gotta throw in my 2 cents. been here before.
best i can say is to paraphrase neil macauley.
"you have to be prepared to cut lose any connection the second you feel the heat coming around the corner."
after many bad GF's (arkham asylum worthy) my wife pulled some shenanigans with her ex when we were dating a few weeks. i don't know what happened (she swears to this day 11 years later that nothing happened) but i cut her loose so fast and so cold it would be a record. she kept coming back in tears for weeks. i finally relented and everything's been perfect since. i also spent a cumulative several years of the early years of my marriage on the other side of the globe. i was gone more than i was home. why she stuck with me? no freaking clue.
i guess what i'm trying to say is that one needs to be emotionally prepared to switch it off when there's trouble. there's no need to go through so much pain in a relationship when it's directly caused by the other party. the whole girls being girls and guys being guys holds no water with me. it's people being themselves. and if whoever's "self" is causing trouble with your "self". it's time to go.
don't try to fix it. don't try to get back at her. just go about your life. the best relationships are the ones that require little to no maintenance as well as the ones that happen accidentally/unintentionally.
relationships boil down to two people who can be themselves around each other so well that they're willing to compromise and sacrifice for the other, this refers to the emotional/psychological aspect. then there's the exchange of fluids aspect. you have to be compatible with your naughty bits as well. it's a big part of a relationship, i don't care what anyone says. humans are hard wired to procreate/survive and everything else that surrounds that is "functional window dressing". if someone is causing you so much emotional grief just so you can get into their no no zone, it aint worth it and it certainly isn't meant to be.
best i can say is to paraphrase neil macauley.
"you have to be prepared to cut lose any connection the second you feel the heat coming around the corner."
after many bad GF's (arkham asylum worthy) my wife pulled some shenanigans with her ex when we were dating a few weeks. i don't know what happened (she swears to this day 11 years later that nothing happened) but i cut her loose so fast and so cold it would be a record. she kept coming back in tears for weeks. i finally relented and everything's been perfect since. i also spent a cumulative several years of the early years of my marriage on the other side of the globe. i was gone more than i was home. why she stuck with me? no freaking clue.
i guess what i'm trying to say is that one needs to be emotionally prepared to switch it off when there's trouble. there's no need to go through so much pain in a relationship when it's directly caused by the other party. the whole girls being girls and guys being guys holds no water with me. it's people being themselves. and if whoever's "self" is causing trouble with your "self". it's time to go.
don't try to fix it. don't try to get back at her. just go about your life. the best relationships are the ones that require little to no maintenance as well as the ones that happen accidentally/unintentionally.
relationships boil down to two people who can be themselves around each other so well that they're willing to compromise and sacrifice for the other, this refers to the emotional/psychological aspect. then there's the exchange of fluids aspect. you have to be compatible with your naughty bits as well. it's a big part of a relationship, i don't care what anyone says. humans are hard wired to procreate/survive and everything else that surrounds that is "functional window dressing". if someone is causing you so much emotional grief just so you can get into their no no zone, it aint worth it and it certainly isn't meant to be.
...... in the ripping part 
