I went over very similar ground several posts back. Can't remember if it was this thread or another ST afflicted one.
Disney dressed up the film in a progressive coat but it proved to be a bit threadbare, which is what you'd expect (I guess) from a massive, conservative money-making machine.
The usual suspects disagree with the above analysis of Rey's character being defined by her abuse at the hands of mysterious-there's-still-good-in-him-psycho-parent-killing-kinda-sorta-boyfriend.
Yah know if you dont look at Rey as some "disney Agenda" and just view her as a person in the SW universe.. none of that stuff matters.
She was just as abusive to Kylo. They both brain ****ed each other. She is just another jedi to me and I don't really think about her being a girl.. She is just rey.
Now dont get me wrong.. I had the Mary Sue issues at first also.. But they went away after the explanations for her powers were given and I already stated how her life was not any easier then Lukes other than not loosing a limb. Luke and Rey also seemed pretty good at teaching themselves force powers that nobody else showed them.
Still having them kiss at the end was dumb but not for the whole abusive boyfriend reasons. As I said.. They were both pretty abusive to each other. Then you have the whole Diad thing to explain the stronger then usual connection.
It was just forced.. Unless you want to say she just kissed him because he saved her.. but that is some head canon you will have to create.