re: (galactiboy's Cantina) "Where everybody knows your name..."
I do my best. It's just that I don't like parties, Chicago is too congested and busy for me, and I've already met the love of my life, but she put me in the phantom zone on Facebook and I defriended her, so I'm done.
This is why you fail.
Ask yourself what it is you don't like about parties... and correct that.
*I don't like going to parties cause I always end up sitting in the corner and no one talks to me... = Go talk to people, don't wait for them to talk to you
*I don't like parties cause everyone is drinking and I don't... = who cares, drunk people are fun to entertain and they think you are 80% funnier than you actually are.

*I don't like parties cause there are too many people around... = single out a few people and head to the patio or somewhere less crowded
Chicago is too congested for you...
*It may seem that way cause you never give yourself a chance to get used to it. Think of it like swimming... dive in... eventually you get to know the flow of the waves and know what's what and it isn't so scary anymore. Same thing with girls... if you only approach the girls you are interested in then every encounter is going to be scary as hell. Overthinking every word and action cause it balances on if she will like you back or not. Talk to girls you aren't interested in just like you would someone you were interested in. (aside from telling them you like them.

) This I can tell you gets easier each time. I once dated a girl I started out having no interest in really at the beginning and she turned out to be one of the best girlfriends I ever had, and one of my best friends as well.
You've already met the love of your life...
*No, no you haven't. You only set her up as that in your mind... you never went out with her even. First date she could've eaten her peas with a knife and you'd say, "That's it! I'm out!" You think you'll never find someone better than her...? Better than someone who gave you mixed signals and cancelled plans and doesn't like what you like?... if that is where your bar is set... pick it up off the ground my friend, it should be much higher than that. You say you're done, but you never got started.
King D Cliff notes:
Find things to like at parties
Learn to drive with the flow, or get run over and left behind
The girl you love is in your head. Find another. Or give up and start having sex with Tony.