I guess its something to think over, but I don't think I have to equally enjoy or equally hate seeing homosexuality and heterosexuality on tv to make me exempt from the label "bigot".
I agree. We all have our prejudices; the dividing line is whether we chalk those up to ourselves or whether we try to impose them on other people. Being uncomfortable with black kids going to your white kids' school for the first time is not exactly the same thing as wishing they weren't allowed to attend - or worse, actively trying to do something about it.
To answer your question, I don't mind there being a gay character, I just question whether we need to be reminded all the time as if "gay" is the defining characteristic. I mean, I don't think most straight characters remind everyone that they're straight all the time?
This is where is gets much more complicated. Sociologists call this the invisibility of whiteness. Straight characters do in fact "remind everyone that they're straight all the time." We see this in flirtations and kisses and handholding and relationships. The problem is straight people don't actually notice that ... but they
do notice incidental characters like Sky or the more obvious ones like Captain Jack (and to be fair, he's hard to miss).
For example, a single word by Sky in Midnight got the forums heated after broadcast;
nobody said anything about there being an overtly heterosexual couple on the bus in Planet of the Dead. We've never seen a gay character on Doctor Who have a sustained storyline like Jackie and Pete enjoyed across the first two seasons; from the way people talk, you'd think this was Queer as Folk in space. Now to be fair we do have Jack and Ianto in a relationship over on Torchwood, but look how apoplectic some fans have gotten about that and
that's on a show for
adults.
I think the gay characters in Doctor Who stand out because most television is so homophobic gay characters are usually relegated to one supporting role per show, and that's usually a minstrel stereotype. I literally can't think of a single other show that's shown old lesbians. Ever. But they exist, and they deserve to be seen on TV alongside straight couples and Asians and Hispanics and everyone else who walks the planet.
So if anything, there's been an agenda to show all types of people. I think that's a positive thing, albeit one that stands out because TV is so relentlessly conservative in its representation of people who aren't straight and white. If RTD had had a
real gay agenda, the show would be drastically different than one that's exclusively featured heterosexual relationships among the leads. As with our dear BCM in a completely different context, a lot of what's on screen is really just baggage being brought by the viewers.