Why the F do girls have this much effect on people???

[The Ween]

I want to apologize for the Karma statement. It seems that some of you somehow felt offended by it. I quess I am still a little embittered about what happend to me way back. sorry ... It was dump and non-essential.




English is not my mother tongue as it is for some of you. So its sometimes hard to explain what I mean in english. At least I am able to somehow communicate in a different language other then my mother tongue. I am still in a learning process ... So please don´t be so harsh with me.

If you don´t like me, fine ... People who tell the truth often get flamed for it. Its so unpleasing for some.

Back to Topic ... Chris I hope you will get over it soon. The Pain will go away for sure. I think this does not help you in your current state, but you will feel better in the future.

That's just Rory being Rory, just squish him like an ant!



I understood what you meant with the Karma comment.

 

[ChrisCJ99]

I want to apologize for the Karma statement. It seems that some of you somehow felt offended by it. I quess I am still a little embittered about what happend to me way back. sorry ... It was dump and non-essential.




English is not my mother tongue as it is for some of you. So its sometimes hard to explain what I mean in english. At least I am able to somehow communicate in a different language other then my mother tongue. I am still in a learning process ... So please don´t be so harsh with me.

If you don´t like me, fine ... People who tell the truth often get flamed for it. Its so unpleasing for some.

Back to Topic ... Chris I hope you will get over it soon. The Pain will go away for sure. I think this does not help you in your current state, but you will feel better in the future.

I didn't take any offense to your Karma comment. I totally understand..... Man, if that happened to ME I'd be a TOTAL wreck! So I'M sorry that you actually went through that... I was just curious if people could relate to the HORRID feeling of going through the loss of someone you loved.... And you apparently can VERY MUCH.

But thanks for the kind wishes... Just going through this again REALLY sucks and seems to hurt WAY more each time

 

[ChrisCJ99]

Soooooooo, just to give a little update...... I took everyone's advice and just kept myself busy. Didn't contact the lady AT ALL for the past few days. And low and behold, I get a text today..... "Ohhhh, I miss you so much... I love you sooo much...You're amazing. Anyone's lucky to have you...."

Blah blah.....

Then after all the schmoozing, I get a "But I still don't want to be with you.... I feel like our time apart is ESSENTIAL.... I Hope this didn't confuse you....."




Ladies, can ya explain that BS for me????

 

[Skiman]

Soooooooo, just to give a little update...... I took everyone's advice and just kept myself busy. Didn't contact the lady AT ALL for the past few days. And low and behold, I get a text today..... "Ohhhh, I miss you so much... I love you sooo much...You're amazing. Anyone's lucky to have you...."

Blah blah.....

Then after all the schmoozing, I get a "But I still don't want to be with you.... I feel like our time apart is ESSENTIAL.... I Hope this didn't confuse you....."




Ladies, can ya explain that BS for me????

Stick to the plan, another test...

Not really a test but just stick to plan, ur doin well!

 

[ChrisCJ99]

Stick to the plan, another test...

Not really a test but just stick to plan, ur doin well!

Thanks maing

Yeah, it's just funny how this chick was telling me that I wasn't showing ANY strength by contacting her..... But now SHE'S the one running to me, but just to complain and let me know that SHE'S suffering???

Now why the ^^^^^* would a girl go running to their ex JUST to tell them that they're suffering, yet still don't want them back?

Don't get it....... It only just pisses me off more and makes it easier to wanna walk away from the BS

 

[Black@ssB0lt]

It only just pisses me off more and makes it easier to wanna walk away from the BS

That is it.

 

[CAhobbit]

Soooooooo, just to give a little update...... I took everyone's advice and just kept myself busy. Didn't contact the lady AT ALL for the past few days. And low and behold, I get a text today..... "Ohhhh, I miss you so much... I love you sooo much...You're amazing. Anyone's lucky to have you...."

Blah blah.....

Then after all the schmoozing, I get a "But I still don't want to be with you.... I feel like our time apart is ESSENTIAL.... I Hope this didn't confuse you....."




Ladies, can ya explain that BS for me????

Speaking as a lady, in my opinion it sounds like she's trying to play mind/emotional games with you (either that or she's not very good in the tact department). If such behavior were to continue I would first explain to them how having time a part with no contact is necessary in the hopes that would cause them to cease and desist. If that didn't work I would go onto the next stop to block that person from contacting me via phone or online (but that's just how I would deal with a situation in which I was going to keep my distance and have no contact with someone when I'm trying to heal my heart).

 

[tylerdurden]

dude, sorry to hear about your relationship issues.

u should check out www.askmen.com

they've got some pretty useful advice for us guys.
and most of it is pretty spot-on, imo.

 

[The Ringer]

They are the godesses that walk among us.

