Hey guys, is your wife or girlfriend supportive of your hobby?

[Voorhees27]

I'm curious, wouldn't you talk to you wife about doing something like that or would you just do it and she couldn't say anything?

If you knew my wife you'd know she'd kick some ass if I did that. That being said we compromise on almost everything, I just don't need "permission" to do anything I want to do. I have common sense. I have all of my stuff posed in the basement, where imo it belongs (the basement is pretty much movie themed, big screen, sound system, yada, yada)

So if I decided to display my stuff in the upstairs living room that'd be a different story but I wouldn't cuz I respect how she wishes to decorate the rest of the house. Plus it'd look tacky up there, anything I own.

Sorry if I took the word "allowed" out of proportion.

 

[Mr. EcKo]

I do what i want . I'm a man . And yes she likes my collection and has bought me figures , like last X-mas , she bought me my Beserker Predator . This year i will ask her to buy me another . I don't do drugs or drink so i spend money on my collection . She's cool with that . It could be worse like me spending my $ on gambling or crack

WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[darthkush]

Do you think age and culture has anything to do with it? I'm a 32 year old African American and she's a 38 year old Filipino. We've been married for 5 1/2 years and it's like she can never understand it. When it was just figures she tolerated it but now it's hot toys and she's furious anytime the box gets delivered. I pay the lion's share of the bills because I make more and I feel like if I can find thrifty ways to afford it(flex pay) what's the harm? I won't lie, we do have some debt and I pay on that too but she acts like because I don't spend every spare dime on it that I shouldn't have anything for myself. It's...hard. I love her but I told her and showed her who I was before she married me. And we have a 2.5 year old so it's not like this is easy to fix. Sigh.

I do wonder about the age and culture thing though. My wife is now knocking on forty and in her native country it's nowhere near as common to meet...nerdy men who love action figures, comics, etc. Are you guys' significant others close in age? All same race/culture?

 

[crows]

Do you think age and culture has anything to do with it? I'm a 32 year old African American and she's a 38 year old Filipino. We've been married for 5 1/2 years and it's like she can never understand it. When it was just figures she tolerated it but now it's hot toys and she's furious anytime the box gets delivered. I pay the lion's share of the bills because I make more and I feel like if I can find thrifty ways to afford it(flex pay) what's the harm? I won't lie, we do have some debt and I pay on that too but she acts like because I don't spend every spare dime on it that I shouldn't have anything for myself. It's...hard. I love her but I told her and showed her who I was before she married me. And we have a 2.5 year old so it's not like this is easy to fix. Sigh.

I do wonder about the age and culture thing though. My wife is now knocking on forty and in her native country it's nowhere near as common to meet...nerdy men who love action figures, comics, etc. Are you guys' significant others close in age? All same race/culture?

dude, pay off your freaking debt and THEN she wont have an excuse. sorry but shes right to worry.

specially if thats her ONLY reason to get mad at boxes.

 

[svander]

My wife supports it wholeheartedly. Our master bedroom headboard has four detolf cases full of hot toys. Her idea.

 

[subzro]

Mine supports it as well. She thinks of display ideas and asks if i think certain figures will get made so they can be added to the collection (she asks about Drax a lot). She even shows my collection to her friends.

 

[crows]

My wife supports it wholeheartedly. Our master bedroom headboard has four detolf cases full of hot toys. Her idea.

Mine supports it as well. She thinks of display ideas and asks if i think certain figures will get made so they can be added to the collection (she asks about Drax a lot). She even shows my collection to her friends.

are you guys equally interested and as enthusiastic with their stuff and hobbies as well?

 

[svander]

Of course. Our hobbies are very similar though. We both are into cars (that's how we met). We both love movies. We both like similar things. My interest in 1/6 scale action figures and her love of pop culture mesh very well. She also has a good eye for design and decoration that has enabled me to display my toys in a way we can both enjoy them. I'm very fortunate in that sense.

It's also not my first time down this road though. I've been on the other side of this and things don't work out in the end.

I think ultimately people should have common interests to be a successful couple. Or if not, at least support them in their interests. The opposite only breeds resentment and distance between a couple.

 

[Lejuan]

Do you think age and culture has anything to do with it?

No

dude, pay off your freaking debt and THEN she wont have an excuse. sorry but shes right to worry.

specially if thats her ONLY reason to get mad at boxes.

 

[Aliaz]

Or if not, at least support them in their interests. The opposite only breeds resentment and distance between a couple.

This is the truth!

My fiancee has no interest in collecting, still she is supportive of it, because it's something I love to do, and a big part of who I am.

 

[Mad Old Lu]

Do you think age and culture has anything to do with it? I'm a 32 year old African American and she's a 38 year old Filipino. We've been married for 5 1/2 years and it's like she can never understand it. When it was just figures she tolerated it but now it's hot toys and she's furious anytime the box gets delivered. I pay the lion's share of the bills because I make more and I feel like if I can find thrifty ways to afford it(flex pay) what's the harm? I won't lie, we do have some debt and I pay on that too but she acts like because I don't spend every spare dime on it that I shouldn't have anything for myself. It's...hard. I love her but I told her and showed her who I was before she married me. And we have a 2.5 year old so it's not like this is easy to fix. Sigh.

