Things I Hate

[WellCQCaboutthat]

I havent found anyone who makes my life any better than i can make it myself. In my career i have made the right moves and have chosen the correct people with the proper resources. No one in my personal life with the​ exception of my mother has done anything noteworthy​ for the betterment of anything that shaped who i am today.

Friends are friends until something doesnt go their way. I maybe have 3 friends in my life i feel i could depend on in a crisis and im not truly 100% sure of that.

People are most definitely in anything for themselves most of the time so i take personal relationships at face value. I just dont have the time or patience to deal with pettiness, selfishness, vapid conversation, arguments, or self bragging. Most conversations that start asking about yourself usually are segways to talking about themselves. I dont hear about or wanna pet your dog no matter how much you think he likes me, i dont want to hear how your son/daughter is better than this persons because of these reasons, i dont want to hear about someones problems to nauseum, i dont even care what happened at work today. Im just not that guy to talk to about that stuff, when your talking im probably not even paying attention. If i ask then i care but dont just trap me with what you want spewing out of your mouth.

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[jye4ever]

Well crows just hit a homerun.

Couldn't said it better myself lol.

I read Well's post and I was like holy crap that's depressing as **** lol.

 

[The Ween]

I think it also has a lot to do with Culture, American Culture is very isolated and very "on your own" kids are expected to leave home in their late teens, immediate family is important but extended family is not as important. you are supposed to be able to succeed and live on your own. community might not play a big role

Other cultures tend to value community and family more. some latino countries tend to have bigger emphasis in big families and constant reunions, extended family is as important as close family. friendships might form from middle school that never end, neighborhoods will have gatherings or cook outs, theres more gossip, people know your business more.
I think the loneliness of this country is not something everyone in the world faces. It is not a bad or a good thing but it is just different cultures. having traveled to other countries and lived outside the US i can definitely see a difference in community and friendships.

You haven't lived in many small towns or in rural areas much because we do all those things. We do things as a neighborhood and as a community.

 

[The Ween]

Well crows just hit a homerun.

Couldn't said it better myself lol.

I read Well's post and I was like holy crap that's depressing as **** lol.

It explains a lot, that's for sure.

 

[Kamandi]

Well, in this week's edition of "F ck Cancer": Stefan Karl Stefansson, known for playing Robbie Rotten in "Lazy Town," is currently battling stage 4 pancreatic cancer. His wife reports the end is near.

My kids were nuts about that show. I always noticed Robbie Rotten channeled some serious Bruce Campbell AoD, so I found it oddly fascinating.

Anyways, there's more about it here and it sounds like the treatment has taken a financial toll, so there's a gofundme is you feel generous toward his family https://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/57bkxj/i_am_stefan_karl_robbie_rotten_from_lazytown_and/

 

[The Ween]

I don't know who he is, but how awful for him and his family. Pancreatic cancer only has a 5% survival rate so it would be so hard to hear that diagnosis. Is it just me or is it on the rise? Seems like I hear so many people getting this now.

 

[xipotec]

I feel sorry for people who have turned off interaction with people.....no man is an island, and you never know who will enhance your life, in ways you cannot imagine , after meeting them.

Now I have only met a handful of people like this in my life.....one a recent as 5 years ago, I cannot explain how this person enriched my life , and how glad I am they are a part of my world. I have waded through many crazy, thick headed, moronic, wastes of space to find these hidden gems ...but it is worth every uncomfortable second when you meet one.

Sound like alot of people are just playing it safe and comfortable in there life...which is fine.

I have just learned that in order to find the best life has to show you, you have to go out in the world , and go on adventures, get lost sometimes, and always look around the next corner.

 

[RIDDICK]

Well, in this week's edition of "F ck Cancer": Stefan Karl Stefansson, known for playing Robbie Rotten in "Lazy Town," is currently battling stage 4 pancreatic cancer. His wife reports the end is near.

Such a cool and crazy guy...
Every time I see news like these I take it personally.
It's soooo painful to watch someone you love die a very slow death...

 

[WellCQCaboutthat]

There are just too many disappointments out there, i aim low on expectations with people so im not disappointed. Avoiding them is easier, quite frankly. People who i meet that i like, i really like and its a pleasant surprise. Im not sad when i dont make a connection with someone, nor do i deem it necessary for someone to feel sad for me. I just dont feel human interaction is as important as some do. I dont know how it affects others so much.

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[jye4ever]

Have you contemplated signing up for the trip to Mars with NASA lol

 

[GeneralZodLives]

No reasons for trips to Mars for those who don't have the patience for indulging others in vapid conversation. I could just as easily ask that everyone who wants to inject their kids into all their conversations go to Mars and talk about them there.

