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There is a big difference from being legal and being an adult.just because its legal doesn't make it right.an 18 year old can still be in high school.is it right for a 40 year old to hit on her?anyone who thinks that it is ok is probly a 40 year old loser who never had a girlfriend and probly don't have any kids either.if you did I'm sure you wouldn't want your daughter bringing home someone like you.and if you try to say "what if the girl hits on me"does thbat mean if a 14 year old hits on you its ok.no its not.oh and also this is a collectables site,if you want to be a pedifile go to the nambla website you pervert
 
My thoughts: After the legal age limit, it's no longer about age. After all, age is just a number. It's about who you connect with. Their maturity level and where they are in their lives at that point. People are so stuck on age it's ridiculous.

It's no different then dating someone who isn't your skin colour. Would you rather your daughter date someone their own age and skin colour, who's abusive, or some guy outside of their skin colour who is 10 years older, but treats her with respect? In the end, we would hope that common sense sees you pick the latter of the two options. Better yet, whatever makes her happy is what it comes down to. People will do whatever they want in the end, no matter what you say or do. The best thing to do is step aside, and hope for the best.

As long as respect between the two is reciprocated, and both parties are able and willing legal age partners, I don't see a problem. We have our own ____ (be it issues or other personal demons) to deal with. The focus should be on you (your own individual self), rather than focusing or being concerned with what others do with their time or who they choose to date. Again, focus on you. Not others. Don't judge as you certainly wouldn't want to be judged, yourself.

Wow, :goodpost:
I can't believe im saying this, but, completely agree, very good post :exactly:

There is a big difference from being legal and being an adult.just because its legal doesn't make it right.an 18 year old can still be in high school.is it right for a 40 year old to hit on her?anyone who thinks that it is ok is probly a 40 year old loser who never had a girlfriend and probly don't have any kids either.if you did I'm sure you wouldn't want your daughter bringing home someone like you.and if you try to say "what if the girl hits on me"does thbat mean if a 14 year old hits on you its ok.no its not.oh and also this is a collectables site,if you want to be a pedifile go to the nambla website you pervert

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I agree 18 is still too young, and in some states the legal age is 16, which is still a kid, so I never understood why some states it changes like that, since they are still in highschool like you said,

(i can't believe im having to repeat myself..)
But like I Said Before, After 22 a person should be old enough to know what they want to do with their life and what is good for them, no one should really have to babysit a 23 year old in what they do, I mean, usually at that age people have moved out of their houses and live on their own, which is what I Said before, Im not saying is okay for 40 year olds to hit on 23 year olds, But im saying, someone that is 23 should be able to take care of themselves, and know what's best for them,

Like Eli26 said, so it would be better if you have a daughter to date a guy her age, a guy that could beat her up, cheat on her, leave her pregnant and disappear? I know that's worst case scenario but, it does happen,
I don't know why you say 14 since no one has said anything like that, that's not the subject, that's just going to turn this thread weird, :cuckoo: everyone has been pretty much talking about people in their 20's dating people in the 30's and 40's. so, I don't know :dunno you're talking about something else entirely, something wrong and gross,
 
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There is a big difference from being legal and being an adult.just because its legal doesn't make it right.an 18 year old can still be in high school.is it right for a 40 year old to hit on her?anyone who thinks that it is ok is probly a 40 year old loser who never had a girlfriend and probly don't have any kids either.if you did I'm sure you wouldn't want your daughter bringing home someone like you.and if you try to say "what if the girl hits on me"does thbat mean if a 14 year old hits on you its ok.no its not.oh and also this is a collectables site,if you want to be a pedifile go to the nambla website you pervert

What isn't right to you, maybe right to someone else. It's called having an opinion. We all have one. I do think it's a bit odd that a 50-year-old man would go for a 21-year-old girl, but if she's legal and willing, then maybe not. I can see the attraction. One would hope it's more than just the physical, but even if it's not, is it really our business? No. It comes down to what she wants. Not what you want. It's not about you. It's about that person. We have a difficult enough time dealing with our own problems and fixing stuff that pertains to us, that we get mixed in other's business. Again, like I said before, as long as both partners are treating each other with respect, I could careless what is being done.

