Break ups suck. How do you rebound from a break up?

[crows]

cos you NEVER see a guy trying to look and feel better with a nice comb over once the baldness sets in, or a hair piece, or Botox, or lifts in their shoes to increase height, or heaven forbid even manicures.
Sure, fellas aren't paranoid at all

A few uncomfortable life adjustments indeed
Good stuff
x

you can even see it in THIS thread, every single one of us guys talks about hitting the gym

 

[CAhobbit]

Easy way to learn about your woman:

2. What she's gonna look like like in 25 years: Look at her mom.

But what if she's adopted?!

 

[The Ween]

cos you NEVER see a guy trying to look and feel better with a nice comb over once the baldness sets in, or a hair piece, or Botox, or lifts in their shoes to increase height, or heaven forbid even manicures.
Sure, fellas aren't paranoid at all

A few uncomfortable life adjustments indeed
Good stuff
x

And look how many of them said to "hit the gym".

They care about their looks more than they think.

 

[The Ween]

But what if she's adopted?!

Or unique like me. I have way too many different influences that have all combined into my muttly self.

Mongrels

 

[Frank]

cos you NEVER see a guy trying to look and feel better with a nice comb over once the baldness sets in, or a hair piece, or Botox, or lifts in their shoes to increase height, or heaven forbid even manicures.
Sure, fellas aren't paranoid at all

A few uncomfortable life adjustments indeed
Good stuff
x

But bat____ paranoid? Nope. You wanna tell me the cosmetics industry and the cosmetic surgery business are raking in their profits from both sexes at the same rate?

Guys have our fixations alright, but it's generally not centered on "big primpin". It's definitely a feminine quality.

But what if she's adopted?!

Depends if she knows or not.

And look how many of them said to "hit the gym".

They care about their looks more than they think.

There's no accounting for the metrosexuals!

 

[Eli26]

Hitting the gym is not just about looks. Mainly, it shouldn't be and depending on the individual, it isn't. It should be about health and trying to prolong one's life. Not just prolonging it, but having a better quality of life. A woman looking at it as a man trying to look good, and for that reason alone, is clueless to this fact, and doesn't grasp the full extent of why one would work out. It's a major stress reliever by reducing toxins in the body and raising the endorphin levels, which is a natural high. Sure there are those who use it as an attention grab for the opposite sex, but then there are many guys like me who did it for the health reasons. The residual effects of looking good, and feeling good from that as a result is an added attribute to working out. Nobody should have to apologize or feel bad for wanting to look good at the end of the day, or feeling better. The men who suggested that in this thread merely "get it" and as a result, suggested it. There is no true method to conquer one's sorrow of being broken up, but a great work out is what the doctor ordered under circumstances such as these. Break ups = stress | Work outs = the very thing that reduces stress. I think it's sound advice by that logic.

Personally, it is my opinion, (and I say this with the chance I may step on some toes), that it's a woman coping out. Making an excuse to not value a male working out for the aforementioned reasons... Assuming the attentions are shallow, when in fact they just don't want to admit, that they are not satisfied with their own health or self image, and have to go for someone who is okay with just lounging around the house. Being a homebody. But not everyone is okay with that way of living. There is nothing shallow or wrong about that either. It's just a life perspective and choice one chooses to make.

 

[crows]

Hitting the gym is not just about looks. Mainly, it shouldn't be and depending on the individual, it isn't. It should be about health and trying to prolong one's life. Not just prolonging it, but having a better quality of life. A woman looking at it as a man trying to look good, and for that reason alone, is clueless to this fact, and doesn't grasp the full extent of why one would work out. It's a major stress reliever by reducing toxins in the body and raising the endorphin levels, which is a natural high. Sure there are those who use it as an attention grab for the opposite sex, but then there are many guys like me who did it for the health reasons. The residual effects of looking good, and feeling good from that as a result is an added attribute to working out. Nobody should have to apologize or feel bad for wanting to look good at the end of the day, or feeling better. The men who suggested that in this thread merely "get it" and as a result, suggested it. There is no true method to conquer one's sorrow of being broken up, but a great work out is what the doctor ordered under circumstances such as these. Break ups = stress | Work outs = the very thing that reduces stress. I think it's sound advice by that logic.

Personally, it is my opinion, (and I say this with the chance I may step on some toes), that it's a woman coping out. Making an excuse to not value a male working out for the aforementioned reasons... Assuming the attentions are shallow, when in fact they just don't want to admit, that they are not satisfied with their own health or self image, and have to go for someone who is okay with just lounging around the house. Being a homebody. But not everyone is okay with that way of living. There is nothing shallow or wrong about that either. It's just a life perspective and choice one chooses to make.

I do it for the chicks,
hell, if there aren't any chicks at the Gym that day working out i simply dont work out either, whats the point of going to the gym if there aint no eye candy, amirite or what?

