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biggest case of "I want to test the waters elsewhere" I have ever seen. She just doesn't know how to tell you man.

Easiest way to figure it out... no contact!!
 
biggest case of "I want to test the waters elsewhere" I have ever seen. She just doesn't know how to tell you man.

Easiest way to figure it out... no contact!!

Amen...... And that is one of our biggest issues. She can NEVER fully admit to something! Comes from her SUPER insecure childhood :eek:

But yeah, no contact...... Being done as we speak (or do NOT speak) :lol.......... :pow
 
And everyone tells me, "She'll come running back to you when she realizes that the grass is never greener....." you know the saying.....

But I DID find a recent saying SO true! "The grass may be greener on the other side, but the the truth is you have to mow that grass too!" :lol

Only problem is, it's gonna be too late to get me back after this BS...... :eek:
 
So another little update....... And a cheesy one most likely....

But, I had gotten my ex to get involved in collecting and she began to collect items from Disney's Haunted Mansion. She had been looking for one particular snowglobe for over a year...... https://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&ssPageName=STRK:MEWAX:IT&item=250467819486

I found this and thought that she would DIE and love this if I got it for her...... So just today it was delivered, but I received a text saying that it was poorly packaged and was shattered in tons of pieces :mad:

Not only do I now have to fight for a refund, but a very rare item that I've searched AGES for has been destroyed..... So it was really upsetting. Not sure if that was a sign, but I'm trying not to be superstitious. I was just trying to do something really thoughtful for her....... But it ended up backfiring on me :eek:
 
So another little update....... And a cheesy one most likely....

But, I had gotten my ex to get involved in collecting and she began to collect items from Disney's Haunted Mansion. She had been looking for one particular snowglobe for over a year...... https://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&ssPageName=STRK:MEWAX:IT&item=250467819486

I found this and thought that she would DIE and love this if I got it for her...... So just today it was delivered, but I received a text saying that it was poorly packaged and was shattered in tons of pieces :mad:

Not only do I now have to fight for a refund, but a very rare item that I've searched AGES for has been destroyed..... So it was really upsetting. Not sure if that was a sign, but I'm trying not to be superstitious. I was just trying to do something really thoughtful for her....... But it ended up backfiring on me :eek:

Good luck trying to sort this out! Was it insured?

Chris, I honestly don't think you're trying to get over this girl. Buying her gifts is not the way to go about it. That's all fine and dandy if that's what you want to do, but neither one of you seem to want to back off, so stop playing games with one another and just continue on until you can get home.

When is your schooling done and you go back home?
 
Good luck trying to sort this out! Was it insured?

Chris, I honestly don't think you're trying to get over this girl. Buying her gifts is not the way to go about it. That's all fine and dandy if that's what you want to do, but neither one of you seem to want to back off, so stop playing games with one another and just continue on until you can get home.

When is your schooling done and you go back home?

The package wasn't insured, but I got it through eBay and paid with my CC with Paypal..... So I'm sure the funds can be recovered somehow.

But as you already know, I'm going back home for a couple weeks between my school break (on August 6)

But I'm scheduled to finish my schooling in Spring of 2011, so I still have quite a bit of time left in California...
 
Sweet mother of all that is holy and pure.

I have seen this so many times. Once first hand. The girl has picked her mark, used him up, and is still too sick to let him die in piece. She doesn't want to close the door on any possible attention she could get, so he gets strung along.

Sorry to talk about you like you weren't here, this kind of stuff really gets to me because it is obvious to everyone but the one in the middle of it, as this thread shows in spades.

Look at it this way, a person either wants to be with you or they don't. You obviously want to still be with her, buying gifts, just barely managing to not contact her for an hour, filling your mind with it until your grades go south... This is how a person behaves who wants to be with another person. What she is doing is the opposite. She is doing what a person does when they want to be free of a commited relationship.

That is it. There is nothing else to talk about. It is over for her except whatever she can squeeze you for.

Dude you can't imagine how effed up this is going to look to you a year down the road after putting her out of your life. You are going to thank yourself and feel like you owe us an apology. Which you don't. This is just something a person should go through once in their life to know what the meaning of manipulation really is. Unfortunatly no one can really give you advise that you can use right now, just stuff that once you are on the other side of it you can go back and read and really understand in retrospect.