It's called minding your own business and not being judgmental. Calling a person a pedophile because they choose to date much younger, is immature. Would I date a girl in her 20's when I am 50? I don't imagine i would, as I doubt our maturity levels would sink well. But I am not there yet. Not even close, so I can't give you a very good accurate honest answer on that. I guess as long as one is not searching or seeking that out. If a girl or guy makes herself presentable to the opposite or same sex (not to be ignorant to our gay posters), and there is that spark and connection, then it's a different story.

In the end, it comes down to we're all different people. We all have our own opinions, but we shouldn't enforce it onto others as well. So yes, you're welcome to those thoughts. Just as long as you don't enforce that on others. For me, it's not my place to tell others what to do or how they go about. The same goes for each and everyone of us. I'll deal with my own business, because that's the only real business I can take care of.
 
I know he liked them young - but I don't know if they were of legal age or not? And I don't think any were the adopted daughter of his wife.

One of the most bizzare relationships I have ever heard about. A fan of his wit and humour style and can watch Manhattan, Husbands and Wives et al, over and over again; but he is absolutely incomprehensible :cuckoo:
 
One of the most bizzare relationships I have ever heard about. A fan of his wit and humour style and can watch Manhattan, Husbands and Wives et al, over and over again; but he is absolutely incomprehensible :cuckoo:

Yeah - another is Morgan Freeman dating his step-GRANDDAUGHTER. :panic: I really like him as an actor but that just creeps me out. And is a bit of information I wish I never knew about him. (She is in her mid 20's, I think...but still - she's family! Maybe not by blood - but family still the same, imo.)
 
What isn't right to you, maybe right to someone else. It's called having an opinion. We all have one. I do think it's a bit odd that a 50-year-old man would go for a 21-year-old girl, but if she's legal and willing, then maybe not. I can see the attraction. One would hope it's more than just the physical, but even if it's not, is it really our business? No. It comes down to what she wants. Not what you want. It's not about you. It's about that person. We have a difficult enough time dealing with our own problems and fixing stuff that pertains to us, that we get mixed in other's business. Again, like I said before, as long as both partners are treating each other with respect, I could careless what is being done.

It's called minding your own business and not being judgmental. Calling a person a pedophile because they choose to date much younger, is immature. Would I date a girl in her 20's when I am 50? I don't imagine i would, as I doubt our maturity levels would sink well. But I am not there yet. Not even close, so I can't give you a very good accurate honest answer on that. I guess as long as one is not searching or seeking that out. If a girl or guy makes herself presentable to the opposite or same sex (not to be ignorant to our gay posters), and there is that spark and connection, then it's a different story.

In the end, it comes down to we're all different people. We all have our own opinions, but we shouldn't enforce it onto others as well. So yes, you're welcome to those thoughts. Just as long as you don't enforce that on others. For me, it's not my place to tell others what to do or how they go about. The same goes for each and everyone of us. I'll deal with my own business, because that's the only real business I can take care of.

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seriously :exactly: LOL I agree, really well put, I also WAY far from being 50 myself, so I cannot relate to that, but I agree with everything you said, I mean people of all kinds have relationships all the time,
 
I know he liked them young - but I don't know if they were of legal age or not? And I don't think any were the adopted daughter of his wife.

Chaplin was in several relationships with girls as young as 16. I think that was a much different time, though.

But yeah, Allen is in a class all his own. Disgusting. I only bring up Chaplin because I've heard people try to minimize the inappropriateness of the relationship by pretending the issue is the age difference. But as Eli pointed out, ultimately, age is irrelevant. There are far more disturbing elements to what Allen did.
 
Wow, :goodpost:
I can't believe im saying this, but, completely agree, very good post :exactly:

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I agree 18 is still too young, and in some states the legal age is 16, which is still a kid, so I never understood why some states it changes like that, since they are still in highschool like you said,

(i can't believe im having to repeat myself..)
But like I Said Before, After 22 a person should be old enough to know what they want to do with their life and what is good for them, no one should really have to babysit a 23 year old in what they do, I mean, usually at that age people have moved out of their houses and live on their own, which is what I Said before, Im not saying is okay for 40 year olds to hit on 23 year olds, But im saying, someone that is 23 should be able to take care of themselves, and know what's best for them,

Like Eli26 said, so it would be better if you have a daughter to date a guy her age, a guy that could beat her up, cheat on her, leave her pregnant and disappear? I know that's worst case scenario but, it does happen,
I don't know why you say 14 since no one has said anything like that, that's not the subject, that's just going to turn this thread weird, :cuckoo: everyone has been pretty much talking about people in their 20's dating people in the 30's and 40's. so, I don't know :dunno you're talking about something else entirely, something wrong and gross,

Doesn't matter. At the age of 18, highschool or not, you simply have no say. What pisses me off is at 18 you're old enough to vote and old enough to go to war and die for your country, but not old enough to have a beer.
 