 

[The Ween]

Hitting the gym is not just about looks. Mainly, it shouldn't be and depending on the individual, it isn't. It should be about health and trying to prolong one's life. Not just prolonging it, but having a better quality of life. A woman looking at it as a man trying to look good, and for that reason alone, is clueless to this fact, and doesn't grasp the full extent of why one would work out. It's a major stress reliever by reducing toxins in the body and raising the endorphin levels, which is a natural high. Sure there are those who use it as an attention grab for the opposite sex, but then there are many guys like me who did it for the health reasons. The residual effects of looking good, and feeling good from that as a result is an added attribute to working out. Nobody should have to apologize or feel bad for wanting to look good at the end of the day, or feeling better. The men who suggested that in this thread merely "get it" and as a result, suggested it. There is no true method to conquer one's sorrow of being broken up, but a great work out is what the doctor ordered under circumstances such as these. Break ups = stress | Work outs = the very thing that reduces stress. I think it's sound advice by that logic.

Personally, it is my opinion, (and I say this with the chance I may step on some toes), that it's a woman coping out. Making an excuse to not value a male working out for the aforementioned reasons... Assuming the attentions are shallow, when in fact they just don't want to admit, that they are not satisfied with their own health or self image, and have to go for someone who is okay with just lounging around the house. Being a homebody. But not everyone is okay with that way of living. There is nothing shallow or wrong about that either. It's just a life perspective and choice one chooses to make.

And you don't look at yourself in the mirror to check yourself out after you been pumping for awhile. I know better!

Of course it's about feeling good as well and being healthy. But you can do that without the bulging muscles and that.

It's okay to wanna look good, but it's not soley a woman's thing. That was my point. Men like to look good too, either to themselves, friends, men or women.

 

[Frank]

Hitting the gym is not just about looks. Mainly, it shouldn't be and depending on the individual, it isn't. It should be about health and trying to prolong one's life. Not just prolonging it, but having a better quality of life. A woman looking at it as a man trying to look good, and for that reason alone, is clueless to this fact, and doesn't grasp the full extent of why one would work out. It's a major stress reliever by reducing toxins in the body and raising the endorphin levels, which is a natural high...

Building muscle and getting in shape is great, but if all of it is for show then you are big primpin'. First thing that most guys want to do is to tear ____ up at home, at work, and at play. Self defense is a major factor, which in turn lead to a feeling of self sufficiency. Everything else is icing on the cake.

So basically, the focus for men is more on what being in shape allows you to do rather than simply looking good for other people.

 

[CAhobbit]

Depends if she knows or not.

But the basis of how one will look in 25 years based on how her mother looks isn't going to be a good indicator for everyone (for some...but not all) since there will be instances where someone is adopted, takes care of themselves better than mom or they take after their father's side of the gene pool more.

 

[GrueSam]

Hey Eli,
I don't have time to read this whole thread (sorry!) but to answer your original question, my response is: Time.
And some things just must be endured, meaning the heartache. The more you actually feel the emotion and accept it, and not stuff it away somewhere pretending to be okay, it will dissipate more quickly.

Take care of yourself and make sure you're doing whatever it is that you need to do to take care of yourself. No shoulds or shouldn'ts here.

Having gone through some devastating break-ups, including my divorce, it's hard to imagine that pain ever going away. But luckily it does. And, I'm not so scared to fall in love again because, should it not work out, I know the pain will pass and I'll be okay.

 

[Master Wayne]

 

[The Ween]

Hey Eli,
I don't have time to read this whole thread (sorry!) but to answer your original question, my response is: Time.
And some things just must be endured, meaning the heartache. The more you actually feel the emotion and accept it, and not stuff it away somewhere pretending to be okay, it will dissipate more quickly.

Take care of yourself and make sure you're doing whatever it is that you need to do to take care of yourself. No shoulds or shouldn'ts here.

Having gone through some devastating break-ups, including my divorce, it's hard to imagine that pain ever going away. But luckily it does. And, I'm not so scared to fall in love again because, should it not work out, I know the pain will pass and I'll be okay.

Listen to Sammy!

Where you been, Chicaboom?

 

[GrueSam]

Hi Miss Weenie!

I've been working a ton and distracted with lots of real life stuff. And I've been going out and dating a little. Not hanging on the 'puter so much!

 

[The Ween]

Hi Miss Weenie!

I've been working a ton and distracted with lots of real life stuff. And I've been going out and dating a little. Not hanging on the 'puter so much!

It's all good! I was just worried cause you sorta became scarce after your accident.

Notice I'm on the computer all the time.

 

[KitFisto]

This may rival the "pain and anguish" thread from a few years ago.

 

[mojo customz]

weekend at the strip-------------VEGAS BABY-----------

 

[Eli26]

This may rival the "pain and anguish" thread from a few years ago.

I don't even remember that one.

 

[GrueSam]

It's all good! I was just worried cause you sorta became scarce after your accident.

Notice I'm on the computer all the time.

After the accident I was really depressed. In despair, actually, and I've never despaired before. I isolated. But I'm all better now.


Hi Eli!

 

[Eli26]

Hi Grue. I am going to fight for this one. Not many women get me and for that, I absolutely must!