 

[Master Wayne]

I am in love with this thread. I don't have the time at the moment, but God do I have some stories for this thread. Thank you for starting this topic OP, and I am sorry for your troubles. I've got similar ones at present time. I think venting here and the good people responding and helping me laugh about it will help. Awesome. I know where I'm posting later...

To be continued.

 

[knucklefunger]

Chris, it's not you that's confused. She is. A lot of chicks behave like children (sorry ladies), but it's true.

They get close, then push you away just to see if you'll chase em down & kiss their ...., that way they've got you. They now dictate the terms of the relationship. They own you.

A healthy relationship involves both people working together not one controlling it.

Man, like Dio sings "walk away"

 

[Skiman]

Chris, it's not you that's confused. She is. A lot of chicks behave like children (sorry ladies), but it's true.

They get close, then push you away just to see if you'll chase em down & kiss their ...., that way they've got you. They now dictate the terms of the relationship. They own you.

A healthy relationship involves both people working together not one controlling it.

Man, like Dio sings "walk away"

I agree with a lot that is being said here. She's the one that is confused Chris, you have ur guns now stick to them. Otherwise I see this as epic fail from this point on, the tides are trying to wave in her favor after you give in.

It is a mind job and she is regretting her decision, let her fully regret it until she comes back and if not move on....

 

[creature4000]

Dude, the best thing is to ignore her.. don't give her even the time off day. Women play these stupid games trying to keep themselves in the lime light. She doesn't want you to forget her and wants that string still attached. (been through it a ton of times) Ex's will keep in contact just to know you're still there for them.

My addvice.. chalk it up to a good releationship and move on. And absolutely NO CONTACT.. you'll be better for it. Move on and look elsewhere. Even if she comes back crying.. you have already moved on.

 

[ChrisCJ99]

I agree with a lot that is being said here. She's the one that is confused Chris, you have ur guns now stick to them. Otherwise I see this as epic fail from this point on, the tides are trying to wave in her favor after you give in.

It is a mind job and she is regretting her decision, let her fully regret it until she comes back and if not move on....

I know..... It just pisses me off that I make some progress of moving on then she has to pop in and just say things to give me false hope.

That just really pisses me off! WHY would a girl come to you saying "oh I miss you and I love you so much...... Buuuuuuut, I still don't want to be with you....."?????

The thing is, I'm across the whole country so we're MANY miles apart right now... So even IF she decided to "stay with me" we would just TALK more

I'm sorry, I just think this is BS. She knew how I felt about her so she doesn't need to be running to me and CHECKING if I STILL have feelings for her, ya know?

I'm just confused by her statement "I honestly feel that you're my SOUL MATE, but I feel that there are things we both need to accomplish before we can work as a couple".................

 

[Bannister]

That just really pisses me off! WHY would a girl come to you saying "oh I miss you and I love you so much...... Buuuuuuut, I still don't want to be with you....."?????

Because she wants you to give her attention. Don't.

 

[Shai]

Why dont you just ^^^^ another girl,and arrange yourself so that she learns it from someone else....You're not coming back with her anyway.

 

[ChrisCJ99]

Why dont you just ^^^^ another girl,and arrange yourself so that she learns it from someone else....You're not coming back with her anyway.

Kinda difficult for that info to come her way when she's all the way across the country.....

But I don't wanna be that kind of person to do something like that just to rub it in her face..... If the girl was a total ^^^^^ and did some messed up things to me, then I wouldn't care maybe. But she was a sweet girl, so there's no need for something like that.... I've dated vindictive girls and it's not fun playing the game. I just didn't think I'd have to stoop to this level with THIS girl

 

[Voorhees27]

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[Skiman]

Yeah don't stoop Chris, become the bigger better person and just remain calm and collective. Do not let it bother you (I know that is tough) and like I said go about ur business and stick to the plan.

The only thing about a situation about this is to realize that there is not "why". Everyone is confused trying to figure out what is the next step is. Some ppl have second thoughts or like to keep you around as friends and if you want to remain her friend and now that you cannot have the same relationship as in the past then that is ok but since you spoke that you were her first of several experiences, you better believe that she will always be coming back to you for a solution, problem solving or advice. Advice on even maybe a new boyfriend, you will get the "well u know better than anyone" speech.

If you can live with that and not let it bother you on the inside then fine. Myself I've been in this predicament before and I'd rather cut off ties. I really don't wanna know for myself what is going on in significant others life but that is different if you can be friends, like I said above.

I'm almost pretty sure she is feeling this out and bating you... and I do believe that you will get her back from the sounds of her converstation, only if you react calm cool and in control of the situation. The other side of this equation just spells disaster for being back with her but then the ball is in her court and you'll be playing by a new set of rules for the remainder of the relationship.

REMAIN IN CONTROL SON!

 

[knucklefunger]

Treat them like a 5 year old. They want attention & act poorly to get it. Many are painfully superficial. You aren't an accessory dude. Don't act like one. A companion isn't a person of convenience. You are better than that. Tell her to "jog on"