All my posts in this thread pertain to legal age relationships. I didn't even read further along into the Allen and Chaplin stuff as that is irrelevant to me. They are two people out of billions who have live(d) on this planet. It's such a poor example of the greater picture. It's like a tobacco smoker, who references George Burns as a smoker who lived at 100. Great, you named one guy who lived a very long time. For every George Burns, there are 100 more who don't live close to that number or who experience the quality of life, that we perceive, because we don't know what goes on behind closed doors. Anyway, back to the subject matter, once a girl /guy is of legal age, she/he is deemed an adult (by man's rules) and by that very principal is entitled to make his/her own choices without parental consent. If you throw in mental immaturity into the discussion, well, I can say I met some 22-year-old girls/guys who are much more mature than some 30-plus girls/guys.
 
All my posts in this thread pertain to legal age relationships. I didn't even read further along into the Allen and Chaplin stuff as that is irrelevant to me. They are two people out of billions who have live(d) on this planet. It's such a poor example of the greater picture. It's like a tobacco smoker, who references George Burns as a smoker who lived at 100. Great, you named one guy who lived a very long time. For every George Burns, there are 100 more who don't live close to that number or who experience the quality of life, that we perceive, because we don't know what goes on behind closed doors. Anyway, back to the subject matter, once a girl /guy is of legal age, she/he is deemed an adult (by man's rules) and by that very principal is entitled to make his/her own choices without parental consent. If you throw in mental immaturity into the discussion, well, I can say I met some 22-year-old girls/guys who are much more mature than some 30-plus girls/guys.

:lecture:lecture:lecture:exactly: I know a few recently divorced 40+-year-olds who are more immature than their pre-teen daughters.
 
All my posts in this thread pertain to legal age relationships. I didn't even read further along into the Allen and Chaplin stuff as that is irrelevant to me. They are two people out of billions who have live(d) on this planet. It's such a poor example of the greater picture.

Chaplin suffered for every one of those relationships. I don't see it as an exception to what you're saying, but an illustration. He tended to be attracted to women for the wrong reasons (and not just the younger ones).
 
Doesn't matter. At the age of 18, highschool or not, you simply have no say. What pisses me off is at 18 you're old enough to vote and old enough to go to war and die for your country, but not old enough to have a beer.

In Manitoba, Canada the legal age limit for both alcohol consumption and joining the army is 18. :wave

But yes, that's rather silly that in certain parts of the world you're considered mature or age relevant enough to kill others and die for your country, yet you can't drink an alcoholic beverage.... Old skewed laws that should definitely be changed. Either make the legal age limit to sign up for the army at 21 in places like the US, or bring the drinking age limit down to 18. What that has to do with dating someone younger is beyond me, but I can agree with that!
 
All my posts in this thread pertain to legal age relationships. I didn't even read further along into the Allen and Chaplin stuff as that is irrelevant to me. They are two people out of billions who have live(d) on this planet. It's such a poor example of the greater picture. It's like a tobacco smoker, who references George Burns as a smoker who lived at 100. Great, you named one guy who lived a very long time. For every George Burns, there are 100 more who don't live close to that number or who experience the quality of life, that we perceive, because we don't know what goes on behind closed doors. Anyway, back to the subject matter, once a girl /guy is of legal age, she/he is deemed an adult (by man's rules) and by that very principal is entitled to make his/her own choices without parental consent. If you throw in mental immaturity into the discussion, well, I can say I met some 22-year-old girls/guys who are much more mature than some 30-plus girls/guys.

yeah I agree my comments were about legal age relationships as well, I even said over 21, I was not even counting 18 and up, :dunno
 
In Manitoba, Canada the legal age limit for both alcohol consumption and joining the army is 18. :wave

But yes, that's rather silly that in certain parts of the world you're considered mature or age relevant enough to kill others and die for your country, yet you can't drink an alcoholic beverage.... Old skewed laws that should definitely be changed. Either make the legal age limit to sign up for the army at 21 in places like the US, or bring the drinking age limit down to 18. What that has to do with dating someone younger is beyond me, but I can agree with that!

