Things That Should Be Illegal

[Lejuan]

Haven't you heard? Teachers these days are rolling in dough and have it made. You're overpaid and don't do a thing.

Shame on you for wanting to get paid!

The irony of my career re: hard work and earnings is that when I was a high school teacher I worked twice as hard for less pay than I do as a university teacher (uh, sorry, Professor). And as a high school teacher I always had to wear disparaging comments about how many holidays I had - I tell ya, 'real' teachers have got nothin' on the holidays available to tenured profs (except at university those holidays are called 'sabbatical', and 'non-teaching periods').

Yup, now guys expect sex by the third date or something is wrong with the woman. It used to be dating.....or courting, was for getting to know that person. How much can you know about someone on three dates?

Well you can get a pretty good idea of how good someone is in the sack. Can you imagine months on end of wining and dining only to find out they're a dud root?

Personally though, 3 dates would feel a tad early for me to be getting into it. It's hard to go past a good courtship.

 

[jonny88]

Yup, now guys expect sex by the third date or something is wrong with the woman. It used to be dating.....or courting, was for getting to know that person. How much can you know about someone on three dates?

l never said l expect to get laid right away. l treat women with lots of respect, probably why my friends make fun of me for not getting laid more, (they go right up to a girl and make their intentions clear) l don't like pushing girls into that and actually feel uncomfortable letting them know l am interested in sex or dating ( l am shy around women for the first little bit) and because of that don't go right up to girls and hit on them and pressure them or make them feel rushed or uncomfortable.

For me l can tell what we have in common in the first couple dates, and if l don't see compatability then l don't go forward anymore, that's just me, everyone handles dating in different ways.

When it comes to the whole paying for everything thing, if l like someone and she likes me l will pay, make her happy, feel important and spoil her now and then, BUT if l am seeing a pattern of her only showing me love or interest is after l do those things then it is over for me. It would make me feel uncomfortable in a situation like that.

 

[Vortex]

These days I am more interested in the relationship than getting laid, i have been laid a plenty, it gets old. About 15 years ago i would have shot the guy who wrote that sentence.

What I am trying to say is that even though kids today seem to be even bigger whore's than my generation, they WILL grow out of it as long as they don't catch AIDS and die. It's just evolution.

 

[cplhicks]

Question:

Women are in the workforce now and can make good money.

Why does the guy have to pay every time?

Historical context????

 

[The Ween]

Question:

Women are in the workforce now and can make good money.

Why does the guy have to pay every time?

Historical context????

I've tried to pay and got shot down, even if I was the one asking the guy out. It could be simply it was common knowledge that I didn't make as much as my date though. Could just be ego as well.

 

[azurepred]

Trying being a third shift hotel clerk. If a girl is interested, I can be pretty sure she has only one thing on her mind.

A free hotel room?

That goes both ways. No easier way to get a woman to change her mind about offering up a "challenge" than countering with the same. Tell a woman they can't have something they want and it's GAME ON!

I've never tried this. It's just too hard to read a lot of women, and having a _____ makes it real hard to play hard to get, men can only play that game for so long.

Question:

Women are in the workforce now and can make good money.

Why does the guy have to pay every time?

Historical context????

I don't know. I've had girls offer plenty of times on the first date, sometimes I let them pay full or half or just pick up the tip, but most of the time, I insist on paying. Not positive on this, but I think some women think they come off as desperate if they offer to pay?

 

[Lejuan]

Question:

Women are in the workforce now and can make good money.

Why does the guy have to pay every time?

Historical context????

I have always gone with tradition and paid, at least on the first date. It was all part of the ritual of courtship for me. Unless a particularly brassy chick with some corporate attitude asked me out and insisted on paying:

...but yeh, uh, that never happened to me.

 

[jonny88]

I've tried to pay and got shot down, even if I was the one asking the guy out. It could be simply it was common knowledge that I didn't make as much as my date though. Could just be ego as well.