How many posts have told you the same thing here and you go and buy her a gift? And you would take her back in a second if she came back. Please try to put yourself in her shoes and imagine you saying to someone else what she has been saying to you. What is it you would be trying to do if you were saying what she has said? Get slowly and clumsily out of a relationship is what.

You are a nice guy, you deserve to be with someone who is also nice.
 
Sweet mother of all that is holy and pure.

I have seen this so many times. Once first hand. The girl has picked her mark, used him up, and is still too sick to let him die in piece. She doesn't want to close the door on any possible attention she could get, so he gets strung along.

Sorry to talk about you like you weren't here, this kind of stuff really gets to me because it is obvious to everyone but the one in the middle of it, as this thread shows in spades.

Look at it this way, a person either wants to be with you or they don't. You obviously want to still be with her, buying gifts, just barely managing to not contact her for an hour, filling your mind with it until your grades go south... This is how a person behaves who wants to be with another person. What she is doing is the opposite. She is doing what a person does when they want to be free of a commited relationship.

That is it. There is nothing else to talk about. It is over for her except whatever she can squeeze you for.

Dude you can't imagine how effed up this is going to look to you a year down the road after putting her out of your life. You are going to thank yourself and feel like you owe us an apology. Which you don't. This is just something a person should go through once in their life to know what the meaning of manipulation really is. Unfortunatly no one can really give you advise that you can use right now, just stuff that once you are on the other side of it you can go back and read and really understand in retrospect.

How many posts have told you the same thing here and you go and buy her a gift? And you would take her back in a second if she came back. Please try to put yourself in her shoes and imagine you saying to someone else what she has been saying to you. What is it you would be trying to do if you were saying what she has said? Get slowly and clumsily out of a relationship is what.

You are a nice guy, you deserve to be with someone who is also nice.

Very good call.......

I totally agree with what you're saying. I remember giving advice to some of my female friends before about relationship issues , and of course no one EVER listens to people's advice. They just have to experience it for themselves.... it's how people learn and grow from it. And I'm living proof of it. I went through a rough break up a few years ago and I didn't listen to much advice people gave me. But I eventually saw through the fog and everything eventually cleared up. And I realized how dumb I was and how crazy everything was.....

So this is the same. I'm getting all this great advice, but unfortunately I'm the one clinging onto ANY form of hope I can get...... At this point, I have made SOME kind of progress. I'm just at the point of "acceptance" and realizing that I can't convince this girl to stay.... I can't fight that anymore. I'm just at a loss and I'm "starting" to accept it and move on.... But like you said, I'm sure in a year I'll look back at all this and see it for what it REALLY was.....

Until then, I have to finish school next week..... Then I will be back home, and that's when maybe we can "re evaluate" everything between the two of us..... We both know we WILL see each other. But we really don't know what's going to happen. But I will take GrueSam's advice and not contact her within my first few days in town ;) So I'll keep you all posted :peace
 
One cool thing is that this is a thread full of people who don't want to see you in harm's way...
 
Dude, I bet you are surrounded by hot chicks man, i'm sure hooking up with one will help you forget the other......
 
Hey Chris, ever watch this movie? lol!
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Whatever you do don't listen to Phil Collins of Boyz 2 Men for any extended period of time. You will be outside of her window with a mariachi band in no time.
 
One thing we all have to remember is, we don't know this girl. We don't know what she's going through either.

One thing Chris, since you're going back on the 6th, this is when you have to settle this once and for all. One way or the other. BUT, with you being gone THAT long, I wouldn't expect her to stay with you. IMO, if I was THAT involved with someone, I would've went to school someplace closer, but that's just me.
 
One thing we all have to remember is, we don't know this girl. We don't know what she's going through either.

One thing Chris, since you're going back on the 6th, this is when you have to settle this once and for all. One way or the other. BUT, with you being gone THAT long, I wouldn't expect her to stay with you. IMO, if I was THAT involved with someone, I would've went to school someplace closer, but that's just me.

Good call..... I've offered to relocate my studies closer to salvage the relationship. But there's a lot of wrong in doing that. Everyone says that if she loves me ENOUGH she'd understand and stay with me all the way. But we all know that it's easier said than done..... (of course if anyone knows how difficult it ACTUALLY is to do a long distance relationship)......
 
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