I wanted to ask a serious question to couples. Do you and your partner feel ok about going to clubs, etc, alone? With other friends? And if both of you do, great. But if only one of you does...what do you do? How do you handle that? Do you even want to go to clubs? lol.
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Eli26
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Just go out to the clubs. Seriously, so silly BG. hehe
ProgMatinee
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First, it depends how serious the relationship is, but assuming its an exclusive one, i say its a no-no personally.
I mean, maybe once in a while on very certain circumstances, like its a friend's birthday and your S.O. can't make but you want to celebrate with your friend, etc.
But if you or your S.O. is going to the club to dance, drink, and potentially mix with new people, then its a little shady IMO. If that person is going alone (I mean without even their friends) to a club that is WAY WAY shady. LOL. Who goes to clubs alone if its not with the intention to hook up?
I mean, maybe once in a while on very certain circumstances, like its a friend's birthday and your S.O. can't make but you want to celebrate with your friend, etc.
But if you or your S.O. is going to the club to dance, drink, and potentially mix with new people, then its a little shady IMO. If that person is going alone (I mean without even their friends) to a club that is WAY WAY shady. LOL. Who goes to clubs alone if its not with the intention to hook up?
The Mike
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Yes, I could care less if she goes and I've gone to clubs before by myself.
She goes more than me with her friends because they always want ladies nights.
I really don't go. I've gone to strip clubs and things like that when a friend is getting married or moving away, received a huge promotion and sponsoring it. It is few and far between though. She goes though more than I do and I could care less. The way I see it, I trust that she won't do anything and if she does better I learn now then 10 years or 20 years down the road. If we are meant to be together then the transgressions won't occur, if they do and we are not, stopping her from going to clubs ain't gonna stop that. Why worry?
Eli26
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My girlfriend goes with her friends all the time. Ain't nothing shady. Trust is key in relationships. If you don't have that, then what's the point of being in the relationship in the first place?
Shai responds... sex. lol
Shai responds... sex. lol
Darth Madden
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Both of us hate going to clubs so we are fine.
Eli26
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Because like in the Mike's situation, you trust eachother.
I'm sorry, BG... you're one of my fav people on here, but this is a silly thread.
Eli26
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sick
Wow, he sounds like an a-hole. I wonder if she wears shackles at home and calls him the warden.
Shropt
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I personally wouldn't let my wife go to a club unless it is a large group of girls that are in serious relationships/married. She would also need to call me a few times during the night.
Its not that I don't trust her, I don't trust the guys that go to clubs.
Its not that I don't trust her, I don't trust the guys that go to clubs.
Reinhardt
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as mentioned, it's all about trust. what is the main reason you are going? for the music, for a good time with friends, or to pick up? yeah, sometimes i feel weird going out (not to clubs per say, but anywhere where there are hot women - a lounge, bar or concert)... it doesn't matter how much i love my wife and think she is hot, and know i won't that I won't do anything I regret... i'm still a guy and can't help but look at the menu (without ordering).
as long as each of you understand one's intentions, and are in agreement on that, then there shouldn't be any issues.
as long as each of you understand one's intentions, and are in agreement on that, then there shouldn't be any issues.
We both outgrew the club scene while we were still single. The national divorce rate is 50% and we don't plan to be a statistic. No "meat market" settings if we aren't together. Period.
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Well I dont have this issue because I never have serious relationships.
Playa fo life :chew
Seriously though, the reason I never have them is because these are exactly the kind of restrictions women try to put on me time and time again.
The Mike
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That's the thing I've never been in that situation, I've never cared. Even when I was dating girls that blantantly cheated on me. I chalked it up to "Now I know" broke up and moved on.
See to me this is a cop out. This is saying you don't trust her without saying you don't trust her. Its takes two to cheat, plain and simple. If she gets hit on and flirted with and just shoots them down, then what is the harm? I trust my wife completely, she goes out and I don't need to check on her, I don't care if she heads out with all single women or not.
This kind of thing brings up an interesting question. Are you avoiding the possibilty of becoming a statistic or just not a statistic? If you take a thief somewhere where they can't steal are they still a thief? Or are they someone with thiving tendencies that just doesn't have opportunities?
Eli26
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What an insane jumble of ironey that your name is Trustey...
Anyway, may I call you the fuhrer? I kid I kid... maybe.
Eli26
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The Mike;1726244 See to me this is a cop out. This is saying you don't trust her without saying you don't trust her. Its takes two to cheat said:Well said.
Without trust, you can't have a long lasting relationship. Or, it's very difficult and is a rare thing if it works.
Kabukiman
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My wife can do whatever the hell she feels like, and she trusts me to do the same. 
She's a grown woman, and I sure as hell ain't her dad.
She's a grown woman, and I sure as hell ain't her dad.
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