something special. But when you're not then you aren't that important to each other obviously. You have to work at it. Don't let it get stale. Do new things (not just in the bed
And she's gotta work at it too. Like do things for you that are important to you. She has to work at it just as much. It's an effort and if you find someone you really like that likes you equal then you'll go through the sacrafices you need to go through to make it work and make each other happy. And obviously you need someone who supports you and has some things in common with you. Even if she doesn't get things you do (like collecting) if she likes you she'll come to love that about you.
Sorry it didn't work out,man. But there's plenty of other's out there. You'll be fine.
This is the only post you need to read Eli. Very well said. 
