Unconditional love, is it real?

[GrueSam]

I totally agree with Anzik.

If by 'unconditional love' you mean a warm fuzzy feeling no matter what the other person does, then I think it's only "real" to the unbalanced person loving the "murderer".

If by 'unconditional love' you mean compassion *without* necessarily condoning the "murderous" actions, then yeah, I suppose it's real.

 

[pixletwin]

I totally agree with Anzik.

If by 'unconditional love' you mean a warm fuzzy feeling no matter what the other person does, then I think it's only "real" to the unbalanced person loving the "murderer".

If by 'unconditional love' you mean compassion *without* necessarily condoning the "murderous" actions, then yeah, I suppose it's real.

I understand what Rory means by change though.

 

[El Roranous]

I totally agree with Anzik.

If by 'unconditional love' you mean a warm fuzzy feeling no matter what the other person does, then I think it's only "real" to the unbalanced person loving the "murderer".

If by 'unconditional love' you mean compassion *without* necessarily condoning the "murderous" actions, then yeah, I suppose it's real.

Makes sense.

But at this point as usual, when I end up talking so much the lines become so blurred it's hard to know where I stand. It's like a 360 degree view- no one is truly wrong or right. Just another example of this issue being gray for me.

 

[GrueSam]

I don't like to be static and I think change and growth are healthy. In context with unconditional love I think it has the possibility of being prohibiting. I don't expect things to remain the same and when they do I am very skeptical about it.

But Rory, if a couple truly love, trust and respect one another, then the two can change and grow without tearing the relationship apart.

 

[pixletwin]

But Rory, if a couple truly love, trust and respect one another, then the two can change and grow without tearing the relationship apart.

Again,

 

[El Roranous]

But Rory, if a couple truly love, trust and respect one another, then the two can change and grow without tearing the relationship apart.

That's the goal! I just think they have to grow together and accept each other for what they are and what they have become. Almost like continually falling in love over and over again. I think it can happen and I am glad that it does happen.

My GF and I have been together for almost 7 years now and I feel as though our bond is stronger than ever but I don't want to depend on this love or believe that it will always be there. I wish and hope that it will always be there for me but I know life doesn't always work out the way we want it to.

 

[Bannister]

Just another example of this issue being gray for me.

I pretty much agree that it is gray. You could say you love someone unconditionally, but if it is never really tested, you can never know if it is actually the case.

 

[Bannister]

That's the goal! I just think they have to grow together and accept each other for what they are and what they have become.

Do you accept me for a what I am?

 

[pixletwin]

That's the goal! I just think they have to grow together and accept each other for what they are and what they have become. Almost like continually falling in love over and over again. I think it can happen and I am glad that it does happen.

I have seldom read a better definition of that kind of unconditional love. OH the irony.

 

[Bannister]

I have seldom read a better definition of that kind of unconditional love. OH the irony.

 

[GrueSam]

That's the goal! I just think they have to grow together and accept each other for what they are and what they have become. Almost like continually falling in love over and over again. I think it can happen and I am glad that it does happen.

My GF and I have been together for almost 7 years now and I feel as though our bond is stronger than ever but I don't want to depend on this love or believe that it will always be there. I wish and hope that it will always be there for me but I know life doesn't always work out the way we want it to.

That is SO cool that you just wrote that because, IMO, once a partner believes it will always be there no matter what, the relationship is taken for granted and resentments are sure to follow.

But! if both cherish each other and what they've got and treat each other with such gratitude, now then you have the basis for a true long term commited relationship. IMO

 

[GrueSam]

By the way...

I voted No.


And now I gotta go to work!

 

[El Roranous]

I have seldom read a better definition of that kind of unconditional love. OH the irony.

Maybe it's all a matter of definitions. I view unconditional love as a love that is unending no matter what. The love between me an my GF is conditional in the fact that our growths have to be compatible. If she decides to move on without me, maybe be with someone else or even if she decides she wants to become a killer then that leaves me the odd man out and I would have to move on. I think that I would still care about her and I could even understand her reasons for changing but I don't believe the same love would be there, if any at all.

Does that makes sense. I make sense in my own head.

 

[Bannister]

Maybe it's all a matter of definitions.

I think you hit the nail on the head there.

 

[YoNoSe]

Maybe it's all a matter of definitions.

There it is.
There is a thing called love and a lot of other things that are degrees of fondness, infatuation, and familiarity. To me love is unconditional by definition. If it requires stipulations love is not the word I would use for it. I do not believe it conquers all or is exclusive from all other feelings, but it will always be there regardless of circumstance.

BTW - 7 years with your gf - congratulations on a long healthy relationship!

 

[pixletwin]

I think you hit the nail on the head there.

Yup.

If anyone believes love is something that is static and unchanging they are dead wrong. As John Lennon said "Love is a flower" that you have to tend and nourish.

 

[Bannister]

Yup.

If anyone believes love is something that is static and unchanging they are dead wrong. As John Lennon said "Love is a flower" that you have to tend and nourish.

Will you tend and nourish my flower?love

 

[pixletwin]

Yes my little daffodil.

 

[Voorhees27]

I have Unconditional love for Big Mac's would you like proof?

 

[YoNoSe]

Yup.

If anyone believes love is something that is static and unchanging they are dead wrong. As John Lennon said "Love is a flower" that you have to tend and nourish.

Yeah, but look who he ended up with.