Why the F do girls have this much effect on people???

[Morbach]

Chris, your problem now is that you're trying to get over her and that is why you don't want to face her and talk to her. You're coming to your senses and know what you need to do but seeing her and talking might make you fall back into the traps again. I have been ther. Tough it out and get the talking over with. Don't run from your problem. Talk to her and stand your ground. You need to get through this and over it and the only way to do that is to stand your ground no matter how hard it is. Don't give in, right now she thinks she can play you and has you wrapped around her finger. Take charge of the situation. Only you have power over you.

 

[Bannister]

Chris, your problem now is that you're trying to get over her and that is why you don't want to face her and talk to her. You're coming to your senses and know what you need to do but seeing her and talking might make you fall back into the traps again. I have been ther. Tough it out and get the talking over with. Don't run from your problem. Talk to her and stand your ground. You need to get through this and over it and the only way to do that is to stand your ground no matter how hard it is. Don't give in, right now she thinks she can play you and has you wrapped around her finger. Take charge of the situation. Only you have power over you.

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[Morbach]

 

[ChrisCJ99]

Chris, your problem now is that you're trying to get over her and that is why you don't want to face her and talk to her. You're coming to your senses and know what you need to do but seeing her and talking might make you fall back into the traps again. I have been ther. Tough it out and get the talking over with. Don't run from your problem. Talk to her and stand your ground. You need to get through this and over it and the only way to do that is to stand your ground no matter how hard it is. Don't give in, right now she thinks she can play you and has you wrapped around her finger. Take charge of the situation. Only you have power over you.

That's exactly right. I honestly don't know what'll happen when we speak in person..... Buuuuut, it's so much better being across the country

 

[Black@ssB0lt]

I think you should just get back with her.

 

[ChrisCJ99]

I think you should just get back with her.

Nooooo thanks

 

[ChrisCJ99]

Kinda pointless to do that from across the country anyways!

"Sure, let's get back together...... Sooooo. I'll call u"

 

[Black@ssB0lt]

All I'm saying is that this has gone on long enough. I don't mean this thread, I mean this pattern. I have seen 4 friends go through this type of situation with the difference being that theirs was alot worse than yours (from what I can glean from this thread) and three of them got away by sheer luck though just like you they had TONS of people with all the same answer: "Get the hell out of there", the fourth married his. All four of them said the same things you typed, "I know", alsway agreeing with everyone that they needed to get away but in the end it was blind luck for the free ones. And these were worse than yours, so really, if you are planning an talking at all with her it's game over for you. That you typed "I don't know what will happen" regargding your contact with her says it all to me. You will be back with her. So just do it.

 

[ChrisCJ99]

All I'm saying is that this has gone on long enough. I don't mean this thread, I mean this pattern. I have seen 4 friends go through this type of situation with the difference being that theirs was alot worse than yours (from what I can glean from this thread) and three of them got away by sheer luck though just like you they had TONS of people with all the same answer: "Get the hell out of there", the fourth married his. All four of them said the same things you typed, "I know", alsway agreeing with everyone that they needed to get away but in the end it was blind luck for the free ones. And these were worse than yours, so really, if you are planning an talking at all with her it's game over for you. That you typed "I don't know what will happen" regargding your contact with her says it all to me. You will be back with her. So just do it.

So you mean that of the four friends, THREE of them did NOT get back with their partner?

I see what you mean... I'm not going to lie to myself and to everyone and say "NO WAY! There's NO chance in hell I'm EVERY gonna talk or gt back with her".... Realistically the situation could've been worse (she cheated, got with someone else, etc) But luckily it isn't that bad..... Regardless I'm just happy with the progress I've made with my life WITHOUT her. Ya know? So it just makes things difficult when you come home and someone wants to see you and remind you of certain things, making your decision more difficult. But like I said, at least I'm living across the country right now and the thought of being single isn't so bad right now

And like I said, I'll keep you guys posted

 

[Morbach]

If you can patch things up, bro, then good for you. I hope regardless the outcome you're happy. That is all that matters. But DO NOT lie to yourself if deep down you know things are wrong. It take7 two to make a couple so you BOTH need to want this. One of you isn't going to make it work. That will only keep you together a little longer and will still end the same. When you talk to her try and keep your emotions from clouding your judgement because that will trigger denial. It is hard but try to do that so you can see and think clearly and logically. And most important, realistically. Good luck.

 

[mr.thrifty]

If you don't get back with her, at least get one last

 

[Black@ssB0lt]

If you don't get back with her, at least get one last

I will never be able to look at that emoticon the same way again.

 

[DannieDarKo]

Dude you need to take matters into your own hands.

For example last night was the third time the best friend of my girlfriends brother hit on her. He does it when I am not around and she is barely telling me now!?!?!?!

What am i going to do about?

Pay some of my low-life buddies that need cash to find and beat the crap out of him to the point where he will miss work for at least a week. Usually $100-200 takes care of it. Problem solved!

In the end just stick to the, "I don't know what you're talking about?"

 

[ChrisCJ99]

Dude you need to take matters into your own hands.

For example last night was the third time the best friend of my girlfriends brother hit on her. He does it when I am not around and she is barely telling me now!?!?!?!

What am i going to do about?

Pay some of my low-life buddies that need cash to find and beat the crap out of him to the point where he will miss work for at least a week. Usually $100-200 takes care of it. Problem solved!

In the end just stick to the, "I don't know what you're talking about?"

Oh man, I've been in those shoes before.... The one little backstabber that will try to get a poke in where ever they can!!!

When I was confronted with that issue, I just told the BOTH of them to go F themselves..... Problem solved

 

[ChrisCJ99]

To me, and this is just me, it doesn't matter how good the sex is, doesn't matter how hot the girl is, doesn't matter how bad you want to get laid, if you are a guy and you are dealing with a twitchy emotionally unstable ex, it's just a good idea to take a flamethrower and burn the living hell out of that bridge.


Gekko

I couldn't help but to laugh when I read that!!!

But man, great elaboration. I totally hear what you're saying. Luckily I'm not out just to get action. The factors you mentioned have ALWAYS crossed my mind, and is why I play it safe always :cool

 

[GrueSam]

Gordon (David),
Very often you type sheer, brilliant truth.

 

[316what]

But I will say, I'm REALLY impressed how much feedback and reads I've gotten on this thread!

That's because everyone loves a train wreck.

And my advice is to NOT talk to her when you go home....if it's over then it's over. No need to talk. But from your responses in the thread it's evident your sack isn't full yet, so we can fully expect this thread to live on while we laugh and said WE TOLD YOU SO DUMMY.

 

[Skiman]

I don't like it whenever Chris ends the statement with, "I'll keep you guys posted"

That spells out DOOMED!!!!!!

 

[ChrisCJ99]

I don't like it whenever Chris ends the statement with, "I'll keep you guys posted"

That spells out DOOMED!!!!!!

Well, just realistically I know contact will be made eventually..... I'm not pushing it. I DEF haven't been the one contacting her, so I'm keeping up MY end of the deal.

The only thing in regards to Doom that SHOULD have related to me was your Doom PF you sold.........

Man, I never thought you'd sell that thing..... and it's still my dream piece

 

[Morbach]

You're in a tight spot, Chris. I really don't have any advice left to give. From what me and everyone else has told you, you have all the wisdom any one guy could get for one situation. Rather you use it right and smartly is all on you, buddy. I will say the redeeming this relationship is terribly hard since it's gone this far. But IF you can and do pull it off and get a HEALTHY relationship out of it it'll be your turn to do your part and pass us some tips.