It's relative. It just annoys me that so many other privileges are granted but that's one that seems to be ignored. I wouldn't even care if they raised the legal limits of voting, sex/marriage, and military service, etc., to 21.
 
yeah I agree my comments were about legal age relationships as well, I even said over 21, I was not even counting 18 and up, :dunno

18 is legal in most parts of the world. I think it's legal in every part of the world actually, but don't quote on that as we'll have the resident ____ freak who will prove that to be incorrect. Heck, in the golden days of old, you were considered a man or woman if you could bleed/reproduce. That wasn't 18. Think lower.

No, we seem to think as the more advanced we get, the more correct we are in our way of thinking. Couldn't be further from the truth at times. In the end, we're just as simple and non logical as ever before. Now, we're surrounded with newer and fancier fangled technology, but in the end, we're all still the same. All buried with issues and ignorant to a lot of things out there.
 
I happen to be strolling by and came across this thread and it peaked my interest.

I myself have always preferred mature females but that's my choice, point being that AmanaMatt, it's your choice what you do and who you date. If something makes you feel uncomfortable, lesser about yourself or have to question your decision maybe you shouldn't do it, trust you instinct. Good luck.
 
Chaplin suffered for every one of those relationships. I don't see it as an exception to what you're saying, but an illustration. He tended to be attracted to women for the wrong reasons (and not just the younger ones).

I get what you're saying. If you're just in it to say you got stinky *rhymes with, well stinky* with a young girl to your guy friends, then yes, that is wrong. But again, not our business. People will always do stuff we don't agree with, but if everyone did, we would live in a very bland boring world.
 
18 is legal in most parts of the world. I think it's legal in every part of the world actually, but don't quote on that as we'll have the resident ____ freak who will prove that to be incorrect. Heck, in the golden days of old, you were considered a man or woman if you could bleed/reproduce. That wasn't 18. Think lower.

No, we seem to think as the more advanced we get, the more correct we are in our way of thinking. Couldn't be further from the truth at times. In the end, we're just as simple and non logical as ever before. Now, we're surrounded with newer and fancier fangled technology, but in the end, we're all still the same. All buried with issues and ignorant to a lot of things out there.

I also think It has to do with how Young a person looks, is all about looks, which is kind of hypocritical, if the guy looks younger than he is then no one has a problem with dating a younger girl, same if the girl looks or dresses older than she is, Ill give you 2 examples, My mom's friend is 44, but when i met her I thought she was 30, she is really thin, and dresses young,
at the same time, one of my managers, I always thought she was 32-34, after a while I learned she was 25, I mean, according to what lifestyle a person has and what clothes they wear you could appear older or younger, happens all the time,
 
I also think It has to do with how Young a person looks, is all about looks, which is kind of hypocritical, if the guy looks younger than he is then no one has a problem with dating a younger girl, same if the girl looks or dresses older than she is, Ill give you 2 examples, My mom's friend is 44, but when i met her I thought she was 30, she is really thin, and dresses young,
at the same time, one of my managers, I always thought she was 32-34, after a while I learned she was 25, I mean, according to what lifestyle a person has and what clothes they wear you could appear older or younger, happens all the time,

Getting a bit off track here, but I getcha. I also like much younger than I look. I work out and take good care of myself. And I can see how a person could make the mistake of looking at a teen and thinking they are of age, but acting on it after knowing. Not-so-good. There does come a point where age is an issue. Anything under 18 to me is reaching. Then again, a guy at 35 dating an 18-year-old is reaching IMO. But again, like I said a thousand times before in this thread, it doesn't matter what I think. If the person is legal, then it's their choice to make. Anywho, I discussed this topic enough. Lets move onto bigger and better things! See you in the what's better thread? The Big Mac or Whooper!
 


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