I don't think money on either end has anything to do with it. I think the man pays because that"s just the way it is. Not sure why though.

 

[devilof76]

A free hotel room?

TNSTAAFHR.

 

[thenammagazine]

I've never tried this. It's just too hard to read a lot of women, and having a _____ makes it real hard to play hard to get, men can only play that game for so long.

Try it some time. Some of the most attractive women I've dated, which led to serious relationships, have been a result of that very tactic.

 

[jonny88]

Try it some time. Some of the most attractive women I've dated, which led to serious relationships, have been a result of that very tactic.

Yes it does work, because those women can't stand the fact that a man might not find them attractive or be into them, so they come after you trying to find out why you are ignoring her when every other guy in the room is drooling.

 

[GrueSam]

Question:

Women are in the workforce now and can make good money.

Why does the guy have to pay every time?

Historical context????

Because, although love to a man is unconditional acceptance, love to a woman is feeling taken care of. Opening a door, making sure she's comfortable, paying for or supplying a meal, etc.

Back in the day, a woman needed a man to feel safe. She lived with her father who protected her from the elements, wild animals, other men. He housed her, provided meat for her, clothed her, etc and made sure that her husband would do the same- hence the 'handing off' from dad to groom at the ceremony.

Obviously, these days it's not physically necessary. BUT, it is how we're hard wired. We want to feel safe with a man and cared for. He shows us this in physical ways. "Actions speak louder than words."

MOST men, once they are autonomous and ready to settle down, WANT to take care of a woman. It's what they are hard wired to do. It makes them feel like a man, just like we feel like a woman when we receive the gesture.

Some people/couples are comfortable with reversing roles. But I know many men who've said they felt emasculated when a woman offers to pay or even unlock a door for them. Like they're not capable of doing this for her, and they want to give her the gift. I get it.

 

[The Ween]

Because, although love to a man is unconditional acceptance, love to a woman is feeling taken care of. Opening a door, making sure she's comfortable, paying for or supplying a meal, etc.

Back in the day, a woman needed a man to feel safe. She lived with her father who protected her from the elements, wild animals, other men. He housed her, provided meat for her, clothed her, etc and made sure that her husband would do the same- hence the 'handing off' from dad to groom at the ceremony.

Obviously, these days it's not physically necessary. BUT, it is how we're hard wired. We want to feel safe with a man and cared for. He shows us this in physical ways. "Actions speak louder than words."

MOST men, once they are autonomous and ready to settle down, WANT to take care of a woman. It's what they are hard wired to do. It makes them feel like a man, just like we feel like a woman when we receive the gesture.

Some people/couples are comfortable with reversing roles. But I know many men who've said they felt emasculated when a woman offers to pay or even unlock a door for them. Like they're not capable of doing this for her, and they want to give her the gift. I get it.

I totally agree, though I think it's slowly changing, which I don't think is a good thing.

 

[Uncanny Web-Slinger]

Not exactly equality then

 

[Lejuan]

In jobs, salaries, parenthood etc equality between the sexes is something to strive for. But who wants equality in romance? So long as it's the chick who dreams about her wedding day since childhood, men gotta do what men gotta do to keep a woman happy

 

[cplhicks]

So women are hardwired to be gold diggers?

 

[Devil_666]

So women are hardwired to be gold diggers?

Basically. Men are hardwired to screw everything that moves and women are hardwired to take everything they can from men. Humans, we ____ing rule!!!!

 

[cplhicks]

even unlock a door for them

I always unlock the door and let my girlfriend in first....that way if there is a guy with a baseball bat in the house waiting for me the _____ can get it first allowing me to get away

 

[The Ween]

Sam, I think they sorta missed your point.

 

[thenammagazine]

Because, although love to a man is unconditional acceptance, love to a woman is feeling taken care of. Opening a door, making sure she's comfortable, paying for or supplying a meal, etc.

You do know the origins of this, right? And why the woman passes through the door before the man?