Why the F do girls have this much effect on people???

[ChrisCJ99]

One thing we all have to remember is, we don't know this girl. We don't know what she's going through either.

One thing Chris, since you're going back on the 6th, this is when you have to settle this once and for all. One way or the other. BUT, with you being gone THAT long, I wouldn't expect her to stay with you. IMO, if I was THAT involved with someone, I would've went to school someplace closer, but that's just me.

Good call..... I've offered to relocate my studies closer to salvage the relationship. But there's a lot of wrong in doing that. Everyone says that if she loves me ENOUGH she'd understand and stay with me all the way. But we all know that it's easier said than done..... (of course if anyone knows how difficult it ACTUALLY is to do a long distance relationship)......

But either way, something has to get settled once and for all when I go back.... I actually extended my stay there by 4 days (cuz I was hoping to stay home a little, hang, and spend time with the lady if things went well) But it was also cheaper to reschedule a later flight, so it worked better financially too.......

 

[The Ween]

Maybe I'm wrong, but you've already been gone for quite awhile and you're going to be gone for almost another 2 years. I think that's kinda hard to expect anyone to wait around until you get back, especially without any big commitment to the relationship, like engagement or marriage. I know alot of soldiers who's relationships have gone sour because of being apart so long. Either they cheat or their girls do.

I remember my high school boyfriend going off to college and it was all good. Well, it wasn't too long before I got the old "We have to talk" BS.

I hate that line! I've heard it more than once. That and "It's not you, it's me!"

You bastards all read the same book! I know ya!

 

[ChrisCJ99]

Maybe I'm wrong, but you've already been gone for quite awhile and you're going to be gone for almost another 2 years. I think that's kinda hard to expect anyone to wait around until you get back, especially without any big commitment to the relationship, like engagement or marriage. I know alot of soldiers who's relationships have gone sour because of being apart so long. Either they cheat or their girls do.

I remember my high school boyfriend going off to college and it was all good. Well, it wasn't too long before I got the old "We have to talk" BS.

I hate that line! I've heard it more than once. That and "It's not you, it's me!"

You bastards all read the same book! I know ya!

Well, she actually mentioned that several times..... That she feels that it's unfair for her to have to "Wait" for me without any kind of committment (engagement) And I mentioned that it didn't scare me at all and I was ready for that commitment, but she says "I had my chance for the past 3 years"....

Isn't that kinda unfair to me?? I mean, when the issue came up about engagement she said that a wedding had to be planned soon after that... And she even said she wasn't ready for a wedding since we're both in school!

I actually already had the engagement planned out... I knew where I was going to do it, just didn't know WHEN..... But now she says it's TOO LATE and I missed my chance.....

 

[Valfar]

Maybe I'm wrong, but you've already been gone for quite awhile and you're going to be gone for almost another 2 years. I think that's kinda hard to expect anyone to wait around until you get back, especially without any big commitment to the relationship, like engagement or marriage. I know alot of soldiers who's relationships have gone sour because of being apart so long. Either they cheat or their girls do.

I remember my high school boyfriend going off to college and it was all good. Well, it wasn't too long before I got the old "We have to talk" BS.

I hate that line! I've heard it more than once. That and "It's not you, it's me!"

You bastards all read the same book! I know ya!

Yea, because breaking up with someone before going out and messing around is just the mature thing to do...cheating just makes you rotten, always..its like something i can never forgive a person for doing...ever.

 

[ChrisCJ99]

Sooooooooo.....

Quick little update for the subscribers

The ex is now proclaiming that she has the urge to "move to California"....... Funny is that she is INSINUATING that she wants to reconsider giving this another try, but she has YET to actually admit or apologize for anything. According to a family member, she wants to have a "conversation" with me when I come home next week....

Any thoughts on that one ladies??

 

[Jen]

Sooooooooo.....