If I go to a party or dinner and someone starts telling me about their kids my brain turns off because I honestly don't give a **** about their kids. My only concern for someone that has kids is that they raise them to not be a piece of ****. Raise a kid that's smart enough not to **** up my fast food order. Same with religion, politics, and what sports team you like--I'm not interested in nodding in agreement with you so you feel better about your life choices and opinions, nor am I interested in arguing with you about why one is better than the other. Today, those conversations inevitably end with each person angry with the other because each one thinks they're correct and that their opinion is correct and factual with no wiggle room for dissent. It didn't used to be this way. People used to be able to discuss topics without all the drama. You can still find people like that, but you have to slog through the mire and muck--which is exhausting and rarely bears fruit.

 

[Snake Plissken]

No reasons for trips to Mars for those who don't have the patience for indulging others in vapid conversation. I could just as easily ask that everyone who wants to inject their kids into all their conversations go to Mars and talk about them there.

If I go to a party or dinner and someone starts telling me about their kids my brain turns off because I honestly don't give a **** about their kids. My only concern for someone that has kids is that they raise them to not be a piece of ****. Raise a kid that's smart enough not to **** up my fast food order. Same with religion, politics, and what sports team you like--I'm not interested in nodding in agreement with you so you feel better about your life choices and opinions, nor am I interested in arguing with you about why one is better than the other. Today, those conversations inevitably end with each person angry with the other because each one thinks they're correct and that their opinion is correct and factual with no wiggle room for dissent. It didn't used to be this way. People used to be able to discuss topics without all the drama. You can still find people like that, but you have to slog through the mire and muck--which is exhausting and rarely bears fruit.

 

[WellCQCaboutthat]

Wisely stated and thanks for the backup.

Also jye, id just be stuck in the middle of nowhere trapped with potential morons.

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[jye4ever]

Well unfortunately many of the social gripes being mentioned do exist so i'm not saying anyone is wrong for harboring those feelings I just choose to keep investing time into humanity.

I live in one of the wealthiest areas in the country and what i'm able to witness up close due to my family business is a fierce competition between neighbors trying to one up the other with material goods or trips.

Not a female thing either the men are just as guilty.

Just recently we had about 25 set of parents come thru the office and everyone said the exact same thing to us.

If their neighbor is buying their 16 year old kid an S Class Mercedes for their first car then they will buy an AMC S Class for their kid.

Then the next set of parents come in and say they will buy the Mercedes AND an SUV for their kid.

Then the next say they will buy the Mercedes, the SUV AND an island trip.

Then the next came in and said they will buy the Mercedes, the SUV, the trip AND Yankee season pass seats for their kids to give out at school.

All this is preset with massive backstabbing gossip in the customer office on who is financially failing, who is getting plastic surgery and which kid has a learning disability.

Then add in who can get their kid into the most privileged private school, dance academy or hire the best talent agent and me and my brothers do start thinking about getting away from it all and moving to the Peruvian mountains lol.

So yeah things can get wacky when you're biggest stress is if you're eating lobster or king crab legs for dinner but what are we going to do start hating people just because they're embracing the american dream of prosperity.

 

[WellCQCaboutthat]

See? You have to listen to that and now we had to hear about it. Crazy how that works. Not trying to be rude to you, im just the type to tell them afterwards about how much i dont care and theyre just wasting my time mentioning it. Unfortunately for you you have to sit there and act like you care when deep down you know you dont give 2 s hits. Btw i dont hate them, they can live life how they wish, i just hate that they assume i care.

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[GeneralZodLives]

All of that nonsense isn't limited to the wealthy though. Rich or poor, everyone thinks they're not only special but absolutely correct in their opinion. The gossip, one-upping, and the social selfishness of conversation applies to the vast majority of people regardless of sex, race, or economic status.

 

[WellCQCaboutthat]

Exactly, if youre poor and you found $20 i dont care. If theres a topic at hand i dont find a way to go "yeah, but me".

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[jye4ever]

Well I guess my point is that I don't hate humanity enough that i'm going to turn into the Unabomber loner Ted Kaczynski, write an anti humanity manifesto from a cabin and start sending bombs just because I don't want to hear about their kids lol.

 

[Snake Plissken]

All of that nonsense isn't limited to the wealthy though. Rich or poor, everyone thinks they're not only special but absolutely correct in their opinion. The gossip, one-upping, and the social selfishness of conversation applies to the vast majority of people regardless of sex, race, or economic status.

That's bone.

 

[GeneralZodLives]

Well I guess my point is that I don't hate humanity enough that i'm going to turn into the Unabomber loner Ted Kaczynski, write an anti humanity manifesto from a cabin and start sending bombs just because I don't want to hear about their kids lol.

Some people have more patience than others--maybe because they have a more positive outlook and/or maybe they enjoy the conversations some of us don't enjoy. Personally, if it was a social setting rather than a work setting, I'd either ask those parents why they aren't making their kids earn anything (if I was feeling particularly chatty) or I'd just tell them I don't care because buying a kid a new Mercedes as their first car is ridiculous to me. I don't care how much money you have, that kid isn't going to appreciate the value of that car (or money in general) if they didn't have to work to earn it. If you're at work then I can understand having to put up with the conversation because everyone has to do that at their job. It doesn't make the conversation any less of a time-waster or any less aggravating.