But then you missed the ending where after Holdo’s death Poe was in charge again and it was he alone that figured out Luke was stalling AND when everyone looked at Leia she said “Why are you all looking at me, FOLLOW HIM!” Follow Him as in MAN IN CHARGE!
Sure he might’ve been humbled a bit by Leia BUT that’s Leia in a nutshell always humbling men from Tarkin to Han to Lando and even Chewbacca (get that walking carpet out of my way!)
I had forgotten about that. . .which in the broader context of what happened between Poe/Leia/Dern makes no sense at all. Guy gets demoted for being brash and not following orders and being a good leader. Guy gets stun gunned for being brash, and not following orders or being a good soldier. Guy then become leader of the resistance. Maybe he did learn something through all of that. Maybe when he decided to pull back instead of rushing head on into certain death with Finn at the big cannon? Is that enough to demonstrate that he deserves to lead everyone now? Movie didn't do a great job of logically developing these threads IMO.