Both formats do have technological advantages and disadvantages, so in that regard they are (mostly) equal, but it
is clear that consumers have been favoring Blu-ray. Sales of Blu-ray discs have outdistanced HD DVD by almost 2-to-1 over the past year.
And you really need to separate your hatred of Sony from the format war. Sony is not synonymous with Blu-ray. They aren't the sole owner of the format. In many key areas, Panasonic/Matsu****a is as big (if not bigger) than Sony in the Blu-ray world. If you hate Sony, don't buy a Sony player. Buy a Panasonic or a Samsung, or one of the other brands available.
[Edit] Hmmm.... I guess I can't mention the name of Panasonic's parent company...