I do wonder about the age and culture thing though. My wife is now knocking on forty and in her native country it's nowhere near as common to meet...nerdy men who love action figures, comics, etc. Are you guys' significant others close in age? All same race/culture?

Your wife is right. Pay off your debts first and then enjoy buying toys. Everyone will be much happier, especially you because then your wife won't have anything to complain about.

My wife is supportive to an extent. She sees how happy it makes me and likes to see me happy. But she does not like seeing all the figures. She would be much happier if we had some kind of closet we could close up from view for them! We both actually collect a lot of “stuff” like antiques, so our house is full of our collections displayed. But, and I have to agree, there’s a difference between seeing a collection of antique cameras and a collection of pop culture action figures. So I can’t really fault her. It’s just I’m willing to overlook the visual clutter of the action figures because they have an emotional connection to me. Right now they’re in a corner shelf in my office, so they are mostly out of the way and out of view from company. And I’m happy because I have them all in front of me when I’m working at my desk at home.

 

[Mr. Green]

Meet in the middle. Both make compromise and be reasonable and be realistic. There is no problem unless we make it so.

 

[The Ween]

dude, pay off your freaking debt and THEN she wont have an excuse. sorry but shes right to worry.

specially if thats her ONLY reason to get mad at boxes.

It depends on the debt. If it's car and/or house payments, then as long as your bills are paid, then why not? If your debt is under control, then you should be able to spend for "unnecessary" things.

Most people have some form of debt. As long as it doesn't get out of hand, you'll be fine.

 

[crows]

It depends on the debt. If it's car and/or house payments, then as long as your bills are paid, then why not? If your debt is under control, then you should be able to spend for "unnecessary" things.

Most people have some form of debt. As long as it doesn't get out of hand, you'll be fine.

that's true but then the wife wouldn't be so worried I guess is what I thought was implied.

 

[ApeManRyan]

My girlfriend is highly supportive of my hobby. She loves seeing me happy and she knows how important it is to me since I've had this hobby for a long time. No matter what the situation is she said she wants me to keep my hobby and passion even when at times I just want to up and quit it since it drains my money sometimes. Financially I'm well as is she and she has told me numerous times to not worry about it. For damn sakes she even made an account on here to find some stuff for my collection. She's a keeper and I think she is the one.

 

[Number Six]

My girlfriend is absolutely cool with my collection, she knows that this stuff make me happy, and so she is happy too, she also bought me some figures for my birthday, or Christmas. She prefers statues when I prefer hot toys, but she also likes Sci-fi and superheroes, so she is ok when I buy dc or marvel figures. Of course she doesn't like all my figures, for example she hates my Predator, because she prefers the Xenomorphs, but overall she likes my collection. The only thing that she doesn't like very much is when I buy a figure and then sell it after few weeks, she tells me that sometimes I need to think better before buy something, and I must say that she's absolutely right!


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[filip629]

Your wife is right. Pay off your debts first and then enjoy buying toys. Everyone will be much happier, especially you because then your wife won't have anything to complain about.

As if a wife needs a reason to complain. On a serious note though, if anyone has major credit card debt, PAY IT OFF. It's beyond ridiculous to give any bank anywhere near 20% or more in interest payments. Tackle that issue head on so she can complain about something else. At least this way a family is more financially sound.

 

[filip629]

Do you think age and culture has anything to do with it? I'm a 32 year old African American and she's a 38 year old Filipino. We've been married for 5 1/2 years and it's like she can never understand it.

I can't speak to culture. I married a woman who's the same nationality as I am. However, I am 12 years older than my wife. We get along fine because we have common interests and cultural backgrounds. However, she has zero interest in my hobby. At first she would complain about packages getting delivered and ask me how much I spent on each piece. I didn't mind telling her but I found that she was becoming more and more irritated every time a package would show up. So, I finally had enough and put my foot down. No more talk about statues and don't ask me how much I paid for them. She wasn't happy but got over it and now it's a non-issue. I realize this attitude won't work in every relationship but it does in mine.

The reason my wife has no reason to complain is because I've always been pretty smart with my money. I have provided for our family and my wife has been a stay at home mom for 7 years. My youngest kid is now in school so she did go back to work last year but she didn't have to. The bottom line is my family is well cared for and this is really the only hobby I have ( I collect statues by the way).

One thing I've learned through the years is that if your girl isn't happy that you collect, that won't change. Not ever. She may complain less or turn a blind eye, but if you told her you are done with the hobby and sell off all your pieces, she'll jump for joy. My wife is only indifferent because I told her I had enough. In my case that worked. For other people it won't. For those peeps, this hobby could become a constant struggle with their significant other throughout a relationship.

 

[david83ec]

My wife is so supportive. I always try to not overdoing my hobby and pay a lot of attention to what she likes. I believe it is how a couple should live. Both can have their own hobbies without making either one one them more or less important. She even push me to buy statues/ figures before they are sold out so I won't be complaining and over paying

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[filip629]

My wife is so supportive. I always try to not overdoing my hobby and pay a lot of attention to what she likes. I believe it is how a couple should live. Both can have their own hobbies without making either one one them more or less important. She even push me to buy statues/ figures before they are sold out so I won't be complaining and over paying

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That's AWESOME and the best case scenario for any collector. Unfortunately, not every collector finds someone like that. I'm pretty sure it's safe to say that you are in the minority. Most collectors have to negotiate this hobby with their significant others.