Quick little update for the subscribers

The ex is now proclaiming that she has the urge to "move to California"....... Funny is that she is INSINUATING that she wants to reconsider giving this another try, but she has YET to actually admit or apologize for anything. According to a family member, she wants to have a "conversation" with me when I come home next week....

Any thoughts on that one ladies??

You wouldn't want to know my answer.... When you get to be my age...you don't put up with games....life's too short for these type of headaches.

Anyway....good luck with all this.

 

[ChrisCJ99]

You wouldn't want to know my answer.... When you get to be my age...you don't put up with games....life's too short for these type of headaches.

Anyway....good luck with all this.

Oh, but please do! I insist

I am just curious from a girls standpoint. The thing is, this is this girls first experience in ANY type of romantic relationship. So maybe I'm too forgiving, but I guess I'm just trying to understand why all the inexperienced decision making (because that's really what it is )

 

[knucklefunger]

These are my final words of wisdom ok:
Some women you like to buy beautiful thing for such as flowers, jewelery etc, then there are some you want to buy a "power tool" to they can go **** themselves.

I'm out. Stumbled on a woman that is well beyond words. Just happened. Just feels right. Can't be bothered with suckies that need to be reminded how "beautiful" they are. Some women have a beauty that will grow exponentially. They will be even more beautiful at 70. I firmly believe that good things will happen to good people

 

[Jen]

Oh, but please do! I insist

I am just curious from a girls standpoint. The thing is, this is this girls first experience in ANY type of romantic relationship. So maybe I'm too forgiving, but I guess I'm just trying to understand why all the inexperienced decision making (because that's really what it is )

She's young (actually you both are young) and this is her first real relationship....I really don't think she knows what she wants or is ready.....people change a lot during their 20's and lots of times their goals/dreams change with them.

I have come to hate indecisiveness....if a person doesn't know and can't say HELL YEAH to whether or not they want to be with you - then I seriously would be moving on. Life's too short.....I don't have time for games or needy people...I mean sure, we all have our insecurities at times...but people who need constant compliments on how swell they are in order to feel better about themselves are not the type of people I want to be in a relationship with. I want someone secure in who they are and KNOWS what they want in life and in a relationship. This stuff you are going through just reminds me of high school/college and I'm so thankful to be way past those years. Being older does have it's advantages.

 

[ChrisCJ99]

These are my final words of wisdom ok:
Some women you like to buy beautiful thing for such as flowers, jewelery etc, then there are some you want to buy a "power tool" to they can go **** themselves.

I'm out. Stumbled on a woman that is well beyond words. Just happened. Just feels right. Can't be bothered with suckies that need to be reminded how "beautiful" they are. Some women have a beauty that will grow exponentially. They will be even more beautiful at 70. I firmly believe that good things will happen to good people

That's totally true

The general saying always holds true, that outer beauty fades with age. But inner beauty lasts forever

She's young (actually you both are young) and this is her first real relationship....I really don't think she knows what she wants or is ready.....people change a lot during their 20's and lots of times their goals/dreams change with them.

I have come to hate indecisiveness....if a person doesn't know and can't say HELL YEAH to whether or not they want to be with you - then I seriously would be moving on. Life's too short.....I don't have time for games or needy people...I mean sure, we all have our insecurities at times...but people who need constant compliments on how swell they are in order to feel better about themselves are not the type of people I want to be in a relationship with. I want someone secure in who they are and KNOWS what they want in life and in a relationship. This stuff you are going through just reminds me of high school/college and I'm so thankful to be way past those years. Being older does have it's advantages.

I know. It's what I get for dating someone so new to all this....

It's kinda crazy now. Because Im literally "shut down" and don't really have any desire right now to pursue this again.... I'm being reminded of the reasons I was annoyed before in the past, and it's making me just wanna keep going forward..... I dunno. We will see what how this "conversation" will go next week

 

[Skiman]

Sooooooooo.....

Quick little update for the subscribers

The ex is now proclaiming that she has the urge to "move to California"....... Funny is that she is INSINUATING that she wants to reconsider giving this another try, but she has YET to actually admit or apologize for anything. According to a family member, she wants to have a "conversation" with me when I come home next week....

Any thoughts on that one ladies??

Yes you would also not like my answer.

 

[Skiman]

She's young (actually you both are young) and this is her first real relationship....I really don't think she knows what she wants or is ready.....people change a lot during their 20's and lots of times their goals/dreams change with them.

I have come to hate indecisiveness....if a person doesn't know and can't say HELL YEAH to whether or not they want to be with you - then I seriously would be moving on. Life's too short.....I don't have time for games or needy people...I mean sure, we all have our insecurities at times...but people who need constant compliments on how swell they are in order to feel better about themselves are not the type of people I want to be in a relationship with. I want someone secure in who they are and KNOWS what they want in life and in a relationship. This stuff you are going through just reminds me of high school/college and I'm so thankful to be way past those years. Being older does have it's advantages.

^^ is what I was thinking

 

[GrueSam]

Yes you would also not like my answer.

Nor mine.

I will say that you're losing serious man-points now.
Do yourself a favor and grow some balls. Let her go.
You both will grow and learn and it will all be good.
Trust us moldy oldies.

-samantha

 

[BadMoon]

Nor mine.

I will say that you're losing serious man-points now.
Do yourself a favor and grow some balls. Let her go.
You both will grow and learn and it will all be good.
Trust us moldy oldies.

-samantha

Have to agree with Sam. When my wife left sure I was very upset at first. Then just said ok your nuts see yah bye and moved on. That was after 10 years of being in that relationship. I guess I am a bit cold hearted though. Once you lose a close family member I think you can deal with anything. Life is too short to get your panties in a bunch. If someone doesn't love you for who you are then find someone who will.

 

[-Super Hans-]

Nor mine.

I will say that you're losing serious man-points now.
Do yourself a favor and grow some balls. Let her go.
You both will grow and learn and it will all be good.
Trust us moldy oldies.

-samantha

I agree with this

 

[-Super Hans-]

She's young (actually you both are young) and this is her first real relationship....I really don't think she knows what she wants or is ready.....people change a lot during their 20's and lots of times their goals/dreams change with them.

I have come to hate indecisiveness....if a person doesn't know and can't say HELL YEAH to whether or not they want to be with you - then I seriously would be moving on. Life's too short.....I don't have time for games or needy people...I mean sure, we all have our insecurities at times...but people who need constant compliments on how swell they are in order to feel better about themselves are not the type of people I want to be in a relationship with. I want someone secure in who they are and KNOWS what they want in life and in a relationship. This stuff you are going through just reminds me of high school/college and I'm so thankful to be way past those years. Being older does have it's advantages.

I also agree with this

 

[Morbach]

The only advice I can give you is to take your foot off the gas 'cause you ain't driving. You're running around like a chicken with it's head cut off because she is stringing you along with her game of "I love him, I love him not". You aren't in control of this situation, she is, seeing as what goes down between you is up to her. So you need to relax, you can't allow yourself to get upset and worry over something out of your control. It sucks but that's the best thing to do. And you need to MAKE her know she's losing out by losing you. Don't you think or let her think you're the only one losing out. You have something to offer as well, not just her. If she don't want it someone else will. Cut your loses and move on. Good luck.

 

[Shai]

Did you ^^^^ another girl Already...??? If not, you need to ASAP.Dont listen to any advice here except mine..go sleep with every girl you can.This will be your one and only true Salvation.Go ahead and become the Worm.

 

[Shai]

This will be your one and only true Salvation.Go ahead and become the Worm.

 

[-Super Hans-]

Dont listen to any advice here except mine..go sleep with every girl you can.This will be your one and only true Salvation.

I think he wants advice on a relationship problem, not advice on how to get Syphilis